Ukuthola amagama afanele okubonga ubaba ngayo yonke imizamo yakhe akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi, ikakhulukazi lapho imizwa ijula. Ngokuvamile, sidweba isikhala esingenalutho sizama ukufingqa iminyaka yesiqondiso, ukwesekwa okungantengantengi, kanye nezikhathi ezabiwe emigqeni embalwa nje efanelana nekhadi noma kumyalezo wombhalo. Kodwa-ke, isihluthulelo sisebuqothweni nasekukhetheni ukuthi yini echaza ngempela ubuhlobo bethu naye, kungaba ngokumncoma noma ngokuhlekisa.
Njengoba kusanda izinkundla zokuxhumana kanye nezinhlelo zokusebenza zemiyalezo, indlela esigubha ngayo uSuku Lobaba ishintshe kakhulu kulo lonke elaseYurophu. Ukubingelela okulula nokusemthethweni akusanele; manje sifuna ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo, ngokushesha nangendlela ephumelelayo. Imiyalezo eyenzelwe wena uqobo isibe yindlela ethandwayo, evumela indodana noma indodakazi ngayinye ukuthola indawo efanayo lapho izinkumbulo zobuntwana kanye nezeluleko zanamuhla zihlangana khona ukuze kuhlonishwe inhloko yomndeni.
Imisho ethinta inhliziyo kababa
Kulabo abafuna ukuthinta imizwa, akukho okudlula ukugqamisa indima eqondisayo edlalwa yilaba bantu. Ukutshela ubaba ukuthi uyiqhawe ngaphandle kokudinga ingubo kuyinto yakudala engapheli, ngoba ivuma ukuba khona kwakhe njalo ngezikhathi zobuthakathaka. Kubalulekile ukumkhumbuza ukuthi ifa lakhe aliyona nje impahla ebonakalayo , kodwa uphawu olungapheli alushiya ezinhliziyweni zalabo abamzungezile njalo lapho enikela ngokusemandleni akhe.
Abazali abaningi bebe yisisekelo esiqinile esakhele phezu kwaso izimpilo zethu, futhi ukubabonga ngalokho kuzinza kuyisenzo esihle kakhulu. Ungabatshela ukuthi, yize umhlaba ngezinye izikhathi ungaba yindawo emnyama, izimfundiso zabo ziyisibani esisiqondisa njalo ekhaya. Akukhona ukusebenzisa amagama amnandi, kodwa mayelana nokuvuma ukuthi indlela yabo yokusithanda, ngisho nalapho singabenzelanga kube lula, yiyo esenze saba yilokho esiyikho namuhla.
Emsebenzini wethu wansuku zonke, ngezinye izikhathi siyakhohlwa ukusho ukuthi sibazisa kangakanani, ngakho namuhla yisizathu esifanele sokusho konke. Umyalezo okhuluma ngokuthi njalo ekuseni, ngokuvuka bayondla umndeni, basifundisa isifundo sokuphila , ubaluleke kakhulu kunanoma iyiphi into ethengwa esitolo. Ekugcineni, okusalayo yilowo muzwa wokubonga ngokuba nomuntu okholelwa kithi kuyilapho thina singazikholelwa.
Ngisho nakulabo abangasekho ngokwenyama, inkumbulo isalokhu iyindlela enamandla yokugubha. Ukunikeza amazwi ambalwa ezulwini noma ukugcina igama labo liphila ngezindaba zomndeni kuyindlela yokuthi uthando lukababa luhlala njalo futhi alunalo ibanga noma isikhathi. Izindinganiso abazifake kithi ziyaqhubeka ziphila kuzo zonke izinqumo esizenzayo nangendlela esinakekela ngayo ezethu manje.
Imiyalezo emifushane neyangempela yokuphumelela ku-WhatsApp
Uma ukhetha ukuqonde ngqo ephuzwini kodwa ngesitayela, imishwana emifushane iyindlela engcono kakhulu yokuqinisekisa ukuthi umyalezo wakho awulahleki lapho ushintshashintsha. Inketho ekhangayo ukumkhumbuza ukuthi ukuba nawe njengendodana kuyisipho esingcono kakhulu impilo ebingamnikeza sona—ukuhlekisa okuhlala kuletha ukumamatheka. Ungakhetha futhi okuthile okuthambile, njengokumtshela ukuthi ayikho incwadi yemiyalelo yokuphila, kodwa ngenhlanhla eyakho ize nobaba omuhle kakhulu.
Kubazali abafana kakhulu nabangane, imiyalezo eqokomisa ubungani kanye nobudlelwano ivame ukusebenza izimangaliso. Izinkulumo ezifana nokuthi "isiphetho sikwenze umndeni, kodwa ukuxhumana kwakho kukwenze waba abangane bomphefumulo" zibonisa ubuhlobo besimanje nobuseduze. Into ebalulekile ukuthi umyalezo unomuzwa wemvelo ofana nalabo ababelana ngamahlaya angaphakathi kanye nesikhathi sokuphumula ngaphandle kwesidingo semisebenzi eyisicefe.
Ezweni lapho konke kuhamba ngokushesha kangaka, ukuthola umlayezo othi nje bayisisekelo sempilo yakho futhi inkanyezi yakho eqondisayo ingabakhanyisa usuku lwabo lonke. Ungawadeleli amandla okubonga okusuka enhliziyweni , ngoba lelo gama elincane lihlanganisa yonke inhlonipho esiba nayo ngabo. Kuyindlela eqondile yokuvuma ukuthi, ngaphandle kokusekelwa kwabo, uhambo beluyoba nzima kakhulu futhi lube nzima kakhulu.
Ungathatha ngisho nethuba lokumthumelela isigqi esilula noma ukuqhathanisa okuhlekisayo ngendlela aziphethe ngayo ekhaya noma emsebenzini. Ukumtshela ukuthi ungumlwi ongakhathali onenhliziyo enhle kufingqa kahle ingqikithi yamadoda amaningi anikela ngakho konke anakho nsuku zonke. Ekugcineni, okuhle ukuthi uxhumana namazwi akho futhi uyazi ukuthi uthathe isikhashana sokucabanga ngaye kuphela.
Ukuhlonipha umzamo kanye nogogo nomkhulu abashiya uphawu lwabo
Asikwazi ukukhohlwa lezo zinsika zomndeni eziye, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, zathola isihloko esisha: ogogo nomkhulu. Enye yezinto ezinhle kakhulu ongazisho kubo ukuthi into engcono kakhulu ngokuba nabo njengobaba ukuthi manje abazukulu babo bangabajabulela njengogogo nomkhulu. Kungumjikelezo oyigugu ogqamisa ukuqhubeka kothando nokuhlakanipha kuzo zonke izizukulwane, beqaphela ukubaluleka kwabo komlando emndenini.
Abazali abasebenzayo, labo abazinikele ekwakheni amaphupho ngesibonelo somzamo oqhubekayo, bafanelwe ukuqashelwa okukhethekile. Ukuzinikela kwabo buthule ukuqinisekisa ukuthi asiswele lutho kuwubufakazi obukhulu bothando obukhona. Ngakho-ke, ukubakhumbuza ukuthi izenzo zabo zazikhuluma kakhulu kunamazwi kuyindlela yokuqinisekisa ukuzinikela nokuphila konke enhlalakahleni yemindeni yabo.
Kulabo abaye baziphatha njengobaba ngaphandle kokuba yizihlobo zegazi, njengabalume noma abafowabo abadala, ukuhalalisela kufanele kube okusuka enhliziyweni. Ububaba akuyona nje indaba yemvelo, kodwa futhi indaba yokuba khona, ukunakekelwa, nothando olungenabugovu eminyakeni edlule. Uma othile ebelapho ukuzokwelapha amanxeba akho noma ukukuqondisa ebumnyameni, lowo muntu unelungelo elingaphezu kokuthola udumo ngalolu suku olukhetheke kangaka kithi sonke.
Ukwenza ukubingelela kwakho kube ngokwakho ngendaba ethile yasebuntwaneni bakho kuzokunikeza ukuthinta okuyingqayizivele okungekho nkulumo evamile engahambisana nakho. Ukukhumbula lolo hambo, leso sifundo owasifunda ngenkathi ulungisa okuthile ekhaya, noma ukusekelwa kwabo phakathi naleyo nkinga yokuqala yezemfundo kuzodala ukuxhumana okusheshayo. Le mininingwane emincane yiyo eguqula iholide lezentengiselwano libe umkhosi wangempela wokuphila kanye nezibopho ezisigcina sixhumene.
Ukugubha uSuku Lobaba, empeleni, kuyithuba elihle lokuma nokwazisa labo abebeyisiphephelo sethu. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ngenkulumo ethinta inhliziyo, umlayezo ohlekisayo we-WhatsApp, noma isikhumbuzo sesibonelo sokuqina abasibekile, into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthi uthando luthatha indawo ephambili. Ekugcineni, akunandaba ukuthi umkhosi uyahlukahluka kuye ngezwe noma ukuthi isipho sibiza kakhulu noma siphansi, ngoba okuhlala njalo enkumbulweni kababa ukwazi ukuthi izingane zakhe ziyazisa ukuba khona kwakhe futhi zimthanda ngamandla afanayo abelokhu ezinakekela ngawo.