Kuyiqiniso elingenakuphikwa ukuthi isikhathi siyahamba, kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi okuhlangenwe nakho kwethu kwangaphambilini akusasithonyi. Ukuthi singobani namuhla kuwumphumela oqondile womlando wethu , uchungechunge lwempumelelo, amaphutha, kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho okuye kwabumba ubuntu bethu. Nakuba okunye okuhlangenwe nakho kusifundise izifundo ezinonya, okunye kushiye uphawu olujulile, uhlobo lwesilonda esingabonakali esiqhubeka nokunquma indlela esisabela ngayo ekuphileni ngaphandle kokuthi siqaphele.
Ngezinye izikhathi inkinga akuyona into ebuhlungu kakhulu, kodwa kunalokho yilezo zinkolelo esazithola ebuntwaneni ezisebenza njengezinsimbi, zisivimbela ukuthi siqhubekele phambili. Ukubheka emuva akuyona indlela yokuzijwayeza ukuzibulala, kodwa isidingo sokucabanga , ukukhulula imithwalo , nokususa "imfucuza yemizwa" ethatha indawo ebuchosheni bethu, okusivumela ukuthi samukele ngokugcwele isikhathi samanje futhi siyeke ukulwa nezipoki zesikhathi esidlule.
Lapho okwedlule kuzwakala sengathi kusesikhathini samanje
Nakuba kungenakwenzeka ukusula okwenzekile noma ukushintsha izinqumo ezibekwe eceleni, sinalo ikhono lokushintsha umbono esibheka ngawo lezo zenzakalo . Uma sizwa ubuhlungu obukhulu, imizwa yethu ivame ukuthatha isondo, ifiphaze isizathu futhi isenze sibone kuphela izici ezimbi zesimo. Lokhu kuvimbela ngokomzwelo kusifaka emjikelezweni wentukuthelo, ukudabuka, noma ukungabi namandla okuthi, uma kungaphathwa, kube yisithiyo esingenakunqotshwa.
Uma sihluleka ukucubungula okwenzekile, okwedlule akunyamalali; kuyazifihla. Kubonakala njengokwesaba okungenangqondo, ukungazethembi okuqhubekayo, noma ukusola kwangaphakathi . Lawa amanxeba angokomzwelo angakapholi futhi athinta ngqo ukuzethemba, adala inzondo engalimaza ubudlelwano bethu nabanye, futhi okubi nakakhulu, nathi ngokwethu.
Ukubonakaliswa kobuhlungu obungaxazululwanga
Amanxeba angokomzwelo awabonakali ngeso lenyama, kodwa ayakhala ngokuziphatha kwethu. Esinye sezibonakaliso ezicacile ubunzima bokuthemba abanye ; labo abakhashelwe bavame ukuhlala beqaphile, begwema ukusondelana ngokomzwelo ngenxa yokwesaba ukuphinde balimale. Ngokufanayo, kuvamile ukuwela ogibeni lokuzenyeza, ukuzizwa ungafaneleki noma ukufuna ngokuphuthumayo ukuqinisekiswa abanye ukuze uzizwe ubalulekile.
- Ukwesaba ukushiywa: Kungasiholela ekubeni sibe nozwela ngokweqile ukuze sigcine abantu, noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, ukunqoba isizungu okokuqala siziqhelelanise ukuze sigweme ubuhlungu bokwenqatshwa.
- Amaphethini aphindayo: Kuvamile kakhulu ukuzizwa ukhangwa abantu abangasazisi, bezama ngokungazi ukuxazulula lokho kuhlukumezeka okudala ezimweni ezifanayo.
- Ukusabela okungafani: Ukuzwa intukuthelo enkulu noma ukudabuka ngento encane ngokuvamile kuyisibonakaliso sokuthi isilonda sokuqala sesivuselelwe.
- Ukuzicekela phansi: Ukuhlehlisa imigomo noma ukuyeka amaphrojekthi ngenxa yokwesaba ukwehluleka noma ngoba sikholelwa ukuthi asifanelwe impumelelo.
Ngisho nomzimba uyakhokha. Ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo okungapheli kubonakala ngokomzimba, okuholela ezinkingeni zokugaya ukudla, ukuqwasha, ukucindezeleka kwemisipha, noma ikhanda elibuhlungu . Kuyindlela yomzimba yokusitshela ukuthi kukhona okungakakhishwa futhi kudinga ukunakekelwa okuphuthumayo.
Indlela eya ekwelapheni ngokomzwelo
Ukuphulukisa akusho ukuthi kufana nokukhohlwa. Ukukhohlwa kuyinqubo yezinto eziphilayo noma yezifo; ukuphulukisa kuyinqubo yengqondo. Kusho ukuguqula incazelo yalokho okuhlangenwe nakho ukuze, lapho ukukhumbula, kungabi bikho ubuhlungu, kodwa kufunde. Akukhona ngokusula ifayela lememori, kodwa ngokususa icala layo elibi ukuze inkumbulo ingabi yisikhali esisilimazayo.
Amathuluzi asebenzayo kanye nokwelashwa
Ukuze kususwe ubuchopho kulezi zinkinga, kunezindlela zobungcweti ezisheshisa inqubo. I-hypnosis yezokwelapha, ikakhulukazi i-regression , ivumela ukufinyelela kokungazi lutho ukuthola umsuka womonakalo nokushintsha umbono ohambisanayo wemizwa. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, i-hypnosis ye-Ericksonian ilungele kakhulu ukubhidliza lezo zinkolelo ezisibekela ifa ezisilawulayo.
Enye indlela esezingeni eliphezulu yi-EMDR, esiza ubuchopho ukuthi buphinde bucubungule ukulimala futhi bukugcine kahle , kususe ukucindezeleka okuhambisana nakho. Ngokufanayo, ukuqaphela kusiqeqesha ukuba siqaphele imizwa ngaphandle kokunqotshwa yiyo, okusivumela ukuthi samukele okuhlangenwe nakho sisendaweni ephephile neyokuthula.
Izinyathelo ezisebenzayo zokubuyisa inhlalakahle yakho
Uma ufuna ukuqala uhambo lwakho oluya ekwelapheni, kubalulekile ukulandela imephu yendlela eqondile. Okokuqala, kufanele wamukele inxeba ngaphandle kokwahlulela , uyeke ukusho ukuthi "akukubi kangako." Ukuvuma ubuhlungu kuyindlela kuphela yokubuphulukisa. Ngemuva kwalokho, kuyasiza ukuhlola umsuka walo nokuhlaziya ukuthi yiziphi imikhuba yamanje (njengokuzihlukanisa noma intukuthelo) ehlobene naleso senzakalo.
Kubalulekile ukuzinika imvume yokuzizwa . Iningi lethu lizama ukuba namandla ngaso sonke isikhathi, kodwa ukucindezela izinyembezi noma intukuthelo kwenza inxeba liqhume. Kuphela uma sivumela imizwa igeleze lapho siqala ukuyikhulula khona. Yilapho intethelelo ingena khona, hhayi njengokuqinisekiswa kokulimala okutholakele, kodwa njengesenzo sokuphana kuwe ukuze uzikhulule emaketangeni enzondo.
Ukuze kuhlanganiswe le nqubo, kutuswa ukuthi:
- Yamukela umqondo wokukhula: Yeka ukuzibona njengesisulu bese uqala ukuzibona njengosindile ofunde okuthile okubalulekile.
- Zijwayeze ukuzizwela: Ukuqonda ukuthi ukuphulukiswa akulona iqiniso nokuthi ezinye izinsuku zizoba ngcono kunezinye.
- Ukucabanga ngekusasa: Ukucabanga ngempilo engenalo lowo mthwalo wemizwa kusebenza njengesikhuthazo esinamandla sokuqhubeka.
- Thola ukwesekwa: Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kubangani, umndeni, noma, ngokufanelekile, udokotela wezokwelapha ochwepheshe ukuze aqondise inqubo.
Ukuhlanganisa la mathuluzi kuvumela umuntu ukuthi ayeke ukulwa nesikhathi esidlule bese eqala ukwamukela isikhathi samanje. Ekugcineni, lolu hambo lokuzihlola lusinika amandla okuqina avuselelwe kanye nokuthula kwangaphakathi okungaxhomekile ekungabikho kwezinkinga, kodwa kunalokho ekhonweni lethu lokuzilawula ngaphandle kokuzivumela ukuba zisibhubhise. Ngokukhulula umthwalo wesikhathi esidlule, sivula amandla ethu eqiniso futhi siphinde sithole ikhono lokujabulela ngempela lapha namanje.
