Uma sikhuluma ngesimo lapho umuntu eqaphela khona amakhono akhe, kanye nokulinganiselwa kwakhe, leli gama livame ukusetshenziswa. Ubuhlakani bomuntu.
Ngokusho kwabaphenyi abanjengoHoward Gardner, umuntu ngamunye unezinhlobo ezithile zobuhlakani ezibavumela qhubekela phambili empilweni, ezenza kube lula ukuthi axazulule izinkinga ezithile futhi ezimenza akwazi nokuziphatha ngendlela ethile.
Ubuhlakani bomuntu ingomunye okwazi ukukhomba ikhwalithi ebonakalayo lokho umuntu angaba nakho. Okusho ukuthi, ikhono umuntu analo lokuhlola ubukhona bakhe kanye nengqondo yakhe, baqonde umhlaba wabo wangaphakathiukuqaphela imizwa yabo, izisusa, kanye nezindinganiso zabo, nokusebenzisa lonke lolo lwazi ukwenza izinqumo ezingcono.
Kuyini ngempela ukuhlakanipha kwangaphakathi komuntu?
Ngaphakathi kwenkolelo-mbono kaGardner yobuhlakani obuningi, ubuhlakani bangaphakathi komuntu buyiqoqo lamakhono asivumela ukuthi ukwakha imodeli engokoqobo nenembile yokuthi singobani futhi usebenzise leyo modeli ukuze isebenze kahle empilweni yansuku zonke.
Kusho ukuthi amandla wokungena ngaphakathi (Ukubheka ngaphakathi) ukuze siqonde imizwa yethu, imicabango, izifiso, izinkolelo, kanye nezindlela zokuziphatha. Ngokungafani nobuhlakani bokuxhumana nabantu, obugxile ekuqondeni abanye, ubuhlakani bangaphakathi komuntu buyinqubo yangaphakathi eqondiswe ukuqonda nokuphatha wena.
Abantu abanobuhlakani obuphezulu bavame ukuba beqaphela imizwa yabo nokuthi lokhu kuthonya kanjani ukuziphatha kwabo. Lokhu kubasiza ukuba balawule ukusabela kwabo, bahlale bezolile ezimweni ezinzima, futhi benze izinqumo ezicatshangelwe kahle nezingenamawala.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, lokhu kuhlakanipha akuhlanganisi nje kuphela izwe lemizwa, kodwa futhi nolwazi lomuntu siqu. izindinganiso, imigomo, kanye nezisusa ezijulileLabo abathuthukisa lokhu bavame ukuba nombono ocacile ngalokho abakufunayo empilweni kanye nendlela abafisa ukuyilandela.
Ngamafuphi, ukuhlakanipha kwangaphakathi komuntu kuyikhono lokwenza ukwazana, ukwamukelana, ukulawulana nokuqondisana ngokuhambisana kwangaphakathi.
Izingxenye eziyinhloko zobuhlakani bangaphakathi komuntu siqu
Ukuhlakanipha kwangaphakathi komuntu akuyona into eyodwa, kodwa kuyiqoqo lezinqubo ezixhumene. Phakathi kwezingxenye ezibaluleke kakhulu yilezi ezilandelayo:
1. Ukuzazi ngokomzwelo
Kuyikhono loku ukuqaphela nokuqamba imizwa yakhoUkuqonda ukuthi yini ezibangela leso simo nokuthi zithonya kanjani izenzo zethu kubalulekile. Abantu abanokuzazi kahle ngokomzwelo bayazi ukuthi badabukile, bakhathazekile, noma bathukuthele futhi bangawubona ngokucacile umthombo waleso simo.
2. Ukuzilawula
Uma sesikuqaphela lokho esikuzwayo, ikhono lokwenza kanjalo phatha lezo zimo zangaphakathiUkuzithiba kuhilela ukulawula izifiso, hhayi ukusabela ngokuzenzakalelayo, ukukhetha impendulo engcono kakhulu, nokuhlala uzolile ezimweni ezinzima ngaphandle kokucindezela imizwa, kodwa kunalokho ukubahambisa ngendlela enempilo.
3. Isisusa sangaphakathi
Kubhekisela ekhonweni lokuqonda ukuthi yini esishukumisayo ngempela. Abantu abanobuhlakani obuphezulu bangaphakathi komuntu bathembele ku- isisusa esijulile nesizinzileAbancikile kakhulu emiklomelweni yangaphandle kodwa bancikile kakhulu ezindinganisweni zabo, ezithakazelweni zabo, kanye nasenjongweni yabo siqu. Yingakho bephikelela futhi beqinile lapho bebhekene nobunzima.
4. Ukuzicabangela komuntu siqu kanye nokuzihlola
Kuwumkhuba wokuthi buyekeza izinqumo zakho, ukuziphatha kwakho kanye nemiphumela ukuze ufunde kokuhlangenwe nakho. Ukuzindla komuntu siqu kukuvumela ukuthi ulungise inkambo yakho, ubone amaphutha, uqaphele impumelelo, futhi uthuthukise njalo ukuzazi kwakho.
5. Ukuqwashisa ngezindinganiso, izinkolelo kanye nemigomo
Ukuqonda izindinganiso nezinkolelo zakho kubalulekile ekwenzeni izinqumo eziqondakalayo. Labo abathuthukisa lobu buhlakani bavame ukuba nezimpendulo ezicacile zemibuzo efana nalokhu: "Yini ebalulekile kimi?", "Hlobo luni lwempilo engifuna ukuyiphila?" noma “Yini engingafuni ukuyixoxisana?”. Lokhu kucaca kwangaphakathi kuvumela umuntu ukuthi enze izinqumo ezihambisana nobuntu bakhe.
Izici eziyinhloko
Esinye sezici eziyinhloko zalolu hlobo lobuhlakani ukuthi lunikeza ikhono lokuba ngaphakathi ukuxhumana okujulile naweNakuba lokhu kungase kubonakale kuyinto evamile kubantu abaningi, okuchaza ngempela lokhu kuhlakanipha ukuthi abantu abanakho... baningi kakhulu abakwazi ukuxhumana kalula nengaphakathi laboKodwa abakutholi kulula ukukwenza ngengaphandle.
Naba labo abanalolu hlobo lobuhlakani njengobuhlakani babo obuthuthuke kakhulu Bavame ukuba namahloni futhi bathuleBavame ukuthula ngamaqembu, bebuka futhi becubungula okwenzekayo ngaphambi kokungenelela. Bathanda izindawo ezizolile nezikhanyayo kunezindawo ezinomsindo.
Lokhu akusho ukuthi abakwazi ukwakha ubudlelwano obuhlala njalo nabanye abantu, kodwa kunalokho ngeke kube lula kubo njengoba kunjalo kubantu abanobuhlakani bokuxhumana nabantu. ngoba akuyona into eza kuqala empilweni yakheInto ebaluleke kakhulu kumuntu ohlakaniphile ngaphakathi komuntu ukwakha ubuhlobo obuhlala njalo nobuphumelelayo naye, ukuziqonda nokuzihlonipha, nokwenza ngokuvumelana nemizwa yakhe.
Lokhu akusho ukuthi abakwazi ukuba nezinye izinhlobo zobuhlakani, kodwa kunalokho lolu hlobo oluthile luzoqondisa izenzo zabo kakhulu, njengoba luyilona oluvelele kumuntu ngamunye. Ngokuvamile luhambisana ne- amakhono amahle okuzigxeka kanye nokuzithiba komuntu siqu.
Ngokuvamile, izifundo eziphatha lolu hlobo lobuhlakani zivame ukuthola indlela yokwenza umsebenzi wazo nokuxazulula izinkinga zodwa, ngaphandle kokulamula komuntu wesithathu, futhi ngale ndlela bathola imiphumela engcono kunokusebenza eqenjini. Kuyaziwa futhi ukuthi labo abaphatha lobu buhlakani bathambekele ekuthintaneni kakhulu nemizwa yabo, nokuthi bangabantu abazwelayo ababaziyo ubuhlungu nosizi, kepha lokho Ngesikhathi esifanayo, bayakwazi ukuzwa injabulo enkulu kanye nokwaneliseka lapho bethuthukela emigomweni yabo.
Ngokusho kukaGardner, ukuba nalolu hlakanipho njengesici esivelele kuyisizathu sokuba abantu bafune imisebenzi ebavumela ukuthi bahlale becabanga njalo, isibonelo: ifilosofi, isayensi yezengqondo, isayensi yezenhlalo, i-anthropology, phakathi kweminye imisebenzi eminingi lapho ukuqonda ingqondo yomuntu kanye nencazelo yokuphila kudlala indima ebalulekile.
Abantu abanalobu buhlakani bazimele futhi banezabo... ukuzethemba okuhle nokuzethembaNgaphezu kwalokho, banomuzwa omuhle kakhulu wamandla nobuthakathaka babo futhi bacabanga ngokujulile ngezinto ezibalulekile kubo, bebeka phambili inhlalakahle yabo yengqondo yesikhathi eside kunokwaneliseka okusheshayo.
Abantu abathuthukisa lobuhlakani bathambekele nasekuthuthukiseni amakhono abo olimi nayengoba lokhu kuyingxenye yokuthuthukiswa kokuxhumana nawe kanye nekhono lokwenza kanjalo ukubeka amazwi kulokho abakuzwayoInesimo somuntu siqu nesangaphakathi, kodwa ivame ukubonakala ezindabeni, ezindabeni, ezinkondlweni, noma ezingxoxweni ezijulile. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, nakuba lokhu kuhlakanipha kubusa kubo, bayakwazi ukusebenzisa ezinye izihlakaniphi ukuthuthukisa izixazululo zezinkinga noma ukuzindla nje.
Izici zezingane ezinokukhalipha okungaphakathi komuntu
Izici ezikhona kulezo zingane ezikwazi ukwakha ubuhlobo obuhle nazo zifaka phakathi isiyalo, ukuqonda, kanye nokuzethembaNgaphezu kwalokho, bayakwazi kakhulu izingane ukuze zakhe umbono onembile ngazo ngokwazo, okubenza bavuthwe ngokushesha ngokomzwelo.
Lokhu kufakazelwa yizingane ezicabangayo futhi ezicabanga kahle, futhi ngenxa yalokhu, ezingaba abeluleki kontanga yabo, ukunikeza imibono enengqondo lapho abanye abantwana bezizwa bedidekile noma bekhungathekile.
Kusukela besebancane, bayazi amandla nobuthakathaka babo ukuze bafeze imigomo yabo. Basisiza ukuba sicabange ngemizwa nemicabango yethu ngamazwi abo anokuqonda, ngezinye izikhathi asenza sicabange ukuthi izingane zethu zihlakaniphe kakhulu kunathi. Banekhono langaphakathi lokwenza ukulawula imicabango nezinto ezikukhathazayo, kanye nokucindezeleka komuntu siqu.
Esimweni sesikole, laba bantwana bavame:
- Khetha imisebenzi yomuntu ngamunye lapho angasebenza khona ngejubane lakhe futhi azindle.
- Khombisa eyodwa ikhono eliqinile lokuzihlolaBabona ukuthi yini ehambe kahle nokuthi yini abangayithuthukisa.
- Iba ne impilo yangaphakathi ecebile, ngemibuzo evame ukubuzwa mayelana nokuthi bangobani, kungani bezwa lokho abakuzwayo, noma ukuthi izinto zinencazelo engakanani.
- Yiba ngaphezulu eqinile lapho bebhekene nokwehluleka, ngoba bavame ukukuhlaziya esikhundleni sokuhlala nje becabanga ngokukhungatheka.
Kubazali nothisha, kubalulekile ukubanikeza izindawo lapho bengakwazi khona ukuveza lokho abakuzwayo nabakucabangayo (izingxoxo, amadayari, imisebenzi yokuzindla) futhi bahloniphe izikhathi zabo zokuzikhethela zodwa, ezivame ukuba zibaluleke kakhulu ekulinganiseni kwabo ngokomzwelo.
Indlela yokuzazi thina
Uma silandela inkolelo-mbono yobuhlakani obuningi, ukuze sizazi thina kumele siqale siqaphele uchungechunge lwemicabango nemizwa ezisenza sibe yilokho esiyikho, kanye nohlobo lwezinto ezisishukumisayo ezingase zibangele noma yiziphi zazo.
Kukhona lokho hamba phakathi kwemizwa ehlukene futhi sithole ukuthi izenzo zethu zinjani uma sezingaphakathi kwazo ukuze sakhe uhlaka oluthembekile olusivumela ukuthi sazane kancane kancane; ngale ndlela singalawula ukuziphatha kwethu ukuze sifinyelele imigomo esibekiwe.
Nansi indlela Ukuhlakanipha kwangaphakathi komuntu siqu kusenza sikwazi ukufinyelela ezinhliziyweni zethu futhi sisebenzise lolo lwazi ngendlela ezuzisayo.Ukwazi, isibonelo, ukuthi sivame ukusabela ngokucasuka lapho sikhathele kusisiza ukuba silindele izimpendulo ezithile futhi silungiselele amasu okugwema ukulimaza ubudlelwano bethu.
Eminye imibuzo ekhuthaza ukuzazi yile:
- Yiziphi izimo ezingibangela ukucindezeleka okukhulu futhi kungani?
- Ngivame ukusabela kanjani uma ngizizwa ngiphatheke kabi noma ngigxekwa?
- Yiziphi izinhlobo zemisebenzi enginika amandla futhi yiziphi ezingiqeda amandla?
- Yiziphi izindinganiso zomuntu siqu ezibaluleke kakhulu kimi kulesi sikhathi empilweni yami?
Uma izimpendulo zithembekile, kulapho isisekelo esizokwakha phezu kwaso siqina khona. ukuzethemba, ukuzithiba kwethu kanye nomsebenzi wethu wokuphila.
Ukubaluleka kokuhlakanipha kwangaphakathi komuntu siqu empilweni yansuku zonke
Ukuthuthukisa ubuhlakani bangaphakathi komuntu siqu kunomthelela oqondile kithi inhlalakahle yengqondo kanye nokusebenza kwethu ezindaweni eziningi zokuphila. Ezinye izinzuzo ezibalulekile yilezi ezilandelayo:
Ukwenza izinqumo ezingcono
Ukwazi izifiso zethu, imigomo, kanye nemizwa yethu kusenza sikwazi ukwenza izinqumo zivumelane kakhulu nalokho esikufunayo ngempelaEsikhundleni sokuzivumela ukuba sithonywe yingcindezi yomphakathi noma okulindelwe abanye abantu, singahlola ukuthi yiziphi izinketho ezisekela ukukhula kwethu kwesikhathi eside.
Ukuphathwa kwemizwa okunempilo
Labo abasebenza ekuhlakanipheni kwabo kwangaphakathi komuntu bathuthuka kakhulu ikhono lokusingatha izimo ezinzima ngokomzweloBasheshe babone izimo zabo zangaphakathi futhi bangafuna amasu okubhekana nesimo (ukukhuluma nothile, ukuphumula, ukuzindla, ukuhambahamba) esikhundleni sokuqhuma noma ukuvala.
Ukuzimela komuntu siqu okukhulu
Ngokuqonda izidingo zethu kanye nezisusa zethu, asinciki kakhulu ekuqinisekisweni kwangaphandle. Lokhu kukhuthaza ukuzimela okuqinile kanye nekhono lokuthi "cha" lapho okuthile kungahambisani nezindinganiso zethu noma izinto eziza kuqala, noma ngabe abanye balindele okuhlukile.
Ubudlelwano obunempilo
Nakuba ukuhlakanipha kwangaphakathi komuntu siqu kugxile kuwe, kunomthelela omuhle endleleni esixhumana ngayo nabanye. Umuntu ozaziyo futhi ozilawula kahle angakwazi khuluma ngezidingo zakho ngokucacileUkubeka imingcele enempilo nokuzwelana kangcono nezwe lemizwa labanye abantu kuthuthukisa ikhwalithi yobudlelwano babo.
Ukukhula okuqhubekayo nokufunda
Lokhu kuhlakanipha kusishukumisela esimweni sengqondo sokuthi ukuzitholela njaloNjengoba sizibuka futhi sizindla, sithola izindawo okufanele sizithuthukise, sibeke izinselele ezintsha, futhi silungise ukuziphatha kwethu ukuze sisondele kakhulu kumuntu esifuna ukuba nguye.
Imisebenzi kanye nemikhakha lapho ubuhlakani bangaphakathi komuntu buvelela khona
Ngenxa yohlobo lobuhlakani obungaphakathi komuntu, kunemikhakha ethile yobungcweti lapho bubaluleke khona kakhulu. Abantu abasebenza [njengabangacacile - mhlawumbe "abanolwazi" noma "abanolwazi"] bavame ukuhlotshaniswa naleli khono. othisha, abantu abadumile kwezenkolo, izazi zengqondo, odokotela bengqondo, ochwepheshe bezengqondo, izazi zefilosofi, izazi zezenhlalo, izazi ze-anthropology, ababhali, izimbongi, noma abadlali.
Kuzo zonke lezi zisebenzi, ukuqonda ingqondo nemizwa yakho kubalulekile ekukwazini ukusekela, ukuphefumulela, noma ukumela abanye. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuhlakanipha kwangaphakathi komuntu kukhuthaza:
- La amandla wokungena ngaphakathi okudingekayo ukudala imisebenzi yobuciko ejulile noma ukuthuthukisa imibono eyinkimbinkimbi.
- La ukuzilimaza okudingekayo ukuze umuntu azisekele kumaphrojekthi esikhathi eside, njengocwaningo, incwadi, noma inqubo yokwelapha.
- Amandla oku ukuhlela nokuqondisa impilo yakhoukubeka izinto eziza kuqala kanye nemigomo ehambisanayo.
Ukwenza ngcono lokhu kuhlakanipha
Uma ufisa ukuthuthukisa lolu hlobo lobuhlakani, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi wazalwa unalo njengobuhlakani bakho obuphambili, kufanele uzifundele ukuze uthuthuke kancane kancane kule ndawo. Indlela engcono kakhulu yokwenza lokho kungaba ukusebenzisa lawa macebiso namasu asebenzayo, asekelwe kumbono kaGardner kanye nomsebenzi wamakhono angaphakathi komuntu siqu:
Cabanga ukuthi ulusebenzisa kanjani ulwazi lwakho ngawe ukufeza izinhloso zakho
Uma ufuna ukufeza umgomo othile, kumelwe ukwenze njengomuntu okwazi kahle lolu hlobo lokuhlakanipha. zaziKumelwe uzihlole bese uthola yiziphi izici zakho ezingakuvumela ukuba ukwenze, indlela eyiyo, futhi yikuphi kubo okungakwenza wehluleke kabi.
Enye yezinto zokuqala abantu abanobuhlakani bangaphakathi komuntu abazenzayo ukuhlaziya ngokwethembeka kwabo amandla nobuthakathakaNgakho-ke, uma ungakajwayelani nazo, kubalulekile ukuthi uqale ukufunda ngazo. Kusukela lapho, ungazibekela imigomo engokoqobo, uchaze izinsuku zokugcina, futhi ulindele izithiyo zangaphakathi (ubuvila, ukwesaba, ukungazethembi) okuzodinga ukuxazululwa.
Yiba munye nemizwa yakho
Enye yezinto ezokusiza ukuthi uzuze okokuqala ukuyeka ukucabanga ngamaphethini akho angokomzwelo, ukuze uzuze isidlo nemizwa yakho, nokuthi wazi ngaphansi Yiziphi izinto ezikhuthazayo ongazidala?Ngale ndlela ungabona ukuthi yiziphi izimo ezibangela isimo sengqondo esithile kuwe nokuthi yini ongayenza kulezo zimo ezithile ukukusiza ukuthi uqhubekele phambili.
Yilapho amakhono amaningana abalulekile ngaphakathi komuntu siqu eqala khona ukusebenza:
- Ukuqwashisa ngokomzwelo noma ukuziqonda: ukuqaphela imizwa yakho, ukusebenzisa ulimi olufanele ukuyibiza ngamagama nokuhumusha ukuthi ihlobene kanjani nokuziphatha kwakho.
- Ukuzithiba: ukulawula nokuphatha imizwa nemizwa ngendlela efanele, ngaphandle kokuyiphika kodwa ngaphandle kokuyivumela ibuse izinqumo zakho.
- Ukuzikhuthaza: zinike izizathu zokuqhubeka, sebenzisa ubunzima njengesikhuthazo, futhi ulondoloze ukuhambisana lapho kuphakama ukungabaza noma ukukhathala.
Linganisa inqubekela phambili eyenziwe
Uma ufuna ukuthuthuka olwazini lwakho, kubalulekile ukuthi ugxeke inqubekelaphambili yakho, ukuze uzitholele ngokwakho okusebenzayo nokungasebenzi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukugxeka inqubekela phambili yethu kubalulekile uma singafuni ukubheka ngokweqile lokho esikwenzayo.
Leli khono loku ukuzihlola njalo kuhlobene kakhulu ne- i-metacognitionOkungukuthi, ukuqaphela indlela ocabanga ngayo, amasu owasebenzisayo ukufunda noma ukuxazulula izinkinga, nokuthi yini ongayishintsha ukuze uthuthukise imiphumela yakho.
Eminye imisebenzi okufanele yenziwe
Eminye yemisebenzi engenziwa yilaba bantu ukuthuthukisa ubuhlakani babo yile elandelayo:
- Cabanga ngokuthi ukuphi nokuthi ufuna ukuya kuphi.
- Bhala umlando womuntu noma iphephabhuku.
- Yenza uhlu olunazo zonke izimfanelo onazo futhi ezizuzisayo kokubili ukuthola umsebenzi futhi ukwazi ukuba nobudlelwano obuhle emphakathini.
- Sungula izinhloso zangempela ezingafinyelelwa esikhathini esifushane noma esimaphakathi.
- Bhala olunye uhlu lapho “ukwehluleka” kusungulwa khona nalapho kunqunywa khona lezo ezithathwa njengezithuthukisiwe.
Kulezi ziphakamiso singangeza eminye imisebenzi ephumelela kakhulu yokuthuthukisa amakhono angaphakathi komuntu siqu:
- Prakthiza ukuzindla nokuqaphela ukwandisa ukunaka lokho okuzwayo nokucabangayo esikhathini samanje.
- Thola izindinganiso zomuntu siqu ukwenza uhlu lwalokho okubheka njengokubalulekile empilweni yakho (umndeni, inkululeko, ubulungiswa, ubuciko, njll.).
- Funa okuhlangenwe nakho okusha (uhambo, izifundo, izinselele) ezikuvumela ukuthi uthole izici zakho obungazazi.
- Yenza izinqubo zokwelapha noma zokuqeqesha ezihlinzeka ngombono wangaphandle kanye namathuluzi okuzazi.
Imisebenzi, imidlalo namathoyizi okuthuthukisa lokhu ezinganeni
Ubuntwana buyisikhathi esikhethekile sokubeka izisekelo zobuhlakani bangaphakathi komuntu. Ngaphezu kokuzindla kanye nohlu olubalulwe, kukhona imidlalo nemisebenzi ethile ezisiza izingane ukuthi zixhumane nemizwa yazo kanye nomhlaba wazo wangaphakathi.
Ezinye iziphakamiso ezijabulisayo yilezi:
- Isilwane esihambayo, isithombe sami, indandatho yemizwa, izitembu zensipho, i-carioca… konke lokhu kukhuthaza ingane ukuthi iziveze, ikhulume ngayo futhi iqaphele ukuthi izizwa kanjani ezimweni ezahlukene.
Ngokuphathelene nezinto zokwakha, lezi ezinye zezinto amathoyizi afaneleka kakhulu ezinganeni ezinobuhlakani obuthuthukisiwe kakhulu ngaphakathi komuntu siqu:
- Ikhompyutha, amatende.
- Onodoli abadinga ukunakekelwa: ukubondla, ukubashintsha, ukubanakekela lapho bekhala…
- Amathoyizi amelela izinto zabantu abadala: ikhamera, ifoni ephathekayo…
- Inqola yamathoyizi, itafula lokushintsha nebhedi, imidlalo yevidiyo, izilwane zokudlala ezidinga ukunakekelwa, irekhoda, ama-Barbie…
Ekilasini, izivivinyo zingenziwa futhi ukuzihlola ngokomzwelo: ukuqaphela okufushane kanye nemikhuba ye-yoga yezingane, amakhadi emizwelo, amadayari ekilasi noma imibuzo emifushane yokuzihlola ngemva kwephrojekthi (“Yini engiyenzile kahle?”, “Yini engingayithuthukisa?”).
Izimo zengqondo eziveza ukuhlakanipha kwakho kwangaphakathi komuntu siqu
Abantu abanezinga eliphezulu lalokhu kuhlakanipha bavame ukubonisa uchungechunge lwezimo zengqondo kanye nezindlela zokuziphatha ezibahlukanisayo. izimo zengqondo eziveza ukuhlakanipha kwakho kwangaphakathi komuntu siqu Yilezi:
- Empikiswaneni, ugcina ibanga lakho, uhlale uthule noma ucabange ngesimo ngaphambi kokuphendula.
- Ekwethulweni kweqembu, uvame ukufaka isandla ngento eyingqayizivele, ngokusekelwe endleleni ozizwa ngayo noma indlela ochaza ngayo inkinga.
- Uzibuza ukuthi ingabe kufanelekile ngempela ukulungisa okuthile okuphukile (into, ubuhlobo, iphrojekthi), kuhlolwa izindleko ezingokomzwelo ezihilelekile.
- Ingabe ucabanga ngokuzisebenzela noma uke wacabanga ngokujulile ngokuqala ibhizinisi lakho ngoba uyalazisa ibhizinisi lakho? ukuzimela kanye nekhono lakho lokuqondisa impilo yakho.
- Uyazi ukuthi kwenzekani eduze kwakho nokuthi isimo ngasinye sikwenza uzizwe kanjani.
- Uke waya emihlanganweni yokwelulekwa noma emihlanganweni yokuthuthukiswa komuntu siqu ngoba unesithakazelo ngcono njengomuntu.
- Ungathanda ukuhlala ekhabini elithule ehlathini kunokuba sehhotela eligcwele abantu.
- Ungakwazi ukusabela ezimweni ezimbi nge ukuzimisela nokuzola.
- Ingabe uzibheka njengomuntu ovulekile nozimele?Awulandeli iqembu ngaphandle kokubuza izinto.
- Uthanda ukusebenza wedwa ngaphandle kokuthi kube khona okuphazamisayo, ikakhulukazi emisebenzini edinga ukugxila noma ubuhlakani.
- Unombono ongokoqobo ngawe amandla nobuthakathaka Futhi awuzikhohlisi ngemingcele yakho.
- Uzinikela isikhathi sakho ukuzindla, ukuzindla noma ukucabanga ngezinto ezibalulekile empilweni.
- Unayo eminye imigomo ebalulekile empilweni ocabanga ngakho njalo.
- Empikiswaneni uvame ukuqhathanisa umphikisi wakho nento ethile yesikhathi esidlule bese usabela ngokuvumelana nalokho okuhlangenwe nakho kwangaphambilini.
- Awuzithandi izixuku noma izindawo ezinomsindo ngokweqile.
- Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uthukuthele noma ujabule, ngokuvamile uyazi ukuthi kungani. nokuthi yini eyabangela leso simo.
- Uthanda ukuhlala uthule futhi ucabange ngemizwa yakho ejulile.
- Ngokuvamile uyayibona indlela ubuso bakho obubukeka ngayo nokuthi bukhuluma ngani kwabanye.
- Uma kwenzeka into ebalulekile kuwe, uvame Yigcine iyimfihlo noma wabelane ngayo nabantu abambalwa kakhulu.
- Uma kukhona okungahambi kahle, uyacabanga ngakho. ukuze ugweme ukukuphinda ngesikhathi esizayo.
Zonke lezi zimo zengqondo zibonisa izinga eliphezulu ukuzazi, ukuzindla kanye nokuzilawula, izinsika eziyisisekelo zokuhlakanipha kwangaphakathi komuntu.
Gwema ukudideka: ubuhlakani bangaphakathi komuntu, bokuxhumana nabantu, kanye nobemizwa
Ubuhlakani bomuntu buvame ukudideka nobuhlakani obungokomzweloUbuhlakani bemizwa buyigatsha lezengqondo eliye lafundwa kabanzi kodwa aliveli embonweni wobuhlakani obuningi. Nakuba kokubili kugxile ekuzazini nasekuqondisweni kwemizwa, ubuhlakani bemizwa buyinsimu ehlukile. umqondo obanzi okuhlanganisa kokubili amakhono angaphakathi komuntu (ukuzazi) kanye namakhono okuxhumana nabanye abantu (ukuxhumana nabanye abantu).
Singakudidanisa nobuhlakani bokuxhumana nabantu, obuphinde baphakanyiswa nguGardner. Kuleli qophelo, ubuhlakani bokuxhumana nabantu buwubuhlakani obusivumela ukuthi ukuxhumana nabanye ngendlela eyanelisayofuthi lokho kusinika ikhono lokuzizwa sinobudlelwano noNkulunkulu imizwa yabanye abantu ngozwelaUkuhlakanipha kwangaphakathi komuntu siqu kuyindlela esizazi ngayo futhi siqaphele imizwa yethu, okusivumela ukuthi sisize abanye, uma yilokho esikufunayo, ngenqubo yokuzindla.
Ngakho-ke singasho ukuthi:
- I-Intrapersonal intelligence: igxile ku izwe elingaphakathi (ukuzazi, ukulawula imizwa, isisusa somuntu siqu).
- Ubuhlakani phakathi kwabantu: igxile ku umhlaba wezenhlalo (uzwela, amakhono okuxhumana, ukusebenza njengeqembu).
- Uhlakaniphile ngokomzweloIhlanganisa kokubili ubukhulu futhi ibhekana nendlela esibona ngayo, esiveza ngayo, esiqonda ngayo, nesiphatha ngayo imizwa yethu neyabanye.
Ukuqonda lokhu kungafani kuzokusiza isitimela ngokuqondile Okudingayo: ukubheka ngaphakathi (ngaphakathi komuntu), ukuthuthukisa ubudlelwano bakho (phakathi kwabantu), noma ukusebenza ekuhlanganiseni kokubili (ngokomzwelo).
Ukuhlakulela ukuhlakanipha kwangaphakathi komuntu kusho ukuzibophezela empilweni eqondayo nehambisanayo, ehambisana nokuthi singobani ngempela. Njengoba uthuthukisa ukuzazi kwakho, ukuzilawula, kanye nokuzikhuthaza, kuba lula ukwenza izinqumo, ukunqoba izithiyo, nokwakha ubudlelwano obunempilo nawe kanye nabanye.