Indaba yokulutha kukaVÃctor ElÃas akuyona nje indaba yomlingisi odumile odlula esikhathini esimnyama, kodwa futhi neyabo bonke abamzungezile abamsekelayo phakathi naleso sikhathi, ikakhulukazi umlingani wakhe weminyaka eyisithupha, umlingisi uNatalia Sánchez. Bobabili bakhulela kuthelevishini yaseSpain, bathandana besebancane, futhi ekugcineni kwadingeka babhekane nenkinga eyavivinya ubuhlobo babo, ukuvuthwa kwabo, kanye nokuqonda kwabo uthando.
Namuhla, njengoba wonke amakhadi esetafuleni, bobabili uVÃctor noNatalia bakhethe ukukhuluma ngobuqotho ngolwazi lwabo lokulutha , ukuthi kwakusho ukuthini empilweni yabo yothando, nokuthi leso sikhathi esinzima sagcina sishintshe kanjani saba inqubo yokukhula komuntu siqu kanye nomsebenzi. Izindaba zabo, ezabiwe kuma-podcast, ezingxoxweni, kanye nasencwadini yomlingisi, zinikeza izwi entweni evame ukwenzeka buthule: umthelela wezidakamizwa ekusondelaneni kombhangqwana osemusha eSpain.
Ubudlelwano obaqala ngo-"Los Serrano" kanye nesivumelwano esivamile sokulwa nezidakamizwa
Ukuxhumana phakathi kwabo kwaqala besebancane. UNatalia Sánchez noVÃctor ElÃas bahlangana cishe beneminyaka eyishumi nambili eqoqweni lochungechunge lwethelevishini oluthi "Los Serrano," lapho badlala khona uTeté noGuille. Ubudlelwano phakathi kwabalingiswa babo basakazeka esikrinini, futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, baqala ubudlelwano bothando obabuhlala cishe phakathi kweminyaka eyi-14 kuya kwengama-20 ubudala.
Phakathi naleso sikhathi, laba bobabili babelane okungaphezu nje kwezibani zokukhanya kanye namakhaphethi abomvu. Bakha ubusha obufanayo lapho utshwala nezidakamizwa kwakukhona kakhulu khona nxazonke zabo , kokubili ngenxa yemibuthano yabo kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo komndeni wangaphambilini. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, njengoba bona ngokwabo bechazile, bahlakulela ukuzonda okucacile noma yini ehlobene nokusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa.
Lokho kwenqatshwa kwakungeyona into engaqondakali: kokubili kwakuvela ezizindeni lapho umlutha wawubangele khona umonakalo omkhulu . Endabeni kaVÃctor, ukusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa kwabazali bakhe kwaphawula ubuntwana bakhe; kuNatalia, inkumbulo yeminyaka yawo-80 kanye nokulahlekelwa abangane babazali bakhe ngenxa ye -heroin kwashiya isilonda esijulile emlandweni womndeni wabo. Konke lokhu kwakha isivumelwano esingabhalwanga: babengafuni ukuphinda lowo mlando.
Ngakho-ke, ngesikhathi beqopha, beya emicimbini, futhi beqala ukuqashelwa emphakathini, bahlala beqinile esimweni sabo. Babenikezwe izidakamizwa izikhathi ezingaphezu kwesisodwa , futhi, njengoba uNatalia elandisa, babehlala benikeza impendulo efanayo: cha. Lokhu kwenqaba okuphindaphindiwe kwaqinisa umuzwa wabo wokuba sohlangothini olufanayo, bevikelana endaweni, ngezinye izikhathi, eyenza ukweqisa kube okuvamile.
KuNatalia, lobu budlelwano babuyindlela yokuvikela lo mbhangqwana. Wayenomuzwa wokuthi babenombono ofanayo ngemingcele kanye nohlobo lwempilo ababefuna ukuyiphila ngemuva kokuzibonela mathupha umonakalo ongase ubangelwe umlutha wezidakamizwa emndenini.
Umsuka wengxabano: Ukuvuma kukaVictor kanye nomthelela ongokomzwelo kuNatalia
Ukungezwani kwafika isikhathi eside ngemva kwaleso sivumelwano, lapho ubudlelwano base buqhubeke isikhathi eside. UNatalia walandisa ukuthi, ngemva kweminyaka engaba yisithupha bethandana, uVÃctor wavuma kuye ukuthi wayezame i-cocaine ephathini . Kwakungeyona inhlebo noma into ayithole kwabanye abantu, kodwa ingxoxo eqondile lapho anquma khona ukumtshela okwenzekayo.
Ngesikhathi ezwa lawo mazwi, ukusabela kwangaphakathi komlingisi kwaba namandla. Wachaza indlela umoya wakhe owabamba ngayo emphinjeni wakhe futhi wasala "nobuso be-poker ." Ngaphandle, wazama ukuhlala ezolile; ngaphakathi, wazizwa sengathi umhlabathi uyavuleka ngaphansi kwezinyawo zakhe. Wakuqhathanisa nomuzwa wokungathembeki , hhayi kakhulu ngenxa yesenzo ngokwaso, kodwa ngenxa yokuwohloka kokwethembana nokuzibophezela okwakhiwe eminyakeni edlule.
Ingxenye yokushaqeka yayibangelwa umlando wabo ofanayo. Wachaza ukuthi wayekhumbula kahle zonke izikhathi ababenqabe ngazo kanye izidakamizwa ayezisho ukuthi wayezizamile lapho bendawonye . Ngakho-ke, izindaba kwakungekona nje ukuthi wayezisebenzisile, kodwa ukuthi wayezisebenzisile ngemva kweminyaka eminingi besebenza ndawonye.
Noma kunjalo, uNatalia wenza isinqumo esiqondile: ukungasabeli ngokuzumayo kulowo mzuzu wokuqala . Ulandisa ukuthi wakhetha ukumbuza ukuthi wayezizwa kanjani ngesikhathi ekhuluma, ezama ukumbonisa ukuthi angakhuluma ngaphandle kokugwetshwa . Ukwesaba kwakhe kwakuwukuthi uma ebonakala ecasukile kakhulu noma ezivikela, ukusabela kukaVÃctor kwakuyoba ukufihla noma yikuphi ukuphinda asebenzise noma ukuphinda asebenzise kuye kusukela ngaleso sikhathi kuqhubeke.
Lokho kulinganisela phakathi kobuhlungu bangaphakathi nokusekelwa kwangaphandle kwaphawula ushintsho olukhulu kulo mbhangqwana. Nakuba engayiboni le ngxenye njengembangela eyodwa noma eqondile yokuhlukana , uyibona njengengxenye yenqubo ebanzi lapho izinto eziningi zase zishintsha khona ezingeni lomuntu siqu kubo bobabili.
Ubuntwana bukaVictor: ukulutheka kwabazali, ukuxhashazwa, kanye nokuphila okuhlukaniswe kabili
Ukuze aqonde umlutha kaVÃctor ElÃas, lo mlingisi ngokwakhe ugcizelele isidingo sokubheka emuva. Encwadini yakhe ethi "Yo Sostenido. Historia de un juguete casi roto" (Me Held. Story of an Almost Broken Toy) , lo mculi ulandisa ngokuningiliziwe ukuthi kwakunjani ukukhula endaweni lapho ukusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa kwakuyingxenye yempilo yansuku zonke yabazali bakhe.
Njengoba echazile ezingxoxweni kanye naku-podcast, ukulutheka kwabazali bakhe kwaba nemiphumela eqondile ebuntwaneni bakhe kanye nasebusheni bakhe. Isimo safinyelela eqophelweni lokuthi ijaji lanquma ukuthi kungcono ukuthi ayohlala no-anti wakhe nomalume wakhe, lifuna ukumnika ukuzinza okukhulu. Leso sinqumo sokwahlulela saphawula ukuguquka, kodwa asizange sisuse umthelela ongokomzwelo walokho ayekubonile.
Kulo mongo womndeni kwenezelwe, njengoba elandisa, okuhlangenwe nakho kokuxhashazwa kanye nobukhulu bodumo lwasekuqaleni kakhulu kuthelevishini yaseSpain . Impumelelo yakhe engaphambi kwesikhathi ku-"Los Serrano" yambeka obala kwabezindaba ngesikhathi esafunda ukuthuthuka njengomuntu. Lokhu kuhlanganiswa kwengcindezi, ukungazinzi komndeni, kanye nokuqashelwa komphakathi ekugcineni kwaba yindawo eyinkimbinkimbi yokuzalela.
Emazwini akhe, uVÃctor uyavuma ukuthi ukuthembela kanye nokuthambekela ekuzibhubhiseni kuye kwaba uhlobo oluthile lokungazethembi okuhlala njalo empilweni yakhe yonke. Ukhuluma "ngedemoni" elingaphakathi elamdonsela emaphethini amadala, afundiwe, ngisho nalapho ezama ukwenza izinqumo ezahlukene.
Kunokuba aveze indaba yakhe njengezaba, uyisebenzisa ukuchaza ukuthi ukulutheka okuningi akuqali ngosuku okudliwa ngalo okokuqala , kodwa kuthungwa kancane kancane ngenxa yamanxeba, ukuntuleka kwemizwelo kanye namamodeli ayingozi ajwayelekile kusukela ebuntwaneni.
Kusukela ekuluthweni kuya ekuzilungiseni: inqubo engavalwanga ngokuphelele
Lapho uVÃctor ekhuluma ngokulutha kwakhe, ukhuluma ngesikhathi samanje. Usekusho ngokuphindaphindiwe ukuthi ukululama akuyona indawo okufanele ayihambe, kodwa uhambo oluqhubekayo . Akukhona nje ukuyeka ukusebenzisa izidakamizwa, kodwa nokufunda ukuphila nethuba lokubuyela emuva nokwenza izinqumo ezimvimbela njalo kulowo mjikelezo.
Incwadi yakhe kanye nokuguqulwa kwayo kwemidlalo yaseshashalazini okulandelayo, okubizwa ngokuthi "Yo Sostenido" (I Sustained) , sekuyindlela yokuhlela nokwabelana ngalolo lwazi. Esiteji, eqondiswa yilowo owayengumdlali wakhe uFran Perea, lo mlingisi nomculi ulandisa ngempilo yakhe ngokulandelana kwezikhathi: ubuntwana bakhe obugcwele izidakamizwa, ukuthandwa kwe-"Los Serrano," izinkinga zakhe, ukwesaba kwakhe, uthando lwakhe, kanye nokuxhumana kwakhe kabusha nomculo.
Lo mdlalo, oqale ukukhonjiswa futhi wadlalwa kabusha ezindaweni ezifana neLuchana Theatres eMadrid, wethulwa njengohambo lomuntu wokuqala, olungahlungiwe futhi olunomculo obukhoma . Labo abawubonile bawuchaza njengomsebenzi wokuzivikela ngokomzwelo phambi kwezilaleli, uhlanganisa izinkumbulo ezinzima nezikhathi ezikhanyayo.
Lo mdlalo weshashalazi uveza kakhulu izingqikithi ezifana nokulutha, ukwesaba ukuphinda amaphutha esikhathi esidlule, umuzwa wecala, kanye nokufuna ubuwena obusha ngale komdlali wengane. Isenzo sokuveza konke lokhu esiteji, ngokwaso, siyindlela yokwamukela okuhlangenwe nakho kwesikhathi esidlule nokukunikeza abanye njengesibuko noma isixwayiso esingaba khona.
KuVÃctor, usuku ngalunye luwubufakazi bokuzimisela kwakhe ukungabuyeli esimisweni esifanayo. Wachaza ukuthi uhlala ezikhumbuza ngesinqumo sakhe sokungabuyeli ekuluthweni , ngoba nje uyaqonda ukuthi isilingo asinyamalali ngobusuku obubodwa, kodwa kunalokho silawulwa isikhathi eside.
UNatalia wabhekana kanjani nokwehla, futhi uchaza ukuthini ngaleso sikhathi sanamuhla?
Ngaphandle, ubudlelwano bukaNatalia noVÃctor bubonakala buwuthando lwentsha oluhle , oluhlala isikhathi eside futhi olusekelwe ukubambisana kwabantu ababili abasebasha abakhule cishe ngesivinini esifanayo. Kodwa-ke, lo mlingisi uvumile ukuthi, ngale komfanekiso womphakathi, kwakukhona inqubo yangaphakathi eyinkimbinkimbi eyahlukanisa kancane kancane lo mbhangqwana.
Ezingxoxweni zakamuva, ugcizelele ukuthi ukuvuma kokuqala kokusebenzisa izidakamizwa kwakungeyona imbangela yodwa yokuhlukana kwabo . Ukubona njengophawu nje lwento "eyayiqala" futhi, uma ubheka emuva, ayiqonda njengengxenye yendlela yokuphila uVÃctor okwakudingeka ayilandele ukuze abhekane namademoni akhe.
UNatalia akafihli iqiniso lokuthi leso sikhathi sasinzima kakhulu. Uze wathi wayefuna ukufa ngasese ebuka umuntu amthandayo eqala ukuzibhubhisa. Kodwa-ke, uphinde acacise ukuthi wazama ukungagcini nje ngokuba ngufakazi ongenzi lutho ngale nhlekelele, kodwa ukuba lapho ngangokunokwenzeka ngenxa yakhe ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa ngokuphelele.
Njengoba isikhathi nebanga lihamba, umbono wakhe ushintshile. Namuhla uchaza ukuthi, nakuba engasoze ajabule ngokuthi othile udlula ekuluthweni, uyajabula ngalokho uVÃctor akwenzile ngalolo lwazi : ngendlela akuguqule ngayo kwaba inqubo yokuzitholela, lapho ekhona manje, nangendlela anqume ngayo ukungaphinde awele imigqa ethile.
Lokhu kushintsha kombono nakho kuyingxenye yokucabanga kukaNatalia kabanzi ngomlutha. Ku-podcast lapho avula khona, wagcizelela ukuthi umlutha uvame ukuvela endleleni eyinkimbinkimbi yemizwa nokuthi, uma izinkinga eziyisisekelo—ukwesaba, amanxeba, izidingo ezingakahlangatshezwa—zinganakwa, inkinga izothola ezinye izindlela zokuzibonakalisa, noma ngabe umuntu uzama ukuyishaya indiva.
Ukubaluleka kokulalela imizwa: Umyalezo kaNatalia mayelana nokulutha
Enkulumweni yakhe, uNatalia wayefuna ukudlulela ngale komlando wokuphila kwakhe ukuze anikeze umlayezo ojulile. Ngokombono wakhe, ukulutheka akuyona nje indaba yamandla okuzimisela , kodwa kunalokho kuyisici esiyinhloko senkinga yemizwa abantu abavame ukukhetha ukuyishaya indiva.
Ugcizelele ukuthi uma imizwa inganakwa, ayinyamalali ngomlingo . Ngokuphambene nalokho, iyaqhubeka "ikhuhla odongeni" ize iphule. Yingakho ebona kubalulekile ukuma azibuze ukuthi kwenzekani ngaphakathi, ukuthi yini umuntu ayidingayo ngempela, nokuthi angabhekana kanjani nalokho kungakhululeki ngaphandle kokusebenzisa izindlela zokubaleka ezibhubhisayo.
Le ndlela ihambisana nombono wakhe ngalokho okwenzeke kumlingani wakhe wangaphambili: kuye, umlutha wawuyingxenye yomphumela obonakalayo wezingxabano zangaphakathi uVÃctor ayenazo kusukela ebuntwaneni . Ugcizelela ukuthi, esimweni sakhe, ukubhekana naleyo nkathi eyedlule kube yisihluthulelo sokukwazi ukwenza izinqumo ezahlukene lapho esemdala.
Ngesikhathi esifanayo, lo mlingisi ugcizelele ubunzima obungabangelwa ukusekela umuntu onomlutha kumlingani wakhe noma kumalungu aseduze . Akukhona nje ukunikeza ukwesekwa, kodwa futhi nokufunda ukubeka imingcele nokugwema ukuhileleka enkingeni yomunye umuntu—into ebucayi kakhulu uma ubhekene nobuhlobo bokuqala obungathi sÃna usemncane kangaka.
Inkulumo yakhe ayifuni ukunikeza izixazululo, kodwa ifuna ukuvula umnyango wengxoxo eqotho ngalezi zinkinga ngokwesimo saseSpain, lapho kusenzima khona ukudalula izici ezithile eziseduze ngaphandle kokwesaba ukwahlulelwa komphakathi noma ukucasulwa.
Kusukela kumbhangqwana kuya emndenini okhethiwe: ubungane obusinde esiphephweni
Naphezu kwakho konke ababedlule kukho, isibopho phakathi kwabo asizange siphele lapho ubuhlobo babo bothando buphela. Eminyakeni edlule, uNatalia noVÃctor bakhe ubungane obuqinile kakhulu , bona ngokwabo ababuchaza njengobuhlobo bomndeni. Umbheka njengo "mfowethu wokuphila konke," futhi umkhumbula "njengendlela yakhe yokuqala."
Akuvamile ukubabona behlanganyela izikhathi ezibalulekile. Emshadweni kaVÃctor nomculi u-Ana Guerra, lo mlingisi wethule inkulumo eyathinta wonke umuntu owayekhona , ekhumbula uthando lwabo lwentsha, ukuhlukana kwabo okunokuthula, nokuthi bakwazile kanjani ukuhlala empilweni yomunye nomunye naphezu kobunzima.
Baphinde bavele emicimbini ebalulekile yobungcweti. Lapho umdlalo othi "Yo Sostenido" ubuyela ezinkundleni zaseMadrid, uNatalia waya ukuyomsekela futhi wabelana ngomyalezo ezinkundleni zokuxhumana lapho ekhuluma khona ngohambo oludlula empilweni kaVÃctor , egxile ezahlukweni ezinjengodumo, umlutha, ukwesaba, nothando, futhi egcizelela ukuphana avula ngakho emphakathini.
Namuhla, ngamunye unemindeni yakhe: yena nomlingisi uMarc Clotet, abanezingane ezimbili naye , kanye naye no-Ana Guerra, aqinisa ubuhlobo bakhe naye emshadweni owaba yizihloko zezindaba zabezindaba zaseSpain. Noma kunjalo, bathola isikhathi sokubonana, ukuxhumana, nokusekelana emisebenzini emisha.
Ubuhlobo babo bamanje sebube yisibonelo sendlela indaba yothando yobusha, ephawulwe yizikhathi ezibuhlungu kakhulu, engaguquka ngayo ibe yisibopho sokusekelana nenhlonipho ngaphandle kokubanjwa yintukuthelo noma ukucabanga ukuthi isikhathi esidlule sizoba ngcono.
Uma ebheka emuva kulolu hambo, umlutha kaVÃctor ElÃas uvela njengochungechunge oluhamba ngezigaba eziningana zempilo yakhe: ubuntwana obuphawulwe ukusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa ekhaya, ubusha bakhe ngaphansi kokukhanya kuthelevishini, inkinga eyanyakazisa ubuhlobo bakhe noNatalia, kanye nenqubo eyalandela yokuvuselelwa kanye nokwakhiwa kabusha komuntu siqu. Namuhla, yena nomlingisi bakhuluma ngaleso sahluko ngenhlanganisela yobuhlungu nokuziqhenya, beqaphela ukuthi ukuqamba igama nokubhekana naso kubavumele ukuba bafinyelele endaweni ehluke kakhulu kunaleyo eyayibonakala imiselwe lapho konke kuqhuma. Indaba yabo, hhayi nje isiqephu senhlebo yosaziwayo, isibe ubufakazi bendlela yokubhekana nomlutha eYurophu futhi, ikakhulukazi, eSpain eqhutshwa abezindaba, igxile hhayi kuphela ekusetshenzisweni kwezidakamizwa ngokwazo, kodwa nasemizweni nasebuhlotsheni obungemuva kwaso.