Ngezinye izikhathi siphelelwa umqondo wokuthi ukuthethelela kusho ukuhlala phansi ukuze sixoxe, ukukhala ngezandla zomunye nomunye, nokuvuselela ubuhlobo njengokungathi akwenzekanga lutho. Kodwa-ke, kukhona okunye okunempilo kakhulu futhi okungadingi umsindo: ukuthethelela buthule. Lo mkhuba awukona ukwenza sengathi ubuhlungu akwenzekanga, kodwa uphathelene nokuphatha inxeba ngaphakathi ukuze liyeke ubuhlungu, ngaphandle kokudinga omunye umuntu ukuba ahlanganyele kule nqubo.
Ezikhathini lapho impilo yengqondo isibe yinto eza kuqala, ukuqonda ukuthi ukuthethelela kuyisipho esizipha sona, hhayi umusa kumuntu osihlaselayo, kubalulekile. Kumayelana nokubeka phambili ukuzinza kwethu ngokomzwelo kunesidingo sokuxolisa okungenzeka kungafiki, okusivumela ukuthi sivale izahluko ngaphandle kokuzibeka ekudumazekeni okwengeziwe.
UKeanu Reeves kanye nefilosofi yamaStoic anamuhla
Uma sikhuluma ngokuhlala sizolile phakathi nesiphepho, igama likaKeanu Reeves livame ukuvela. Lo mlingisi uyathandwa hhayi nje kuphela ngezindima zakhe zefilimu kodwa nangokuthobeka nokuthula akuvezayo empilweni yakhe yansuku zonke. Eqinisweni, useqalile ukubizwa ngokuthi ungumuntu oqinile wanamuhla , ikakhulukazi ngemuva kokuba okuqukethwe ezinkundleni ezifana neTikTok kusabalale, kuhlaziywa ukuthi isimo sakhe sengqondo sihambisana kanjani nezimfundiso zezazi zefilosofi ezifana no-Epictetus noMarcus Aurelius.
Ingqikithi yale filosofi ilula kakhulu kodwa inamandla: asinalo igunya phezu kwalokho okwenzekayo kithi, kodwa sinalo igunya phezu kwendlela esisabela ngayo kukho . UReeves useke wabelana ngezikhathi eziningana ukuthi isihluthulelo sokungadliwa yintukuthelo ukukhetha ngokuzithandela ukuthula kwengqondo. Kuye, ukuthethelela umuntu ngaphandle kokusho kanjalo nokunquma ukungaphinde uxhumane nalowo muntu akusona isenzo senzondo, kodwa isu elidingekayo lokuzinakekela ukuze ugweme ukuvula kabusha amanxeba ayeseqala ukuphola.
Intethelelo njengethuluzi lokukhulula
Kuvamile ukudideka ukuthethelela nokubuyisana, kodwa kuyimibono ehluke ngokuphelele. Ungathethelela othile ukuze ukhulule umthwalo ongokomzwelo owuthwele, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo, unqume ukuthi lowo muntu akanandawo empilweni yakho . Lo mehluko ubalulekile ukuze ugweme ukuwela ezindleleni ezinobuthi noma eziqeda amandla ezinciphisa inhlalakahle yethu kuphela.
- Ukuthula njengesiphetho: Akusiso isijeziso komunye umuntu, kodwa yindawo ephephile kuwe.
- Imikhawulo enempilo: Ukwakha ibanga elingokomzwelo kuvimbela izingxabano eziphindaphindayo ukuthi zingaphinde zithinte ingqondo yethu.
- Amandla emizwa: Ukuyeka okwedlule ngaphandle kokufuna ukuqinisekiswa kwangaphandle kuwuphawu lokuvuthwa nokuhlakanipha.
Kusukela kulo mbono, ukuthethelela buthule kuba yindlela yokukhululeka. Ngokuyeka ukuzama ukushintsha okwedlule noma ukulindela ukuthi omunye umuntu ashintshe isimo sakhe sengqondo, siphinde silawule imizwa yethu . Njengoba umcabango wamaStoyiki usikisela ngokufanele, okusiphazamisa ngempela akusona isenzakalo ngokwaso, kodwa ukuhumusha kwethu kanye nesisindo esikhetha ukusinika sona esikhathini sethu samanje.
Ukuzinakekela kanye nebanga elingokomzwelo
Kukhona umbono, ovame ukuhlotshaniswa nomsebenzi kaFyodor Dostoevsky, ofingqa kahle lesi simo: ukuthethelela buthule nokunqamula ukuxhumana kungenye yezindlela ezimsulwa zokuzinakekela. Lo mbono ushintsha ukugxila kusuka "kumuntu owenze iphutha" kuye "kowenze iphutha," ubeka inhlalakahle yengqondo njengento eza kuqala.
Ezweni lapho sicindezelwa khona ukuba sihlale sithatha izinqumo futhi sikhulumisane, ukukhetha ukuthula kungase kubonakale kungavamile, kodwa kuyithuluzi elinamandla lokulondoloza ukuthula kwangaphakathi . Akukhona ukubamba amagqubu, kodwa mayelana nokwamukela ukuthi ubudlelwano obuthile, noma ngabe buthethelelwe, abusenalo lutho oluhle futhi kungcono bushiywe ngemuva ukuze buqhubeke bukhula mathupha.
Ukuqina okuboniswe ngumuntu onjengoKeanu Reeves, onqobe ukulahlekelwa komuntu siqu okubi kakhulu ngokuhlakanipha okumangalisayo, kusifundisa ukuthi ukuthula kwangempela kuza lapho siyeka ukulwa nezinto ezingenakugwenywa. Ekugcineni, ukukhetha ukuthula kwangaphakathi nokuyeka lokho okungasasizi kuyindlela emfushane eya ekuphileni okulinganiselayo okungenanzondo.
