La Umlutha wokugembula kubantu abasha kanye nentsha Sekuphenduke enye yalezo zinkinga okuthi, ngaphandle kokubanga umsindo omkhulu, ithinta kancane kancane imindeni eminingi. Imidlalo eku-inthanethi, ukubheja kwezemidlalo, amakhasino abonakalayo, amageyimu evidiyo anama-microtransactions… ububanzi bukhulu futhi, uma bungatholwa ngesikhathi, bungabangela ukuzamazama komhlaba kwangempela ngokomzwelo, kwezemfundo, kwezomnotho, kanye nomndeni.
Nakuba kuvame ukwenziwa iphutha njengokuzilibazisa okulula noma "ukulandelana okubi", iqiniso liwukuthi Ukulutheka kokugembula kubonwa njengokugula Futhi kudinga indlela yobuchwepheshe, ehlelekile enokwesekwa okuvela emphakathini. Kulesi sihloko, uzothola incazelo eningiliziwe yokuthi ukulutheka kokugembula kuyini entsheni, izimpawu zako eziyisixwayiso, izici eziyingozi ezinomthelela kukho, ukuthi kutholakala kanjani, nokuthi yiziphi izindlela zokwelapha eziye zabonakala ziphumelela, kanye namasu ayinhloko okuvimbela ekhaya nasezikoleni.
Kuyini ukuluthwa ukugembula entsheni nakubantu abadala?
Uma sikhuluma ngokulutheka kokugembula, sibhekisela ku- I-impulse control disorder Kulapho umuntu elahlekelwa khona amandla okuyeka ukugembula, ngisho nalapho ehlangabezana nemiphumela ecacile engokomzwelo, yezenhlalo, yezemfundo, noma yezezimali. Akukhona ukuntula ukuzimisela, kodwa kunalokho kuwumlutha wokuziphatha okunezinqubo ezifanayo nezezidakamizwa noma utshwala.
Ebusheni nasebudaleni abasha, i Ukulutheka kokugembula kungase kwenzeke ngezindlela eziningiUkubheja kwezemidlalo ku-inthanethi, i-roulette nezikhala, amakhasino asekelwe emhlabeni (uma esebudaleni obusemthethweni), imidlalo ye-inthanethi enamabhokisi empango noma imiklomelo ekhokhelwayo, kanye nemidlalo yamavidiyo lapho ukusebenzisa imali kancane kancane kuba yinto evamile. Ingozi isekutheni ukugembula kuhlanganiswe nemisebenzi yabo yansuku zonke, okwenza kube nzima ukuqaphela ukuthi kunenkinga.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuluthwa ukugembula entsheni Kuvame ukuhlotshaniswa kakhulu nobunzima bemizwa nobudlelwano.Ukuzinyeza, isidingo sokulingana, ukuntula ngokomzwelo, izingxabano zomkhaya, ukukhathazeka, noma imizwa yokucindezeleka. Ezimweni eziningi, ukugembula kusebenza njengendlela yokubalekela ngokushesha ukucabanga ngalokho okulimazayo.
Isici esiyinhloko yi- ukungakwazi ukuyeka Noma ngabe umuntu uyawazi umonakalo. Umuntu omusha uyazi ukuthi usenkingeni, uyakweleta, noma amamaki akhe ehla, kodwa isifiso sokuqhubeka nokugembula kanye nephupho “lokubuyisela imali elahlekile” kunemiphumela esheshayo.
Izimpawu nezimpawu zokulutheka kokugembula kubantu abasha
Ukuthola izimpawu zokuqala ze-a inkinga yokugembula entsheni Akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ukusetshenziswa kakhulu komakhalekhukhwini, izikrini, kanye nemidlalo yevidiyo kujwayeleke kangangokuthi izinguquko eziningi azinakwa kuze kube yilapho isimo sesithuthuke kakhulu. Noma kunjalo, kukhona ukuziphatha okufanele kuphakamise amafulegi abomvu.
Esinye sezibonakaliso zokuqala yi- izinguquko kungazelelwe uhlamvuBangase babhekane nokucasuka okukhulu, ukukhathazeka, noma intukuthelo lapho bengakwazi ukuxhuma, lapho belahlekelwa imali, noma lapho ukufinyelela kwabo igeyimu noma amathuluzi athile kukhawulelwe. Lokhu kuguquguquka kwemizwelo kuvame ukuphambana nezikhathi zenjabulo uma bewina ukubheja noma bezuza imiklomelo ewinayo.
I-Las amanga mayelana nesikhathi nemali abayichitha ekugembuleni Lezi ezinye inkomba ezivame kakhulu. Umuntu omusha ubukela phansi amahora awachithwe edlala, afihle izikhathi zasebusuku, asuse imilando, noma athi "kumane kuyimidlalo yamahhala." Sekuyinsakavukela umchilo wesidwaba ukuthi bangayivumi imali abayisebenzisile futhi bavele bazivikele uma bebuzwa ngemininingwane.
El ukushiywa kwemisebenzi yangaphambilini (ezemidlalo, ukuphuma nabangani, izinto zokuzilibazisa zokudala ezifana imidlalo ukuze uphumuleUkulahlekelwa intshisekelo ezifundweni, kanye nokwehla okubonakalayo kokusebenza kwezemfundo, kuvame ukuhambisana nokuhlanganiswa kokulutheka. Ukugembula kuba umthombo wabo oyinhloko wokugqugquzela, futhi konke okunye kuthatha isihlalo esingemuva.
Ezigabeni ezithuthuke kakhulu, ukuziphatha okuyingozi enkulu kuvela, njengalokhu thola imali nganoma iyiphi indlela ukuze uqhubeke nokudlalaLokhu kuhlanganisa ukuboleka imali emndenini noma kubangane ngaphandle kokuchaza isizathu sangempela, ukusebenzisa amakhadi okuthenga ngesikweleti abanye abantu, ukungabuyisi imali encane, noma ngisho nokweba izinto ezincane ekhaya. Umuzwa wokuphuthuma wokuthola imali yokugembula ukhula njengoba ukulahlekelwa kunqwabelana.
Ukuqonda ukuthi kungani ukuluthwa ukugembula kunomthelela omkhulu kangaka kubantu abasha
Ubusha kanye nokuba mdala kuyinkathi lapho ingqondo isakhula, ikakhulukazi ezindaweni eziphathelene... ukulawula umfutho, ukuhlela kanye nokuhlola ubungoziLokhu kusho ukuthi abantu abasha bavame ukufuna okuhlangenwe nakho okujulile kanye nemivuzo esheshayo, futhi bakuthola kunzima ukuyeka lapho kukhona okubaheha kakhulu.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, kule minyaka, kunesidingo esinamandla sokwenza kanjalo ukuqashelwa emphakathini, ukuzimela, kanye nempumelelo esheshayoUkubheja kwezemidlalo nokugembula ku-inthanethi kwethulwa njengendlela "elula" yokuthola imali, ukuzwa i-adrenaline futhi ubukisa eqenjini labangane bakho, ngisho noma iza ngezindleko zezingozi ezinkulu ezibukelwa phansi.
Isimo samanje asisizi: izinkundla zemidlalo eku-inthanethi zitholakala 24/7 kumadivayisi eselula, kukhona ukukhangisa okuqhubekayo ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, kumabonakude, nasemicimbini yezemidlalo, kanye nemidlalo eminingi yevidiyo ehlanganisa ukuklomelisa imishini efana naleyo yokugembula (amabhokisi okuphanga, amasondo emiklomelo, microtransactions ukuthuthukisa ukusebenza); ngokufanayo, izinhlelo ezigxile ekusetshenzisweni okunempilo kwezikrini ziyavela, njenge imidlalo yevidiyo yokucabanga ukuphatha imizwa. Konke lokhu kudala umongo ovumela kakhulu ukuvela kwezinkinga.
Esinye isici esiyinhloko yi- ukujwayela kokudlala endaweni yenhlaloUma abangani begembula, uma bexoxa ngemiphumela yemidlalo ngokwembono yokuwina, noma uma benza ihlaya “ngecala” njengento engenabungozi, kuba nzima nakakhulu kumuntu omusha ukukhomba ukuthi lokhu kuziphatha kungase kuphume esandleni.
Izinto eziyingozi kanye nokuba sengozini
Akuyona yonke intsha edlala imidlalo yevidiyo egcina isiba umlutha, kodwa siyazi ukuthi abanye bayalutheka. izinto eziyingozi ezikhulisa kakhulu amathubaPhakathi kwezinto ezivame kakhulu umlando womndeni wokulutha (utshwala, izidakamizwa, ukugembula noma okunye), ukuthatheka okuphezulu kanye nezici ezithile zobuntu ezifana nokusesha okukhulu kwemizwa enamandla.
I-Los izinkinga ezingokomzwelo zangaphambili (ukucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka, ubunzima bokulawula ukukhungatheka) kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho okucindezelayo kwempilo (ukuhlukana okungqubuzanayo nabazali, usizi, ukuxhashazwaUkushintsha okungazelelwe kwemvelo nakho kungakhuthaza intsha ukuba iphendukele ekugembuleni njengendlela yokubaleka noma isinxephezelo.
Emkhakheni womndeni, i- ukuntula ukugadwa, imingcele efiphele, noma ukuxhumana okubi Lokhu kwandisa ingozi. Uma ukusetshenziswa kwedivayisi kungaqashelwa, izingozi zokugembula ku-inthanethi azixoxwa ngokukhululekile, noma kunokuyekelela okuningi mayelana nemali etholakalayo, intsha inenkululeko eyengeziwe yokuqala futhi ijule kulokhu kuziphatha ngaphandle kokuqaphela muntu.
Ekugcineni, ezinye izimo zempilo yengqondo ezifana I-Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)Ukuphazamiseka kokuziphatha noma ukuphazamiseka okuthile kwe-bipolar spectrum kuhlotshaniswa namathuba aphezulu okuba nenkinga yokugembula, ngenxa yokuthatheka, ukusesha izisusa ezijulile, noma ukuphazamiseka kwemizwelo okuhambisana nakho.
Amasu okuvimbela ukuluthwa kokugembula entsheni
Indlela engcono kakhulu yokunciphisa umthelela wale nkinga ukutshala imali ukuvimbela kusenesikhathi futhi okuqhubekayoLokhu kusebenza kokubili emindenini nasezikoleni. Akukhona nje ukwenqabela izinto, kodwa mayelana nokufundisa, ukusekela, kanye nokunikeza ezinye izindlela ezinempilo zokungcebeleka nokuphathwa kwemizwelo.
Eminyakeni yamuva, lokhu okulandelayo kuye kwasetshenziswa izinhlelo eziqondile zokuvimbela ukuluthwa kokugembula okuhloswe ngayo abafundi beCompulsory Secondary Education (ESO) kanye neBasic Vocational Training (FPB). Ohlelweni lokuhlola olwakhiwe ezikoleni eziningana, abafundi abaneminyaka engu-2 no-4 ye-ESO, othisha, nemindeni bahlanganyela ukuze banikeze ulwazi olucacile, izinganekwane ezikhohlisayo, nokuqeqesha amakhono okucabanga abucayi mayelana nokugembula kwe-inthanethi nokubheja kwezemidlalo.
Ukuhlolwa kwalezi zinhlelo, kanye nemininingwane yocwaningo lwakamuva lwabantu, kwembule a ukwanda okukhulu kwezinkinga zokugembula entsheniLokhu sekuholele ekwandiseni izinhlelo zokuqeqesha ezikhungweni eziningi nakuyo yonke iminyaka yemfundo yamabanga aphezulu kanye nokuqeqeshwa okuyisisekelo, okuhleliwe kwemisebenzi yokuqeqesha.
Inhlosongqangi yalezi zinhlelo wukuba abafundi bakhe a ukubheka okubucayi nokwaziswa ngendawo yokubhejaLolu hlelo luhlose ukusiza abafundi baqonde ubungozi bangempela, ukuthi izinkundla zisebenza kanjani, kanye nezindlela zokusebenza kwengqondo abazisebenzisayo ukucupha abasebenzisi. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, isebenza nemindeni kanye nothisha ukubahlomisa ngamakhono okubona izimpawu eziyisixwayiso kusenesikhathi futhi baphendule ngendlela ehambisanayo.
Imfundo nokuqwashisa ezikhungweni zemfundo
Esimweni sesikole, ukuvimbela kusebenza kangcono uma kugxile ku-a ashukumisayo, indlela yokubamba iqhaza eseduze neqiniso labafundiElinye lamasu anamandla ukufunda ngenkonzo kontanga, lapho abafundi bezinga eliphezulu bathola ukuqeqeshwa okukhethekile bese besebenza njengabaqeqeshi noma "abaphathi be-inthanethi" ontanga yabo abancane, besebenzisa izibonelo zemidlalo yokwethula okusiza inkhulumomphendvulwano nokuzindla.
Lokhu "ukuqeqeshwa kontanga kuya kontanga" kusebenzisa amandla ithonya elihle leqembuAbafundi asebekhulile baba izibonelo, bechaza izingozi zokugembula ngendlela ontanga yabo abayiqonda ngayo, futhi babelane ngokuhlangenwe nakho, ukungabaza, namasu okumelana nokucindezela komphakathi noma izithembiso ezikhohlisayo zezindlu zokubheja.
Othisha nabo babambe iqhaza ngenkuthalo, bemukela izinto zokwakha kanye nemihlahlandlela yokuhlanganisa ukuvimbela ezifundweni, ezifundweni ezihlanganisa izifundo kanye nemisebenzi ehambisanayo. Inkulumo-mpikiswano iyakhuthazwa ekukhangiseni, ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, ekusetshenzisweni kwedijithali okunomthwalo wemfanelo nasekuthathweni kwezinqumo, ukuze udaba lokugembula lungaphathwa njengento engasodwa, kodwa luxhunywe enhlalakahleni evamile.
Imindeni ingenye insika eyisisekelo. Ngezinkulumo, imihlangano yokucobelelana ngolwazi, nangezinsiza ezithile, bayasizwa ukuba beka imingcele ecacile nengaguquguquki ekhaya (imikhawulo yesikhathi sesikrini, ukulawula imali etholakalayo, ukugadwa kwezinhlelo zokusebenza nezindlela zokukhokha) nokudala isimo sokwethembana lapho izingane zizizwa zikhululekile ukukhuluma ngalokho ezikwenzayo kuyi-Internet.
Izindlela zokwelapha ezisebenzayo ekwelapheni ukulutheka kokugembula
Uma inkinga isibambile, ukuvimbela akwanele futhi [igama elingekho/ibinzana] liyadingeka. ukwelashwa okuhlelekile kokuluthwa ukugembulaNgokufanelekile, le ndlela kufanele ihlanganise ukungenelela kwengqondo, ukusekelwa okungenzeka kwemithi, ukubandakanyeka komndeni, futhi, kwezinye izimo, izinsiza zeqembu kanye nezinhlelo zokuhlala.
Enye yezinselelo ezinkulu ukuthi, ezikhathini eziningi, Intsha ikuthola kunzima kakhulu ukuqaphela ukuthi inenkingaKwesinye isikhathi abantu bafuna usizo ngoba becindezelwa umndeni, abalingani, ngisho nendawo yabo yomsebenzi noma yezemfundo, okungadala ukumelana nokwelashwa kwasekuqaleni. Ngakho-ke, isigaba sokuqala sivame ukugxila ekusizeni ukuthi babone lesi sifo futhi sibakhuthaze ukuthi bashintshe.
Kuye ngobunzima besimo, ukwelashwa kungase kwenziwe ngohlelo isiguli esingaphandle, isibhedlela sasemini, isiguli esilaliswayo noma indawo yokuhlalaEzimeni ezinzima kakhulu zokuntuleka kokulawula noma lapho kunendawo ehlala ikhuthaza ukugembula, izinhlelo zokuhlala noma zezokwelapha zinikeza indawo evikelekile evumela ukuhlukana nokuziphatha okuyinkinga.
Kuyo yonke le nqubo, kuvamile futhi ukusebenza kwezinye izindawo ezivame ukuthinteka noma ezisebenza njengezibangeli: ukucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka, ukusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa, izinkinga zokulala, izingxabano zomkhaya noma ukungahleleki ezimeni zezemfundo nezomsebenzi. Ukulutheka kokugembula akuvamisile ukwenzeka ngokuhlukana, futhi ukubhekana nomxholo kuthuthukisa ngokuphelele imiphumela.
Ukwelashwa kwengqondo-yokuziphatha kanye nezinye izindlela zokwelapha zengqondo
Ukwelashwa kwengqondo kuyisisekelo se ukwelashwa kokuphoqwa ukugembula entsheniPhakathi kwezindlela eziphumelela kakhulu i-cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), esiza ekuboneni imicabango esontekile ("kulesi sikhathi ngizowina futhi ngibuyisele yonke into", "sekuyisikhashana nje, akukho lutho oluzokwenzeka", "Ngilawula kakhulu kunabanye") futhi esikhundleni salo ngemibono engokoqobo nenempilo.
Ngasohlangothini lokuziphatha, amasu ayathuthukiswa ukuze ukunciphisa ukuchayeka ezintweni ezithinta ukugembula (ukuvimbela amawebhusayithi nezinhlelo zokusebenza, ukulawula ukufinyelela ezindleleni zokukhokha, izinguquko ezinkambisweni) kanye nokuthuthukisa amakhono akuvumela ukuthi umelane nomfutho wokugembula: ukulawula ukukhathazeka, amasu okuphazamisa, ukuxazulula izinkinga nokubekezelela ukukhungatheka.
Ukwelashwa komndeni nakho kuvame ukusiza kakhulu. Ngayo, izindaba ziyabuyekezwa amaphethini okuxhumana, imingcele kanye namandla okungase kube lula (ngisho noma kungahlosiwe) ukugcinwa kokulutheka: ukukhokhwa njalo kwezikweletu, ukuvikela ngokweqile, izingxabano ezingaxazululeki kahle, ukufihlwa kwabantu besithathu noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, izimo zengqondo zokujezisa kakhulu ezithiya inkhulumomphendvulwano.
Amanye amadivaysi akhethekile ahlanganisa iseshini ngayinye ne amaqembu okwelapha kanye nama-workshops e-psychoeducationalLezi zikhathi zivumela abantu abasha ukuthi babelane ngolwazi, bafunde komunye nomunye, futhi bazijwayeze ukuzithiba, ukulawula imizwelo, namakhono okuzibekela imigomo yomuntu siqu. Le nhlanganisela ivame ukukhuthaza ukubambelela ekwelashweni futhi inciphise imizwa yokuhlukaniswa.
Izibonelo zezinhlelo ezithile zokuxilonga nezokwelashwa
Kwezinye izinsiza ezikhethekile zentsha, indlela iqala ngokuthi a ukuhlolwa okuphelele kokuxilonga engahlaziyi nje kuphela ukuziphatha kwegeyimu, kodwa nesimo somndeni, isimo somzwelo, ukusebenza kahle kwezemfundo, ubudlelwano bomphakathi, nokunye ukuphazamiseka okungenzeka ngesikhathi esisodwa.
Isibonelo esisodwa ukuqaliswa kwe-a Uhlelo Lwesiqondiso Sokuxilonga (POD) ezikhungweni ezinendawo yokwelapha yokwelapha, lapho amaqembu ezinhlaka ezihlukene (isayensi yezengqondo, ezengqondo, ezokufundisa, umsebenzi wezenhlalakahle, imfundo yezenhlalakahle) esebenza ngendlela ehlelekile ukuze aqonde ukuthi yini ebangela ukugembula okuyinkinga nokuthi yiluphi uhlobo lokungenelela oluzofaneleka kakhulu.
Lolu hlobo lwensiza luhlanganisa i- ukwelashwa komuntu ngamunye ngezilungiselelo zeqembu nezomndeniIntsha ifunda ukubona izinto eziyimbangela (izikhathi zosuku, imizwa, izimo zomphakathi), ukuhlonza imicabango ezenzakalelayo eyiholela ekudlaleni, nokwakha ezinye izindlela zokuphumula ezinempilo nezobudlelwano. Umndeni uthola ukwesekwa ukuze uqhubekisele phambili izinguquko, ngaphandle kokuwela ku-dynamics yokulawula ngokweqile noma ukungenelela okuqhubekayo.
Kanye nomsebenzi womtholampilo, ukuthuthukiswa kwamathuluzi asebenzayo kuyasiza ukuqeqesha ukuzithiba nokulawula imizwaAmasu okuphumula, amakhono okuxhumana okugomelayo, ukuhlela ukufunda nesikhathi sokuphumula, nokuklama iphrojekthi yempilo eyeqa ukudlala, okuhlanganisa iziphakamiso ezifana imidlalo yokuzivocavoca ingqondo.
Ukwelashwa kokugembula okuphoqelekile: izindlela zokwelapha, imithi, namaqembu okusekela
Imihlahlandlela eminingi yomtholampilo incoma indlela ye-multimodal ehlanganisa ukungenelela ngokwengqondo, ukwesekwa kwezokwelashwa kanye recursos de autoayudaI-CBT ingenye yezinsika eziyinhloko, kodwa akuyona ukuphela kwengxenye yokwelashwa.
Ngokombono wesayensi yemithi, abanye abantu abasha baveza ukuphazamiseka okuhlobene njengokuthi ukucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka okukhulu, ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo okuguquguqukayo, noma izinkinga ezinkulu zokuthathekaKulezi zimo, ochwepheshe bengqondo bangase bacabangele ukusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa ezidambisa ukucindezeleka, iziqinisa imizwa, noma izidakamizwa eziphikisana ne-opioid, ezibonise usizo ekwehliseni isifiso sokugembula kumaphrofayela athile.
Esinye isici esiyinhloko yi- amaqembu okuzisiza kanye nokusekelana, njengokuhlotshaniswa okuthile kwabantu abanezinkinga zokugembula noma amaqembu akhuthazwe imodeli yezinyathelo ezingu-12 (isibonelo, Abagembuli Abangaziwa). Ukwabelana ngokuhlangenwe nakho nabanye abaye badlula entweni efanayo kunciphisa imizwa yokuhlazeka futhi kunikeza amamodeli wangempela wokululama.
Kuye ngezidingo, ukwelashwa kungahlelwa njenge iziguli ezingaphandle, zokungeniswa ingxenye, noma izinhlelo zokuhlalaIzinhlelo ezihleliwe ze-inthanethi kanye nokuxoxisana ngocingo nochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo nakho kungaba inketho ewusizo kwabanye abantu abasha, ikakhulukazi ezigabeni zokunakekela kanye nezokunqanda ukuphindeka.
Kuvamile ukuthi uhlelo lokwelapha luphinde lufake ukungenelela kwezinye izinkinga ezihambisanayo, njenge ukusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa, ukuphazamiseka kokudla, noma ubunzima besikolenjengoba ukuthuthuka okuphelele kwezinga lempilo kuthanda ukuhlanganiswa kokuzithiba ekugembuleni.
Umlutha wokugembula entsheni: inkinga ethule enesixazululo
Imitholampilo yochwepheshe ibona ukwanda kwenani lamacala abantu abadala abasha abanomlutha wokugembulaBavame ukufuna usizo lapho imiphumela yezomnotho, yobungcweti, noma engokomzwelo isivele ibonakala kakhulu. Abaningi babo bayaqiniseka ukuthi banesimo esilawulwayo futhi "bangayeka noma nini lapho befuna," kodwa bakuthola kunzima kakhulu ukwenza kanjalo ngokwenza.
Lokhu kubambezeleka ekufuneni usizo kubangela inkinga ibe yiqhwa: izikweletu ziyanda, ubudlelwano bomndeni nezothando buyawohloka, umuzwa onamandla wokuba necala uyavela, nokukhathazeka kuba kubi. Nokho, kubalulekile ukukucacisa lokho Umlutha wokugembula uyelapheka futhi kungenzeka ukuyeka ukugembulangaphandle kokuthi kukhona ukwesekwa okwanele kochwepheshe kanye nokuzibophezela okuqhubekayo ohlelweni.
Kungani ukuba imilutha yokugembula kuyithinta kangaka intsha?
Izinkundla zokubheja ezemidlalo, amakhasino aku-inthanethi, nemidlalo yevidiyo enokuthenga ngaphakathi nohlelo kuklanyelwe ukwenza a umuzwa oqhubekayo wenjabulo kanye nomvuzo osheshayoLokhu kufanelana kahle nosesho lwe-adrenaline, ukuqashelwa okusheshayo, kanye nempumelelo elula evamise ukuba nengxenye yentsha.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukukhangisa kwegeyimu cishe njalo kubonisa uhlangothi lwayo olunobungane: imali ebonakalayo, indlela yokuphila ephumelelayo, ukuzijabulisa nabanganeIsikweletu, ukuhlukaniswa, kanye nempilo yengqondo ewohlokayo akuvamile ukuba kuxoxwe ngakho. Lokhu kungalingani emlayezo kuholela abantu abasha abaningi ukuba balulaze ubungozi futhi bagembule ngaphandle kokucabangela imiphumela yesikhathi esimaphakathi neside.
Izimpawu eziyisixwayiso okungafanele zishaywe indiva
Emndenini nasemphakathini, kubalulekile ukunaka izimpawu ezithile ezingase zibonise a umlutha wokugembula okhulayo kubantu abashaPhakathi kwazo ukuguquguquka kwemizwa kungazelelwe okuhlobene nokuwina noma ukulahlekelwa imali, nenjabulo ephezulu elandelwa ukucasuka okuncane noma ukudabuka okukhulu.
Kuyaphawuleka futhi ukuzihlukanisa okuqhubekayo, ukugwema izibopho (ukungabi khona ekilasini, ukunganaki izabelo, ukufika sekwephuzile emsebenzini) kanye nokwanda kwezaba zokuthethelela ukulova noma ukuhlela izinguquko. Amanga mayelana nendlela imali esetshenziswa ngayo, izicelo ezivamile zemali encane "ezintweni ezithile," kanye nokuvela kwezikweletu ngaphandle kwencazelo ehambisanayo kuyethusa ngokufanayo.
Lapho insizwa isabela nge ukuphika ngokuphelele inkinga noma isimo sengqondo sokuzivikela ngokweqile Uma kukhulunywa ngokugembula, ukubheja, noma imali, kubalulekile ukukuthatha ngokungathi sína. Ukusetshenziswa okuyimpoqo kwezinhlelo zokusebenza zokugembula noma imidlalo yevidiyo edinga ukukhokhelwa njalo, ikakhulukazi ekuseni noma ekusithekeni, kuqeda isithombe sezimpawu ezikhathazayo.
Izinyathelo ezibalulekile zokunqoba ukuluthwa kokugembula
Iphuzu lokuqala njalo ukuqaphela kwangaphakathi ukuthi umlutha ukhonaNgaphandle kwaleso sinyathelo, noma yimuphi umzamo wokwelashwa uhlala ukha phezulu. Kwesinye isikhathi kuyaye kudingeke ukuthi umuntu osemusha ashayeke phansi kwezinye izinto (ezomnotho, ezemizwa, ezemfundo) ukuze amukele ukuthi ngeke esakwazi ukuqhubeka kanje.
Uma inkinga isivunyiwe, inselele elandelayo ithi nqamula umjikelezo wokuzikhohlisa kanye nokulindela okungamangaUmbono wokuthi "Ngizowuwina wonke emuva nge-try elandelayo futhi ngiyeke" ungomunye wabashayeli abakhulu bokulutha. Ukwelapha kusiza ukuqaqa lezi zinkolelo, kubonise ukuthi ithuba lisebenza kanjani, futhi kubonise ukuthi amathuba ahlala enqwabelene ngokumelene nawe.
Ukwelashwa okusebenzayo okusebenzayo ngokuvamile kuhlanganisa ukuhlolwa kokuqala kwengqondo, ukwelashwa kwengqondo-yokuziphatha komuntu ngamunye, izikhathi zeqembu, Ngisebenza nemindeni futhi nginikeza ukuqeqeshwa kokulawula umfutho.Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, amasu okuvimbela ukubuyela emuva kanye nokulandelwa kwesikhathi eside kwengezwa ukuze kuhlanganiswe izinguquko.
Olunye ucezu olubalulekile ukumisa imikhawulo eqinile ezindabeni zezomnotho nezedijithali: ukulawulwa kokufinyeleleka kwamakhadi nama-akhawunti asebhange, ukuqapha noma ukuvinjwa kwezinhlelo ezithile zokusebenza, ukuncishiswa kwesikhathi sokuxhuma nokushintshwa kwemikhuba yokudlala ngezinye izinto ezinempilo.
Ekugcineni, ngale kokumane uyeke ukugembula, umgomo ojulile wokwelapha uwukuthi akhe kabusha iphrojekthi yempilo enenjongo: qalisa kabusha izifundo, setha imigomo engokoqobo yobungcweti, yakha kabusha ubudlelwano, qinisa ukuzethemba, futhi uthole imithombo yokwaneliseka engancikile ethubeni noma emalini esheshayo.
Iqhaza lomndeni ekwelapheni umlutha wokugembula
Indawo eseduze ingaba umngane omkhulu noma, ngokungenhloso, into leyo gcina umlutha isikhathi esideAmalungu omkhaya amaningi enza ngenxa yokwesaba, umuzwa wecala, noma ukuphelelwa ithemba, futhi enza amaphutha avamile: ukukhokha izikweletu ngokuphindaphindiwe, ukumboza umuntu osemusha phambi kwabanye, ngokumbheka ngokweqile, noma ukugwema ukukhuluma ngenkinga ukuze ugweme izingxabano.
Ukwelashwa kugxile ekusizeni umndeni ufunde beka imingcele ecacile ngaphandle kokusebenzisa isijeziso esidluleleBakhuthazwa ukuba bayeke ukunikeza usizo lwezezimali ngemva kokubuya ngakunye futhi balondoloze ukuxhumana okuqinile kodwa okunozwela. Ukwesekwa ngokomzwelo nakho kunikezwa, njengoba ubunzima bokuphila nokulutheka bungaba bukhulu kakhulu.
Lapho osemusha enqaba ukufuna ukwelashwa, amalungu omndeni angathola isiqondiso mayelana ukuthi enze kanjani ukuze amsondeze osizweni lochwepheshe ngaphandle kokunqamula ubudlelwano noma ukungena emibangweni yamandla. Kwesinye isikhathi kuyadingeka ukuthi uqale ngokungenelela nomndeni kuphela kuze kube yilapho umuntu onomlutha esekulungele ukuthatha isinyathelo.
Ukubhekana nokuluthwa kokugembula entsheni kudinga umbono obanzi: ukuqonda izimpande ezingokomzwelo zokugembula, ukuqinisa ukuvimbela ezikoleni nasemakhaya, ukunikeza izinsiza zokwelapha ezikhethekile kanye nokweseka kokubili osemusha kanye nendawo ezungezile ngokusebenzisa inqubo yoshintsho, nakuba inzima, engenzeka ngokuphelele. Ukubona izimpawu kusenesikhathi, ukufuna usizo lochwepheshe, kanye nokulondoloza umzamo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kukhulisa kakhulu amathuba okuthi umuntu aphinde athole ukuzinza, ukuzimela, kanye nohlelo lwempilo olukhululekile ekugembuleni okuyimpoqo.
