Izithombe: imfudumalo yomuntu
Ukugona kungadiliza imigoqo amagama ngezinye izikhathi angakwazi.
Ukugona kuyisibopho esiqinile esisungulwe phakathi kwabantu ababili; kukho sithola induduzo, ubungane, ubuzalwane, uthando, kanye nozwela. Kuyisenzo esivamile esixhumana ngisho nalapho amazwi engekho futhi siqinisa izibopho eziyigugu kakhulu.
Abantu bayachuma lapho bexhumana ngokomzimba futhi bavame ukubuna ngaphandle kwakho. Siyizidalwa zomphakathi. Isenzo esilula sokugona singaphakamisa umoya womuntu futhi simenze azizwe exhumene nomunye umuntu. Uma ugona omunye umuntu, kufanele ulahle konke okunye bese ugxila kulokho kuhlangana.
Umhlaba uvame ukuba yindawo ebandayo nekude. Sakha izindonga ezizungezile ukuze sigcine abanye bengasondeli. Kule nqubo, sivame ukulahlekelwa umbono wokuthi yini ebaluleke kakhulu. Sibanjwa yizimpi ukuze sisinde. Siyakhohlwa ukuthi kufanele senze okungaphezu nje kokusinda nokuba khona. Kufanele siphile. Lesi senzo esivulekile nesiqotho esibizwa ngokuthi ukwanga, noma ngabe okwesikhashana nje, singabhidliza izithiyo ezivame ukusihlukanisa.
Okusihlukanisa nemishini akusikho ukuhlakanipha kwethu nokucabanga. Kunalokho, yikhono lokuxhumana ezingeni elizwakala futhi liqondwe yisidalwa esiphilayo kuphela. Ukuxhumana kokuthinta nothando kuyisidingo esiyisisekelo futhi kuyingxenye yethu esivumela ukuba sichume.
Kuyini ukwanga futhi kungani kusebenza?
Ukugona kuwukuxhumana okungenazwi : imizimba emibili iyahlangana futhi ihlanganisa izingalo. Lokhu kuxhumana kuvuselela uhlelo lwezinzwa lwe-parasympathetic, olubangela ukuzola, futhi kubangele ukukhishwa kwama-hormone afana ne -oxytocin (ukubopha nokuvikeleka), i-serotonin, kanye ne-dopamine (imizwa kanye nesisusa), kuyilapho amazinga e -cortisol (ukucindezeleka) ehla. Ukuxabana nomuntu ovamile kungase kungabi nomthelela, kodwa ukugona okuqotho okubanjwe imizuzwana embalwa kuba ukwelapha.
Kubantu abazizwa benesizungu noma bengenalo i-inthanethi, ukwanga kwangempela kuyisikhumbuzo esibonakalayo sokuthi ababodwa . Yingakho abanakekeli namalungu omndeni bekusebenzisa njengethuluzi lokuba khona, ukunakekela, kanye nokusekela buthule.
Izinzuzo ezingokomzwelo nezingokomzimba ezifakazelwe
Ezingeni elingokomzwelo, ukwanga kunikeza isivikelo , ukwethembana, futhi kunciphisa imizwa yokukhathazeka ngokushesha okungafezwa ngamazwi ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kuphinde kuqinise ukuzethemba , kunciphise ukudabuka, futhi kukhuthaze ukuxhumana kanye nomuzwa wokuba yingxenye yomunye.
Ezingeni lomzimba, imiphumela elinganisekayo iyabonwa: yehlisa umfutho wegazi kanye nokushaya kwenhliziyo ngenxa yama-receptor athintayo njenge-Pacinian corpuscles; ikhuthaza ukuthuthwa komoya-mpilo okungcono kwezicubu ; yandisa ukukhiqizwa kwamangqamuzana amhlophe egazi ahilelekile ekuvikeleni amasosha omzimba; futhi ikusiza ulale kangcono ngokunciphisa i-cortisol nokukhuthaza i-melatonin ebusuku.
Ukukhishwa kwama -endorphin kusiza ekunciphiseni ubuhlungu nokuthuthukisa ukubekezelela ukungakhululeki (isibonelo, ezimweni ezingamahlalakhona). Ngaphezu kwalokho, isibuyekezo esibanzi sesayensi samakhulu ezifundo kanye nabahlanganyeli abangaphezu kuka-12.900 sixhumanise ukungenelela okusekelwe ekuthinteni (njengokwanga) namazinga aphansi obuhlungu, ukucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka, kanye nezimpawu zokucindezeleka.
Umphumela obalulekile wokwanga ukuthi inzuzo yakho ihlala isikhathi eside : umuzwa wokuthula nokuxhumana udlulela ngale kwesikhathi sokuxhumana, yingakho ukwenza umkhuba kuwumkhuba onempilo kakhulu.
Izinhlobo zokugona kanye nencazelo yazo
- uMvikeli: Iqinile futhi ifudumele. Idlulisa ukuphepha: "Ngilapha nawe."
- Okwenduduzo: osizini noma osizini. Amandla ayo atholakala ekuthuleni okunozwela.
- Uthando noma uthando: Nsuku zonke futhi ngokuzenzakalelayo. Iqinisa isibopho phakathi kwemindeni nemibhangqwana.
- Siyakwamukela noma ukuvalelisa: kafushane kodwa okungokomfanekiso; kukhulula ukungabi nalutho kokuhlukana.
- Iqembu noma umndeni: abantu abaningi ngesikhathi esisodwa; yakha ubulungu kanye nenyunyana.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi isitayela sinjani, zonke zinemfanelo eyodwa: ziyakhathalela umzimba nomphefumulo.
Ukwanga abantu abadala, ebuntwaneni, naphezu kwesizungu
Kwabadala asebekhulile, ukufaka ukwangana ekunakekelweni kwansuku zonke kuqinisa isibopho , kunciphisa imizwa yokuzihlukanisa, futhi kukhuthaza ukuthula. Ezindaweni zasekhaya, kunikeza indawo esondelene lapho isenzo sifika ngesikhathi esifanele nangomfutho ofanele . Ngezikhathi zokuzihlukanisa, ukugcina ukuxhumana okuphephile nokuthandana kuhlotshaniswa nengozi ephansi enhlalakahleni engokomzwelo ngisho nasekusindeni.
Ebuntwaneni, ukwangana kufundisa ukuthi ukuthinta kuphephile futhi kunothando , kubonisa ukubonakaliswa okunempilo ngokomzwelo, futhi kukhuthaza intuthuko yezenhlalo nengokomzwelo. Emindenini nasebunganeni, ukwangana kuqinisa ukwethembana , kunciphisa izingxabano, futhi kusiza ukulungisa ibanga ngokomzwelo.
Abantu abaningi bachaza ukwanga njengendlela "yokwamukela umphefumulo." Amasiko amasiko nangokomoya abelokhu ekubona njengophawu lwesiphephelo nothando olungenamibandela: ukubaluleka kwakho komuntu kudlula imibono nezikhathi.
Bangaki ukwanga ngosuku?
Ukwenza ukugona kube umkhuba kwenza umehluko omkhulu. Umthetho odumile usikisela: ukugona okungu-4 ukuze usinde, okungu-8 ukuze ulondoloze isimo esihle ngokomzwelo, kanye noku-12 ukuze ukhule futhi uchume. Ngaphezu kwenani eliqondile, kukhuthaza ukugona njalo nangobukhona bangempela.
Nazi ezinye izingcaphuno mayelana namandla ahlala ku-hug nevidiyo:
- "Awukwazi ukugoqa uthando ngebhokisi, kodwa ungagoqa umuntu ngokumanga." Umbhali akaziwa.
- "Izigidi nezigidi zeminyaka futhi angikabi naso isikhathi esanele sokuchaza lowo mzuzu omncane wengunaphakade lapho ungigaxa izingalo zakho futhi ngibeka izingalo zami eduze kwakho." UJacques Prevert.
- "Ukugona buthule kusho amazwi angaphezu kwenkulungwane enhliziyweni edabukileyo." Umbhali akaziwa.
- "Ukwanga vala umnyango inzondo." Tony Davis.
- "Ukugona, ukuxhawula, ngisho nokuthinta okuhloswe kahle kudlulisa amandla awusizo ukuqinisa amasosha omzimba."
- "Ukwanga akudingi izinto ezintsha, amabhethri, noma izingxenye ezikhethekile. Kufanele uvule izingalo zakho uvule inhliziyo yakho." Jill Lobo
Manje ngikushiya nale vidiyo enhle nenengqondo:
Ividiyo: umthelela womzwelo
Ukugona kulula futhi kukhululekile, kodwa umthelela wako ujulile: kunciphisa ukucindezeleka , kuthuthukisa inhlalakahle , kuqinisa ubudlelwano , futhi kusikhumbuza ukuthi siyafaneleka. Uma sekuphele isikhathi eside kusukela wagcina ukugona othile, mhlawumbe namuhla usuku oluhle lokuqala.