Bonke abantu banamandla okunqoba izithiyo. Kodwa-ke, kukhona labo abangalazi ikhono abanalo. Kukho konke ukuphila kwabo balahlekelwe ukuzethemba kubona ngenxa yezinqumo ezingalungile.
Abaningi baphephela ekusebenziseni izidakamizwa noma kwezinye izidakamizwa ukuze banqobe ukukhungatheka abangakwazanga ukunqoba. Lokhu kuziphatha kubaholela ekujuleni kokubi futhi bacwila ngokujula emgodini.
Kuyadingeka ukubhekana nobunzima bempilo ngesibindi, ngokuzethemba uqobo. Ukubhekana nezinselele nezingozi kuphela ubuso nobuso sizophuma siqinisiwe. Kwesinye isikhathi sizozifeza futhi kwesinye isikhathi ngeke sikwenze. Kodwa-ke, kuzoduduza ukwazi ukuthi senze konke okusemandleni ukuzama ukunqoba lezo zithiyo. Ngokuzayo sizoqina futhi sizokwazi ukuthi singayithola kanjani indlela yokuqhubekela phambili.
"Bonke ubunzima obugwenyiwe buzoba yisipoki esizophazamisa ukuphumula kwethu." uFrédéric Chopin (Umdlali wepiyano wasePoland nomqambi). Buka ividiyo:
Ukuqina: Iyini futhi kungani iqinisa impilo yakho
Ukuqina yiyona ikhono lokuzivumelanisa nokululama lapho sibhekene nobunzima. Ngokwe-etymologically, ibhekisela "ekubuyeni emuva" noma ukubuyela efomini, futhi ku-psychology ichaza indlela umuntu. uyalulama futhi aqhubeke nokuya phambili naphezu kwezithiyo. Ngokwezincazelo zezemfundo, kuhilela ukulingana okuhle ebusweni besehlakalo esiphazamisayo kanye nokubamba iqhaza kwe izici ezingokomzwelo, zengqondo nezenhlalo lokho kwenza kwenzeke.
Ngaphandle “kokubekezela,” ukukhuthazela kuhilela nikeza incazelo kulokho okuhlangenwe nakho, khipha izifundo kanye phuma ngamandlaAbasunguli balo mqondo bawuhlanganisa ne okunamathiselwe theory, okugqamisa ukuthi amabhondi okuphepha angaphambi kwesikhathi asiza leli khono.
Zivumelanise nezikhathi ezinzima futhi uzinakekele impilo yengqondo
Lapho ubhekene nokulahlekelwa, ukugula, inhlekelele, ukuxhashazwa, noma ukuhlukumezeka, kungokwemvelo ukuzizwa ubuhlungu, intukuthelo noma ukwesabaUkuqina akuyiqedi inkinga, kodwa kuyasiza lawula ukucindezeleka, vikela ngokumelene ukukhathazeka nokudangala futhi uhlale isifundo. Akusho ukubekezelela okungabekezeleleki noma ukubhekana nakho wedwa: cela futhi wamukele ukwesekwa insika eyisihluthulelo.
Labo abangenawo amathuluzi bavame ukuphahlazeka, ukuzizwa njengezisulu noma ukufuna ukukhululeka okungenampilo (ukudla, ukuziphatha okuyingozi). Ukuthuthukisa ukuqina kuqondisa kabusha lezi zimpendulo imikhuba yokuzivikela.
Amathiphu angasebenziseka we khulisa ukuqina kwakho
- Conecta: hlakulela ubudlelwano obuseduze; ukwesekwa okuvela emndenini, abangani, amavolontiya, noma izinhlinzeko zomphakathi ezingokomoya isiqondiso nokusekelwa kokuhle nokunzima.
- Yenza zonke izinsuku zibalwe: kulungisiwe imigomo ecacile nefinyelelekayo, ibungaza izimpumelelo ezincane futhi ikhulise umuzwa wenjongo yansuku zonke.
- Funda kokudlule: Thola ukuthi yini ekusize ngaphambili; bhala amaphethini akho ukuze phindaphinda amasu awusizo.
- Gcina ithemba: okwedlule akushintshi, kodwa yebo impendulo yakho yesikhathi esizayo. Thola indawo yoshintsho ukuze ukwazi ukuzivumelanisa nokukhathazeka okuncane.
- Nakekela: ukulala ngokwanele, ukudla okunomsoco, ukunyakaza kwansuku zonke kanye nemikhuba ye ukuphathwa kwengcindezi njengokuphefumula okujulile, ukuzindla, i-yoga, ukubona ngeso lengqondo noma umthandazo.
- Thatha isinyathelo: Ungayizibi inkinga; kuchaze izinyathelo eziqinile futhi niwakhiphe, azi ukuthi ukululama kungase kuthathe isikhathi.
Ukuqina kwengqondo: qeqesha eyakho ukucabanga
1) Thola imicabango ezenzakalelayo ukulinganiselwa (inhlekelele, ukuzigxeka, konke noma lutho). 2) Babuze: Yibuphi ubufakazi bangempela obukhona? Iyiphi enye incazelo ewusizo nenembe kakhudlwana? 3) Hlela kabusha Ngendlela engokoqobo neyakhayo, zijwayeze ukubonga futhi buka inqubekelaphambiliLo msipha wengqondo uthuthukisa izixazululo kanye nemizwa.
Izici ezivamile zabantu eqinile
- Ukuzibandakanya okusebenzayo ebhekene nenkinga futhi ukucinga izinketho.
- Ithemba elingokoqobo nokuqapha okuzolile ukuphendula ngesikhathi.
- Ukuzimela, isinyathelo kanye nokuvuleleka kokuhlangenwe nakho okusha.
- Ukudala ukuxazulula kanye namandla okulindela.
Ubukhulu obuthathu buhlanganisiwe: ubukhona be ubunzima, ukujwayela okuhle y izinsiza zomuntu siqu/somphakathi lokho kulamula inqubo.
Ukuhlanzeka ngokomzwelo kanye ukucabanga
Yamukela kanye negama imizwa yakho ngaphandle kokuyicindezela; kungaleso sikhathi kuphela lapho bengaguqulwa khona. Qeqesha i presencia (ukucabangela) kunciphisa ukusebenza kabusha, ukuhlela imicabango futhi kuthuthukise umuzwa we isilawuli. Gcwalisa ngemisebenzi onayo letha injabulo kanye nokushajwa kabusha kwengqondo.
Kungani ngezinye izikhathi sabaleka wezinkinga
El ukwesaba ukwehluleka kuqeda ukuzethemba futhi kwenze umuntu akugweme; ukugcwala kwemizwelo qeda futhi ukungabi namakhono ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo. Ukuhlonza ukuthi yiziphi kulezi zici ezinesisindo esengeziwe kukuvumela ukuba wenze kanjalo ngenelela ecaleni futhi aphule umjikelezo wokuzindela.
Ukuqeqeshwa okuphelele: ukwesekwa komphakathi, ukuzazi nobuhlakani bemizwa
- Ukusekelwa komphakathi: Ukuzwa ukuzwa kukhuthaza izixazululo kanye nengcindezi ye-cushions.
- Ukuzazi: Cacisa amandla nemikhawulo ukuze uyisebenzise ngempumelelo futhi uthuthukise eyakho i-autoeficacia.
- Uhlakaniphile ngokomzwelo: bona, veza futhi ulawule imizwa nokuzijwayeza uzwela kusiza ubudlelwano nezivumelwano.
Shintsha ukubukeka futhi i-resolver ngenkuthalo
Gwema ukukhulisa usizi njengenhlekelele. Cabanga ngezinkinga njenge izigaba zokukhula,evula umnyango funa ezinye izindlela, hlola imiphumela bese ukhetha esebenza kakhulu. Uma "udonga olukhulu" luvela, qaphela ongakhetha kukho: zungeza, khuphuka ngosizo noma uthole enye indlela.
Nini cela usizo lochwepheshe
Uma ungenzi inqubekela phambili noma ungazi ukuthi ungaqala kuphi, hamba kuchwepheshe wezempilo. impilo yengqondo kusheshisa inqubekelaphambili. Isiqondiso esifanele siqinisa izinsiza zangaphakathi futhi kucacisa uhlelo.
Ukuqina ebuntwaneni futhi ukunakekelwa kwezingane okungebona abazali bazo
Ezinganeni ezike zaphila ukulahlwa, ukunganakwa noma ukuhlukunyezwaUkuqina kuyithuluzi elibalulekile. Abanakekeli nabachwepheshe bangayithuthukisa ngezinsika ezinhlanu:
- Indawo ephephile: uhlaka oluvikelayo, oluzinzile nolubikezelwayo; elula futhi ukulalela okusebenzayo lokho okuqinisekisa ukuzizwisa kwakho.
- Ukuzimela: izinqumo ngokwentuthuko yazo ukuze ziqinise ukuzihlonipha nomuzwa wokulawula, ngokuhambisana.
- Imigomo efinyelelekayo: izinjongo ezithile okuthi uma sezifinyelelwe, yakha ukwethembana ngezinselele ezintsha.
- Imfundo engokomzwelo: bona, veza futhi ulawule imizwa; khuthaza uzwela ukulungisa okungcono komphakathi.
- Amamodeli anempilo: ukuvumelana phakathi kwalokho okwenziwa umuntu omdala nalokho okulindelekile; akukho ukumemeza kokuzola.
Ukufutheka okunamathiselwe okuphephile, amanethiwekhi osekelo aqondile kanye nokuba khona okutholakalayo kukhuthaza lokho okubizwa ngokuthi “okungokwesibili” nokuthuthuka okuqhubekayo enempilo.
Izici ezivamile ezinganeni eqinile
- Amakhono aqinile okuqonda kanye ukuxazulula inkinga iyasebenza
- Izitayela zokubhekana eguquguqukayo kanye nokuzethemba okuhle.
- Amakhono omphakathi kanye nokwesekwa kwemvelo yabo; isimo sengqondo esihle.
- Ukuthatha izinqumo ezihambisana neminyaka yobudala kanye uzwela.
Isimo sezulu uthando nokunakekela nokufunda ikhono okusobala kwandisa ikhono labo lokunqoba izithiyo.
Physiotherapy nawe ukuqina: umzimba nengqondo kuxhumene
Ngaphezu kokubhekana nomzimba, i-physiotherapy iqinisa imisipha ukuxhumana nomzimba futhi ingasekela ukulungiswa kwakho kwemizwa:
- Yehlisa ukungezwani ngokomzimba kanye ne-cortisol (isb., ukubhucungwa kokwelapha), ukwenza kube lula ukuzola kwengqondo.
- Ikhuthaza ukukhishwa kwe- ama-endorphin, ngcono isimo.
- Ukuthuthuka ukuqwashisa umzimba (isb., izindlela ze-psychocorporal), ukhiye wokulawula imizwa.
- Iyakhuthaza imikhuba esebenzayo ezisekela impilo ephelele kanye nokuqina.
- U-Alivia izimpawu ngokomzimba (njengobuhlungu obungapheli) obuqeda amandla angokwengqondo.
- isitimela amasu okubhekana nawo ngokusebenzisa izivivinyo ze-psychomotor.
- Ifaka isandla ekuphathweni kwe ukukhathazeka nokudangala okuhambisana nobuhlungu obungapheli.
- iqinisa i ukuzethemba komzimba ekutholeni kabusha ukusebenza.
Amasu awusizo ukunciphisa ukucindezeleka: ukwelashwa okwenziwa ngesandla, ukuphumula kwemisipha okuqhubekayo, ukuvivinya umzimba kokuphefumula, ukwelapha ukunyakaza kanye nokuvuselela izinzwa (kuhlanganise ne-aromatherapy) okunikezwa ochwepheshe abaqeqeshiwe.
Imibuzo ukuthi thuthukisa ukukhula kwakho
- Ngiyini mina ukufunda yalesi simo futhi yini encike kimi?
- Yini izinketho Nginaso njengamanje futhi yisiphi isinyathelo sokuqala esisebenzayo?
- Ngezinga elingakanani ngingaphezulu uyakwazi ngalokho engangikucabanga nokuthi ngikuqaphele kanjani?
- Lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho kuzongisiza kanjani? ikusasa?
Ezikhathini zobunzima obusabalele, njengobhubhane, le mikhuba iba yigugu kakhulu: ukwamukela iqiniso, gwema izikhalazo ezingapheli, ukuphila esikhathini samanje, ukubukeza okulindelekile kanye nokuphakamisa ezinye izindlela ezingokoqobo kunikeza ukuzethemba okondliwa izinselele ziyanqobaIndlela eya ekuqiniseni amandla iyaqeqesheka kunoma ibuphi ubudala futhi iyashesha uma uhlanganisa ukusekela, imikhuba enempilo, kanye nengqondo eguquguqukayo, egxile kwisixazululo.