Ngaphambi kokuba siqhubekele kule micabango engu-50 esakazeke kakhulu kanye nokuzindla, ngiyakumema ukuthi ubukele le vidiyo efihla ukuzindla okuhle.
Umuntu oziphatha njengomlingiswa oyinhloko kule vidiyo kufanele ajabule.
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Manene namanenekazi, qaphelani, kunezinye ezinhle kakhulu. Ngezinye izikhathi, isisho esilula singashintsha umbono wakho futhi sikukhumbuze ukuthi yini ebaluleke ngempela.
Kungani le mishwana ingena egazini (nokuthi kungani siyithanda)
Imicabango ezwakala ezinkundleni zokuxhumana ivame ukuba mifushane, ibe nomthelela, futhi ikhumbuleka kakhulu . Uma ivezwa njengemibhalo engezansi noma imibhalo emifushane, ikhiqiza impumuzo esheshayo kanye nomuzwa wokucaca. Le fomethi iyasebenza ngoba yenza imibono eyinkimbinkimbi ibe lula futhi iyenze kube lula ukuyikhumbula. Into ebalulekile ukuthi, nakuba iduduza, akuyona yonke into efanelana nomusho owodwa : izihloko ezifana nempilo yengqondo noma ubudlelwano zidinga umongo nokuzwela.
Endaweni ebuswa ama-algorithms, imiyalezo ehlukanisiwe noma enezigaba eziningi ivame ukusabalala kalula, ngezinye izikhathi ngaphandle kolwazi olunembile. Ngakho-ke, kungcono ukufunda lezi zingcaphuno njengezindawo zokuqala zokuzindla , hhayi njengamaqiniso aphelele azoxazulula noma yisiphi isimo ngokwawo.
Ubudlelwano, umona, kanye nemingcele: lapho amazwi asho amazwi esiwa
Umqondo wokuthi ubudlelwano obuhle budinga "ukubeka imingcele" noma ukuthi "akufanele ube nothile uze uzithande" usuthole ukuthandwa. Le miyalezo, uma iqondwa kahle, ikhuthaza ukuzinakekela . Kodwa-ke, ukuyithatha ngokoqobo kungaba nzima : ukubeka imingcele kungaba isenzo sokuzithanda, kodwa kungaholela nasekungaguquguquki uma kusetshenziselwa ukugwema ingxoxo noma umthwalo wemfanelo owabiwe.
Kwenzeka into efanayo ngomhawu: ukuwubiza ngokuzenzakalelayo ngokuthi “unobuthi” kungasivimbela ekuqapheleni nasekubhekaneni nokungazethembi kwethu . Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuziqhayisa ngokuthi “asinamona” kungasifihla ibanga elingokomzwelo . Ubudlelwano babantu buyinkimbinkimbi; ukuxhumana ngokucophelela, ukuhlola izici ezihlukile, nokufuna usizo lochwepheshe lapho kudingeka kuwuphawu lokuvuthwa, hhayi ubuthakathaka.
Ukuzinakekela nokuzithanda: ibhalansi ngokumelene "mina kuqala"
Ukuzithanda nokuzinakekela kuyigugu, kodwa akufanele kube yizaba zokuzimela . Ukwenza "mina kuqala" kube yinto evamile kungaholela ekungaqondini kahle ukuthembela kwethu ngokwemvelo kwabanye. Ngezinye izikhathi, sikhula ngokunembile ngokuxhumana nabanye , hhayi ngokulindela ukuba yinguqulo "ephelele" yethu ngaphambi kokwakha ubudlelwano. Ukusekelana, ukucela usizo, noma ukunaka izidingo zabanye akufani nokuthembela ngokomzwelo uma kukhona inhlonipho nemingcele enempilo.
Amagama adumile alahlekelwe ukunemba ezinkundleni zokuxhumana
Imibono efana nokuthi “ubuthi,” “umuntu onevithamini,” “ifulegi elibomvu,” “ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo,” “umthwalo wemfanelo ngokomzwelo,” “uzwela,” kanye “nobugovu” isisabalele. Inkinga iwukuthi, uma iphindaphindwa ngaphandle komongo, ilahlekelwa umqondo futhi ibe amalebula ahlambalaza ngaphezu kokusiza. Isibonelo, ukuba nozwela akusho ukuthi “umuntu omuhle”: awukwazi ukuzizwa ngendlela efanayo nomunye umuntu kodwa umsekele ngenhlonipho nangaphandle kokwahlulela.
Uma sifuna “amaqiniso ajwayelekile” amnyama namhlophe, izinqumo ezisheshayo kanye nomuzwa wokulawula ongamanga ziyavela. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lokhu kulula kungasivimbela ekufuneni usizo (“engikufunda ezinkundleni zokuxhumana kwanele kimi”). Ukuqaphela ubunzima nokugwema ukuzihlola ngokushesha kuyisihluthulelo sokuzinakekela kangcono.
Iyini iphuzu lokuzindla nsuku zonke?
I-Psychology isikisela ukuthi umkhuba wokufunda nokuzindla ngemisho enokuqukethwe okunenjongo kusiza ukuxhumanisa imibono esasingayixhumanisi ngaphambili . Lo msebenzi uqinisa izindlela ezintsha zengqondo futhi ukhuthaza ukuguquguquka kwengqondo.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuhlola imibono ehlukene kuthuthukisa umbono wethu wezenhlalo , kwandisa izici esichaza ngazo okuhlangenwe nakho kwethu, futhi kwenza kube lula ukuyeka ukucabanga ngokweqile . Ngokubeka ukukhathazeka kwethu endaweni efanele, sithola ukuthula okukhulu kokuthatha isinyathelo nokwenza izinqumo.
1) "Ungayeki, isiqalo sihlala siyingxenye enzima kakhulu."
2) "Ubuciko bokungabi nabulungisa ukuvela nje ngaphandle kokuba njalo." - UPlato
3) "Iphutha elivamile: ukucabanga esikhundleni sokucela."
4) “Ukufundisa indlela yokucabanga kungomunye wemisebenzi eyinhloko yemfundo yobuhlakani.” U-Enrique Rojas
5) "Injabulo iyingqikithi kanye nesifinyezo salokho umuntu akwenzile ngempilo yakhe." - Enrique Rojas
6) "Injabulo noma ukungajabuli akukalwa ngaphandle kodwa ngaphakathi." Giacomo Leopardi
7) “Ubugwala bungunina wonya.” UMichel de Montaigne
8) “Akekho ongagonywanga ekukhulumeni izinto eziwubuwula; inkinga ukusho izinto ngokugcizelela.” UMichel de Montaigne
9) "Izenzo ezincane zosuku ngalunye zakha noma zaphula ubuntu." - U-Oscar Wilde
10) "Isihluthulelo sempumelelo ukwazi ukubaluleka kwezinto." - UJohn Boyle O'Reilly
11) "Impumelelo itholakala ngokuguqula isinyathelo ngasinye sibe umgomo kanye nomgomo ngamunye ube yisinyathelo." CC Cortez
12) "Ngihlulekile kaningi empilweni yami, yingakho ngiphumelela." - Michael Jordan
13) "Iqiniso alikwazi ukuvunyelwana ngalo." U-Enrique Rojas
14) "Ukuze ujabule kumele ufunde ukunganaki izinto eziningi."
15) "Isiwula asisoze salulama empumelelweni." - Oscar Wilde
16) “Ngithanda ukuzijabulisa okulula; kuyisiphephelo sokugcina samadoda ayinkimbinkimbi.” U-Oscar Wilde
17) "Kulabo abangangithandi, ngibafisela impilo ende ukuze babone ukunqoba kwami."
18) "Izinyembezi ezibuhlungu kakhulu yilezo esizikhipha ngasese."
19) "Ngezinye izikhathi sibheka isikhathi esidlule njengobaluleke kakhulu bese siguqula sibe yisikhathi sethu samanje esiphakade."
20) "Inhlonipho isiyinto engavamile kangangokuthi abanye abantu bayithatha njengesenzo sokuthandana."
21) "Fundisa izingane zakho ukuba zijabule, hhayi ukuceba... Ngaleyo ndlela, lapho zikhula, zizoqonda ukubaluleka kwezinto, hhayi intengo."
22) "Umuntu omuhle uguqula izinkinga zakhe zibe yizinselele, angalokothi abe yizithiyo."
23) “Esikhundleni sokuba yindoda ephumelelayo, lwela ukuba yindoda enenani: okunye kuzoza ngokwemvelo.” U-Einstein
24) "Akukho ukuhlakanipha lapho kungekho shintsho, futhi kungekho sidingo soshintsho." UGeorge Wells
25) “Ukubekezela kuyisihlahla esinezimpande ezibabayo kodwa izithelo ezimnandi kakhulu.” Isaga sesiPheresiya
26) "Ukwenza lokho okuthandayo kuyinkululeko; ukuthanda lokho okwenzayo kuyinjabulo."
27) "Jabula ngoba ukungalungi kuhlala kukhokhelwa, ngoba ubuhlungu buhlala bunqotshwa, futhi ngoba amaphutha ayakufundisa."
28) "Umuntu ofanelwe nguwe, onenkululeko yokwenza noma yini ayifunayo, okukhethayo njalo."
29) "Uma ufuna ukwazi ukuthi umuntu unjani, bheka ukuthi uphatha kanjani abantu abaphansi kuye, hhayi abalingana naye."
30) "Ngithanda abantu abakufuna ngaphandle kwesizathu, abakuthandayo ngaphandle kokukubheka, futhi abahlala bengenazibopho."
31) "Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ugcina uqaphela lapho othile ekukhathalela nalapho engakukhathaleli."
32) "Ukukhuluma ngezinkinga kudala izinkinga. Ukukhuluma ngezixazululo kudala izixazululo."
33) "Izikhathi ezinhle kakhulu empilweni yilezo ongeke utshele muntu ngazo."
34) "Akekho oza kuwe ngengozi, konke kuyingxenye yendaba yakho futhi wonke umuntu unesizathu."
35) "Kukhona amandla ashukumisayo anamandla kakhulu kunomusi, ugesi, kanye namandla e-athomu: intando." - U-Einstein
36) "Ingqondo egcwele ukungabaza ayikwazi ukugxila empumelelweni."
37) “Bala iminyaka yakho ngabangane, hhayi iminyaka. Bala impilo yakho ngokumomotheka, hhayi izinyembezi.” UJohn Lennon
38) “Iphupho oliphupha wedwa liyiphupho nje. Iphupho oliphupha nothile liyiqiniso.” UJohn Lennon
39) “Impilo ayikulindele ndawo, iyenzeka kuwe.” Osho
40) "Angilinganisi impumelelo ngokunqoba kwami, kodwa ngezikhathi engikwazile ngazo ukuvuka ekunqotshweni."
41) “Obuthakathaka akasoze akhohlwa. Ukukhohlwa kuyimfanelo yabanamandla.” Mahatma Gandhi
42) "Kunzima uma umuntu okhethekile eqala ukukukhohlwa, kodwa kunzima nakakhulu ukwenza sengathi awunandaba."
43) "Isiphetho sikubeka endleleni efanayo nomunye umuntu, kodwa kuncike kini nobabili ukuthi nihambe ndawonye."
44) "Impilo ilula kakhulu, kodwa siphikelela ekwenzeni kube nzima." Confucius
45) "Ukhula kuphela ngokunqoba izithiyo."
46) "Izinto zinenani esizinika lona kuphela." Molière
47) "Abantu abangabekezeleleki kakhulu ngamadoda acabanga ukuthi angongqondongqondo nabesifazane abacabanga ukuthi abanakuvinjelwa." Oscar Wilde
48) "Kubalulekile ukuzama ukuzithuthukisa njalo; lo msebenzi kumele uhlale impilo yonke."
49) "Kudinga iqhawe ukumamatheka lapho inhliziyo yakho ikhala."
50) “Uma uthola lokho okuthandayo, uzithola ngempela.” U-Agnes Martin [mashshare].
Uma zisetshenziswa ngokuhlakanipha, lezi zinkulumo ziyakhuthaza futhi ziyakhuthaza; zihunyushwa ngendlela ecacile, zikhuthaza ukuqonda nokukhula . Isihluthulelo ukuzisebenzisa njengesisekelo sengxoxo, ukucela usizo uma kudingeka, nokuguqula ukuzindla kube yisenzo ekuphileni kwansuku zonke.