Ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo kubhekwa njengento ebalulekile yempumelelo nenjabulo , hhayi emsebenzini kuphela kodwa nasebudlelwaneni bethu nakwezinye izindawo zokuphila kwethu.
Empeleni, i-EI ihlanganisa amakhono omuntu siqu kanye nawezenhlalo : ukuzazi kanye nokuzilawula (indlela esiziqonda futhi sizilawula ngayo) kanye nokuqwashisa umphakathi kanye nokuphathwa kobudlelwano (indlela esiqonda futhi sixhumana ngayo nabanye). Lawa makhono amane asenza sikwazi ukwenza izinqumo ezinolwazi oluthe xaxa , ukuphatha ukucindezeleka, nokwakha ubudlelwano obuhle.
Yini echaza abantu abahlakaniphile ngokomzwelo? Nazi imikhuba eyisikhombisa yabantu abahlakaniphile ngokomzwelo.
1) Gxila kokuhle.
Lokhu akusho ukuthi abazinaki izindaba ezimbi, kodwa kunalokho bathatha isinqumo esihlakaniphile sokungachithi isikhathi esiningi namandla ezinkingeni.
Kunalokho, bagxila ezicini ezinhle zesimo esithile futhi bafuna izixazululo zenkinga. Laba bantu bagxila kulokho abakwaziyo ukukwenza, kulokho abangakwazi ukukulawula. Baqeqesha ukunaka kwabo ukuze bakutshale kulokho okuwusizo: umzamo wabo kanye nokugxila kwabo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, bahlakulela ithemba elingokoqobo elithuthukisa ukusebenza kanye nenhlalakahle.
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2) Zizungeze abantu abahle.
Abantu abanobuhlakani obuphezulu bemizwa abachithi isikhathi belalela izikhalazo futhi bavame ukugwema abantu abangalungile.
Bachitha isikhathi nabanye abantu abahle . Abantu abahlakaniphile ngokomzwelo bachitha isikhathi nabanye abantu abahle futhi babona uhlangothi oluhle lokuphila.
Ungababona kalula laba bantu ngoba bavame ukumamatheka kakhulu futhi bakhanga abanye abantu abahle.
3) Babeka imingcele yokuqina lapho kudingeka.
Ngenxa yobungane babo nokuvuleleka kwabo, bangase babonakale bengenalwazi kwabanye. Kodwa-ke, abantu abanobuhlakani obukhulu bemizwa bayakwazi ukuzibekela imingcele futhi bazimele uma kudingeka.
Zibonisa imfudumalo nokucabangela, kodwa zime phansi ngasikhathi sinye.
Abazenzi izitha ngokungadingekile. Bacabangela ngokucophelela izimpendulo zabo ezimweni ezingase zibe yingxabano. Bacabanga ngaphambi kokuba bakhulume futhi bazinike isikhathi sokuthula. Lokhu kuthula ngamabomu kuyindlela yokuhlehlisa izinto ngendlela ehlose ukuvimbela ukushesha, kube lula ukuqiniseka, futhi kuqede amandla abantu abanobuthi.
4) Bacabanga ngekusasa, hhayi esidlule.
Abantu abanobuhlakani obukhulu bemizwa bamatasa kakhulu becabanga ngazo zonke izinto ezingenzeka esikhathini esizayo ukuze bachithe isikhathi ezintweni ezingasebenzi esikhathini esidlule.
Bafunda emaphutheni abo adlule. Abakaze bakubone ukwehluleka njengento ehlala njalo.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, bajwayela ukuhlela kabusha indaba : bachaza kabusha izithiyo njengokufunda okuhlangenwe nakho, bavikele injabulo yabo ngaphandle kokuziqhathanisa nabanye, futhi abavumeli imibono yangaphandle ukuthi inciphise isisusa sabo.
5) Babheka izindlela zokwenza impilo ibe mnandi kakhulu, ijabule futhi ithakazelise.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi basemsebenzini, ekhaya, noma nabangani, abantu abanobuhlakani obukhulu bemizwa bayazi ukuthi yini ebenza bajabule futhi bafuna amathuba okwandisa injabulo yabo.
Bayajabula ukubona abanye abantu bejabule futhi banelisekile , futhi benza konke okusemandleni abo ukuze bakhanyise usuku lomunye umuntu.
Baguqula imisebenzi eyisicefe ibe yimidlalo, banezela ukuthinta okudlalwayo emisebenzini yabo, futhi babelane ngaleyo mandla amahle. Lesi simo sengqondo sinciphisa ukucindezeleka futhi sakhe ukuqina okuhlala isikhathi eside.
6) Bafunda ngokuqhubekayo.
Bangabafundi bokuphila kwabo konke , bakhula njalo futhi bashintshashintsha, bavulekele imibono emisha, futhi bahlala bezimisele ukufunda kwabanye.
Bavulekile ukushintsha imiqondo yabo uma othile enombono ongcono.
Ukuze benze lokhu, bandisa ulwazi lwabo lwemizwa (bahlukanisa izinto ezinjengokucasuka, ukukhungatheka, noma ukukhathazeka), bazijwayeze ukulalela ngenkuthalo , futhi bazibandakanye ekuzicabangeni ngedayari , ukuqaphela, noma imibuzo efana nokuthi: "Ngizizwa kanjani futhi kungani?"
7) Bahlakulela isilulumagama esinothile nesinembe ngokomzwelo.
Ukuhlonza ngokunembile lokho okuzwayo kukuvumela ukuthi ukhethe impendulo efanele . Labo abanolwazi lokuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo abasho ukuthi "Ngizizwa kabi"; bahlukanisa phakathi kokuzizwa ngikhathazekile, ngidabukile, noma ngidumele, okunciphisa ukungaqondani kanye nezinqumo ezingahleliwe.
8) Benza ukuzwelana, ilukuluku nokuqwashisa umphakathi.
Banesithakazelo sangempela kubantu, bebuza ukuthi " Uzizwa kanjani ngalokhu? " futhi benaka izimpawu ezingasho lutho . Lokhu kuqwashisa ngomphakathi kuthuthukisa ikhwalithi yobudlelwano, ukubambisana, kanye nokuhlonza izidingo kusenesikhathi.
9) Bagqugquzelwa ngaphakathi futhi balondoloze ukuqina.
Baphishekela imigomo eqhutshwa yizisusa zangaphakathi futhi bahlela intuthuko yabo. Babona ubunzima njengethuba lokufunda , ngaphandle kokuzikhulumela noma ukucabanga okulimazayo. Bazijwayeza ukuzigxeka okwakhayo ukuze balungise inkambo yabo.
I-10) Baphatha ukucindezeleka ngamakhefu, ukuzindla nomculo.
Bahlanganisa amakhefu amancane aqaphile ukuze baphefumule, belule, noma bazindle imizuzu embalwa. Basebenzisa nohlu lwadlalwayo ukuze balungise imizwa yabo, bahlole imizwa (ukudabuka, intukuthelo, injabulo) ngaphandle kokuyiphika.
I-11) Balungisa indawo yabo yedijithali nemikhuba ukuze bavikele inhlalakahle yabo.
Balawula ukukhanya, imisindo, namaphunga ukuze bakhuthaze ukukhiqiza nokuzola, futhi balondoloze ukuxhumana nemvelo (i-biophilia). Babeka nemingcele ecacile ezinkundleni zokuxhumana ukuze bagweme ukuqhathanisa nokuxinana kwengqondo.
12) Bama kancane ngaphambi kokusabela futhi babekezelele ukungaqondakali.
Baphatha izingxabano ngokuthula nangokuqiniseka , bezivumela ukuthi bangabi nezimpendulo ezisheshayo futhi bangacasuki kalula. Lokhu kubekezelela ukungaqiniseki kukhulisa ukuguquguquka kwabo kanye nokuzivumelanisa nezimo.
13) Bahlela kabusha ukulandisa, bathethelele ngaphandle kokukhohlwa, futhi bakhulise injabulo yabo.
Uma umuntu enza iphutha, uyathethelela ukuze akhulule umthwalo ongokomzwelo futhi azivikele ekuziphatheni okubi kwesikhathi esizayo. Abavumeli abanye ukuba balawule ukwaneliseka kwabo futhi bagweme ukukhuluma nabo ngendlela engenathemba.
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Uma uzijwayeza kancane kancane le mikhuba —ugxila ezixazululweni, ukwandisa ulwazi lwakho olungokomzwelo, ukwenza ngozwela, ukuma kancane ngaphambi kokusabela, nokunakekela indawo okuyo kanye nemingcele—uzobona ukuthi inhlalakahle yakho, ukucaca kwengqondo, kanye nekhwalithi yobuhlobo bakho kuthuthuka kanjani.