Ngaphambi kokuchaza ukuthi yini le mbono ebaluleke kakhulu yokugqugquzela, ngiyakumema ukuthi ubuke le mizuzu emi-3 yokugqugquzela okumsulwa.
Kule vidiyo basimema ukuthi sicabange ngokuthile okwenza impilo yakho ibe nenjongo, umgomo ongathanda ukuwufinyelela, okuthile okunika injongo empilweni yakho:
Kunemibono eyahlukene yokugqugquzela, kodwa kulesi sihloko ngizogxila embonweni obaluleke kakhulu wokugqugquzela , lowo osiqhubela phambili noma osibuyisela emuva kule mpilo:
1) Isifiso sokugwema ubuhlungu.
2) Isifiso sokuthola injabulo.
Cishe zonke izinqumo esizenzayo ekuphileni kwethu kwansuku zonke zishukunyiswa yinye yalezi zinamandla amabili ; ziyizindlela ezimbili eziyinhloko ekuphileni kwethu.
Ngezinye izikhathi ingqondo yethu izama ukulwa nala mandla amabili ashukumisayo anamandla, kodwa ukunqoba ngokuvamile kungokwesikhashana. Nasi isibonelo:
Wonke umuntu obhemayo uyazi ukuthi lo mkhuba uyingozi. Ingqondo yakhe ehluzekile iyazi ukuthi kungcono ukuyeka. Pho kungani eqhubeka nokubhema? Ngoba ngokomzwelo, ukubhema kumele injabulo, kanti ukuyeka kumele ubuhlungu. Ngiyazi ukuthi ngikhuluma ngani; ngingumuntu obhemayo.
Ukuphela kwendlela umuntu obhemayo angayeka ngayo ukuhlobanisa ubuhlungu bokuyeka nomkhuba kanye nenjabulo yokuyeka nokuziyeka; yilapho kuphela lapho ezothola khona isisusa esidingekayo . Lokhu kudinga umbono wesikhathi eside, hhayi umbono wesikhathi esifushane.
Okuxakayo ngokubhema, noma yimuphi umkhuba olimazayo, ngukuthi lokho okudala ubumnandi esikhathini esifushane kuzoletha ubuhlungu ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Ukuqonda ukuthi ubuhlungu nobumnandi bunamthelela muni ezimpilweni zethu isinyathelo sokuqala sokubusa. Sonke sinekhono lokusebenzisa amandla ethu engqondo ukuvuselela amahange ethu angokomzwelo. Ngamanye amagama, singakhetha okubuhlungu nokuhle.