Wonke umuntu ufuna impilo ephumelelayo… kodwa uma nawe uyifuna, kufanele uyihlakulele njengengadi enhle enezimbali okumele uzinakekele nsuku zonke. Kunezinye izici zomuntu siqu okufanele uzazi ngoba impumelelo ayiyona nje inhlanhla. Uma ufuna impilo yakho ifane neyabantu abaningi, kuzodingeka wenze lokho abantu abaningi abakwenzayo… Uma uzinza, uzoba nempilo ezinzile.
Uma uzinikela ngokusemandleni akho nsuku zonke, uzophumelela. Uma ufuna ukwazi ukuthi uzoba ngumuntu ophumelelayo, kuzodingeka ucabangele ukuthi unazo yini izici zobuntu ezidingekayo noma ukuziphatha ukuze ube njalo. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi impumelelo ingumqondo oguquguqukayo oshintsha kuye ngokuthi ubani oyichazayo. Ngokombono wengqondo, ichazwa njengokufeza lokho ohlose ukukwenza , kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umgomo ungakanani.
Mhlawumbe unencazelo yakho yempumelelo; mhlawumbe kuwe ilinganiswa ngemali nengcebo… noma mhlawumbe inkululeko nokuchitha isikhathi nomndeni, noma mhlawumbe ukusiza abanye. Sivame ukukulinganisa ngezindinganiso zangaphandle njengempumelelo yezinto ezibonakalayo , kodwa kubalulekile ukugxila emizweni yangaphakathi yenhlalakahle nenjabulo. Impumelelo ayichazwa ngendlela eyodwa kuphela, kodwa kuzodingeka ukhethe uhlobo lwempumelelo olubaluleke kakhulu kuwe. Ingabe unalezi zimpawu zomuntu siqu ezizokuholela empumelelweni?
Uthanda ukuncintisana ... ngendlela enempilo
Ukuncintisana okunobuthi kuzoholela ekuhlulekeni… mathupha. Kodwa uma wazi ukuthi ungancintisana kanjani ngendlela enempilo, impumelelo ikulindele. Ukuba nesidingo sokuwina akuyona into embi, futhi yize izizathu zihluka, ukuzimisela kuhlala kungashintshi. Abantu abaphumelelayo bathanda izindlela zokudala zokuthuthukisa amakhono abo; bayakuzonda ukulahlekelwa ngentshiseko ehlala njalo. Abantu bavame ukuphambanisa lokhu nomqondo oqinile wokusebenza, kodwa ukusebenza kanzima akuyona njalo inhloso. Ukufuna ukuncintisana kokufeza okungaphezu kwabanye kungaholela empumelelweni, inqobo nje uma kungenabo ubuthi.
Uzimele futhi unesibopho
Uyakwazi ukuthatha imithwalo yemfanelo, futhi okuhle kunakho konke, uyakwazi ukuziphendulela! Ungenza izinqumo ezinzima, futhi uyasekelwa uma wenza kanjalo. Uzicabangela wena ngoba kumayelana nokuzazi, kodwa ngaphezu kokuzicabangela wena nezidingo zakho, ucabanga nangabanye. Uzama ukuzenzela izinto noma nini lapho kungenzeka , kodwa uma udinga usizo, awusabi ukulucela.
Ukwaneliseka akusho ukuthi uzehlukanisa nabanye, kodwa kunalokho ikhono lokuphatha impilo yakho. Lokhu kuhambisana nokuzilawula , enye yezimfanelo ezibaluleke kakhulu ngokusho kochwepheshe bezengqondo. Ukwazi ukuhlela isikhathi sakho nemisebenzi yakho ngaphandle kokugadwa njalo kubalulekile. Akekho ofuna ukuhlala ezulazula phezu komunye umuntu ofuna imiphumela; ngakho-ke, ukuqaphela amakhono akho nokuhlela ngokuzimisela kukubeka ethubeni lokuncintisana.
Unamandla okuzimisela, ukuzithiba, kanye nokubekezela.
Unamandla okubona izinto ngokucacile; awunqikazi noma uhlehlise. Uma ufuna okuthile, uyakwenza kwenzeke. Abantu abaphumelele kakhulu emhlabeni yilabo abahlala begxile emigomweni yabo futhi belokhu beqhubeka nemizamo yabo. Kodwa futhi babe nokubekezela (ukubekezela okukhulu!). Bebezimisele ukulinda isikhathi esifanele, futhi uyaqonda ukuthi konke kuhilela ukwehluleka nokukhungatheka. Ukuzithatha njengomuntu siqu kungaba yingozi… futhi awukwazi ukwenza lokho!
Amandla okuzimisela kumele ahlanganiswe nokuzithiba okungantengantengi . Ukuzithiba yilokho okuhambisana nohlelo lwakho kanye nesimiso sakho sengqondo nesomzimba. Kuhilela ukubeka eceleni imizwa edlulayo; isibonelo, uma unqume ukuya ejimini noma ukufunda ulimi kane ngesonto, unamathela kulo kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uzizwa ukhathele noma cha . Ukubekezela ukuqonda ukuthi akukho lutho olwakhiwa ngobusuku obubodwa. Njengomklami omkhulu noma umdlali ovelele, impumelelo itholakala isinyathelo ngesinyathelo, isitini ngesitini.
Ususa okungadingekile engqondweni yakho bese wamukela ushintsho
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uphumelele kangakanani, ukugxila esikhathini esidlule kuzophazamisa ikhono lakho lokuthuthuka. Abantu abaphumelelayo abagxili esikhathini esidlule. Bafunda kuso ngokushesha futhi baqhubekela enseleleni enkulu. Bayazi ukuthi amaphutha awawona ukwehluleka, kodwa kunalokho amathuba okufunda nokukhula.
Lokhu kuhlobene ngqo nokuzivumelanisa nezimo . Ezweni lapho ushintsho luhlala lukhona, inkulumo ethi "adaptha noma die" ithatha incazelo entsha ngokuphelele. Ikhono lokuzivumelanisa nezimo ezintsha lingenye yamakhono afunwa kakhulu namuhla. Ukuvuleleka ekushintsheni nokuqondisa amandla akho ukuze ufeze imigomo ezindaweni ezahlukene yikho okuvumela impumelelo ehlala njalo.
Unaka imininingwane futhi ulwela ukwenza kahle kakhulu
Ngezinye izikhathi uzizwa sengathi ugxile kakhulu emininingwaneni, kodwa awukwazi ukuzibamba… Ngisho noma abantu abakuzungezile bengaqondi ngaso sonke isikhathi, lokhu kukhuthaza ubuhle. Lokhu kubonakala kuphambene nesisho esidumile esithi, “Ungakhathazeki ngezinto ezincane,” kodwa abantu abaningi abaphumelelayo bafika lapho ngokwenza lokho kanye—ngokwenza izinto ezincane.
Ukugxila emininingwaneni, kanye nokuzigxeka , kwenza inqubo yokuthuthuka okuqhubekayo. Ukukwazi ukubona amaphutha akho, hhayi awabanye kuphela, kukuvumela ukuthi uguqule ubuthakathaka bube amandla. Lo mjikelezo wokuhlola nokulungisa yiwona ohlukanisa umuntu osebenza nje nomuntu olwela ukuba nekhono emkhakheni wakhe.
Uzivuza futhi ufuna ibhalansi
Uma ugijima ngesivinini esigcwele, udinga ukuzinika isikhathi sokuzinakekela—ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba. Lokho kungaba lula njengokuzindla okufushane noma ukujima okugcwele, into oyithandayo, umnikelo wokusiza, noma ukuphumula okuzenzakalelayo nawe noma nomuntu omthandayo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuyini, inhloso ukugwema ukukhathala, ukuhlala uzinzile, nokukhumbula ukuthi kungani wenza ukuzidela okwenzayo.
Ukuthola ibhalansi phakathi kokuphila kobungcweti nokomuntu siqu kubalulekile . Intshisekelo esiyiletha emsebenzini wethu kumele ihambisane nemigomo yethu yomuntu siqu. Uma impumelelo yobungcweti ilimaza inhlalakahle yethu yomuntu siqu, akuyona impumelelo yangempela. Ukufinyelela lokhu kulinganisela kuyisihluthulelo sokuzibona kwangempela nokuhlala njalo.
Ubuqotho, intshisekelo, kanye nobuqotho
Ubuqotho buyimfanelo ebalulekile yempumelelo manje nasesikhathini esizayo. Ukwethembeka kuyinqubomgomo engcono kakhulu yakho konke okwenzayo. Ubuqotho bakha ubuntu futhi buchaza ukuthi ungubani. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ubuqotho buhambisana nentshisekelo, ngakho-ke uma ufuna ukuphumelela, uma ufuna ukuphila ngempela, akuyona inhlonipho, kodwa intshisekelo ezokuyisa lapho. Impilo ingu-10% walokho obhekana nakho kanye no-90% walokho osabela kukho kulokho okuhlangenwe nakho.
Kulokhu kumele sengeze ubuqiniso . Ukuba ngumuntu wangempela kuyisibonakaliso esihle sempumelelo. Naphezu kwengcindezi yomphakathi yokwamukela nokujabulisa, ukuba qotho kuwe kuletha inkululeko nenhlalakahle. Uma ukwazile ukwamukela nokuveza ubunjalo bakho bangempela, ngaphandle kokufihla ukuthi ungubani, usuvele uphumelela , ngoba ukungaguquguquki kwangaphakathi kuyisisekelo sokuzethemba.
Ukuba nethemba, ukuzethemba, kanye nesimo sengqondo esihle
Uyazi ukuthi kuningi ongakufeza kanye nokuhle okuningi kuleli zwe, futhi uyazi ukuthi yini okufanele uyilwele. Ukuba nethemba kuyisu lokufeza ikusasa elingcono: uma ungakholwa ukuthi ikusasa lingaba ngcono, ubungeke ulwele lona. Ngalo mqondo, ukuhlakulela imicabango emihle kubalulekile.
Ukuze ulondoloze leli themba, kubalulekile ukuhlakulela ingxoxo yangaphakathi eyakhayo . Ukuziphatha ngozwela nokuzikhuthaza kukhulisa ukuzethemba kwakho futhi kukusondeze ekufinyeleleni imigomo yakho. Uma unokuzethemba okungantengantengi, ususondele empumelelweni kunoma iyiphi indawo oyikhethayo. Ukuzethemba akukhona ukungabi khona kokwesaba, kodwa ukuzimisela ukuqhubekela phambili naphezu kwakho.
Uyabonga futhi uthobekile
Ngisho noma unethuba lokuzikhukhumeza, ungabi njalo. Ungaba umuntu obonga kakhulu, futhi lokhu kuzokwenza ube umuntu ongcono. Uzoqonda ukubaluleka kokuzizwa unenhlanhla ngalokho onakho, lapho ukhona, kanye nokungesabi ukwabelana ngempumelelo yakho nabanye. Ukubonga kukugcina usekelwe eqinisweni futhi kuvimbela ubugovu ukuthi bungafiphazi ukwahlulela kwakho, kukuvumela ukuthi uqhubeke ufunda kwabanye.
Awuchazwa ukwehluleka kwakho: Ingqondo Yokukhula
Akekho ophumelela ngo-100%. Impumelelo iwumphumela omuhle ohlala uhlanganisa ukwehluleka okukhulu, ukuhlola, nokufunda. Ososayensi basitshela ukuthi indawo yonke ikhona kuphela ngoba kwakukhona umkhawulo omncane kakhulu wezinto ngaphezu kwezinto ezingezona izinto. Kwakukhona ukubhujiswa okuningi ukudala okusele. Uma wesaba ukwehluleka, khona-ke ngokwencazelo, ugwema impumelelo. Kunqobe—indawo yonke ithambekele empumelelweni, nawe ungakwenza!
Ukwazi ukuhlukanisa ukubaluleka kwakho njengomuntu ezintweni ozifezile kuwuphawu lokuvuthwa ngokomzwelo. Inani lakho alixhomekile kulokho okwenzayo, kodwa kuncike kulokho oyikho. Labo ababheka amaphutha njengamathuba okufunda banenzuzo enkulu ekuthuthukisweni kwabo, ngoba abadikibali lapho kuqala ukuhlupheka, kodwa kunalokho bakusebenzisa njengophethiloli wokuthuthuka.
Ukubaluleka Kokuhlakanipha Kwemizwa Nokuxhumana
Impumelelo ngaphandle kokuhlakanipha ayinakwenzeka, ikakhulukazi uma sifuna kuhlale isikhathi eside. Yilapho ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo kungena khona , okuvame ukuba yinto enqumayo kune-IQ. Leli khono lisivumela ukuthi sithuthukise umkhiqizo, ukusebenzisana, kanye nokwenza izinqumo. Ngaphakathi kwalolu hlaka, izimfanelo ezinhlanu ezibalulekile ziyagqama:
- Ukuzilawula: Phatha umsebenzi wakho, isikhathi sakho, kanye nemizwa yakho kahle ukuze uvimbele izinto ezimbi ezithinta ukusebenza kwakho.
- Ukuzazi kanye nokuzazi ngemvelo: Ukuzilalela ukuze uqonde izidingo zakho, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukuqonda abanye ukuze ulawule ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka.
- Uzwela: Isihluthulelo sokuhumusha imizwa kanye nokulindelwe abanye, okwenza kube lula ukuxazulula izingxabano.
- Ukuzivumelanisa nezimo: Ukuvuleleka ekushintsheni nokwazi ukuthi ungawaqondisa kanjani amandla ngokwezidingo zamanje.
- Amakhono omphakathi: Lwela ukwakha nokugcina ubudlelwano obuhle nobuvumelanayo.
Konke lokhu kuhlangana kube ukuxhumana okuhle . Usebenza ukuze uxhumane futhi unake abaxhumanisi abakuzungezile. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukulalela lokho abangakushoyo. Uma ukuxhumana kusebenza kahle, kucacile, futhi kunembile, ukwethembana nenhlonipho kuvela ngokwemvelo.
Ukwazi ukusebenza eqenjini kanye nokunikeza abanye
Siyizilwane ezihlala nabantu futhi siyadingana. Khohlwa umqondo wokuthi ungakwenza wedwa; udinga iqembu elizokusekela . Abantu abaphumelela kakhulu emhlabeni baneqembu elikhulu lokusekelana ngemuva kwabo abasebenza nabo ndawonye. Lokhu kuhlanganisa ikhono lokwabela abanye , ukuqaphela ukuthi awukwazi ukuba ngcono kukho konke noma ukwazi ukukwenza konke. Ukuthembela emakhonweni abanye akugcini nje ngokuthuthukisa isikhathi kodwa futhi kunika amandla labo abakuzungezile.
Ukwenza izinqumo kanye nesenzo
Ukuze uphumelele, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi ungenza kanjani izinqumo. Abantu abaningi babhajwa ekugxekweni noma ekuhleleni okungapheli, kodwa abalokothi bathathe isinyathelo . Isibonelo, umuntu angachitha iminyaka efuna umqondo webhizinisi ophelele ngaphandle kokuwusebenzisa. Ikhono lokunquma nokwenza, ngenkathi ethatha izingozi, yilokho okuhlukanisa abaphuphi nabaphumelelayo.
Uma ufuna ukuphumelela, funda lezi zici zomuntu siqu ezizokuholela kukho futhi uhlele ukuziphila nsuku zonke zokuphila kwakho. Zibekele imigomo eqondile nengokoqobo , sebenza kuyo ngohlelo, futhi ungavumeli ukuzilimaza kuphazamise ukukhula kwakho. Yiba nesibindi futhi uzimisele, uthobeke, uthembeke ezindinganisweni zakho, futhi ungesabi. Ngaphezu kwakho konke, yiba nguwe njalo!
Indlela eya ekuziboneni ingokoqobo akuyona indlela eqondile, kodwa inqubo eqhubekayo yokuziphendukela kwemvelo lapho isimo sengqondo siyithuluzi elinamandla kakhulu. Ngokuhlanganisa isiyalo, ubuhlakani bemizwa, kanye nesimo sengqondo sokuthemba, uguqula iqiniso lakho futhi wakhe impilo esekelwe ebuqothweni nasekuphumeleleni okuqhubekayo.