Ukwazi ukuthi yini esishukumisayo Kungenye yezinsika zokuphila impilo enenjongo. Uma ucacile ngalokho okukushukumisayo, kuba lula. beka imigomo ehambisanayo, yenza izinqumo ezihambisana nezindinganiso zakho futhi uphikelele ngisho nalapho kuvela ubunzima.
Isisusa yisona esisivumela ukuthi sithole futhi sizibekele imigomo yokuziphatha kwethu futhi siqonde Kungani abantu bephikelela kukho noma beyeka umzamo?Ukuqonda izisusa zakho kukusiza ukuthi ugxile ekuxazululeni izinkinga ezikuvimbela ekufinyeleleni imigomo yakho. Ukuzikhuthaza kusebenza njengenqubo evumela uqala, uqondisa futhi ugcina ukuziphatha egxile emigomweni enenjongo.
Kwesinye isikhathi ungaba nesisusa esinamandla nezisusa ezingezimbi kangako. Okuqine kakhulu futhi kunethonya elikhulu ekuziphatheni komuntu futhi leyo ekwazi ukuziphoqa kwabanye Uma ungakwazi ukwenza konke ngesikhathi esisodwa. Yilokho okwenza, isibonelo, ubeke phambili iphrojekthi ebalulekile yokuphila kunezinto ezijabulisayo kodwa ezingabalulekile kangako.
Noma kunjalo, amandla ezisusa angashintsha kuye ngokuthi isikhathi sini kanye nesikhathi sini. Eminye imigomo ilahlekelwa yinani layo bese kuvela emisha; yingakho kubalulekile buyekeza njalo izisusa zakho futhi uzivuselele esigabeni sakho sempilo.
Labo abazama ukuqonda ukuthi izisusa zomhlaba wonke zingaba yini sebesungule izigaba zomhlaba wonke ezifana nokuthi izidingo zebhayoloji, zenhlalo, ukuzethemba, impumelelo, kanye nokukhula komuntu siquZihlelwe ngokulandelana: kuphela uma izidingo eziyisisekelo zaneliswa yilapho lezo eziyinkimbinkimbi zisebenza khona. Ngaphezu kwalokho, i-psychology ihlukanisa phakathi ugqozi lwangaphandle (eqhutshwa yimivuzo yangaphandle njengemali, ukuqashelwa, noma imiklomelo) kanye ukugqugquzela kwangaphakathi (lapho umsebenzi ngokwawo ujabulisa futhi unenjongo kuwe).
Izinhlobo zezisusa ezithinta impilo yakho yansuku zonke
Isisusa sikhona kuzo zonke izici zokuphila kwakho, noma ngabe awuqapheli ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ukuqonda izinhlobo zaso kukusiza ukuthi Thola ukuthi yini ngempela ekushukumisayo. futhi lapho udinga ukwenza khona ukulungisa.
Endaweni yokusebenza, isisusa emsebenzini singahlotshaniswa thuthukisa isimo sakho sobungcwetiUkufeza imigomo yeqembu, ukufinyelela ukuzinza kwezezimali, noma umuzwa wokuthi unikela ngenani. Lokhu kuhlanganisa izici zangaphandle (umholo, ukuqashelwa, ukukhushulwa) nezici zangaphakathi (ukujabulela umsebenzi wakho, ukufunda, ukuzizwa uwusizo).
Emndenini, isisusa singaqondiswa khulisa izibopho ezingokomzweloUkunikeza ukwesekwa, ukudala indawo ethembekile, noma ukukhulisa izingane—ukusebenza ebudlelwaneni bomndeni obunempilo kuqinisa inhlalakahle yakho engokomzwelo futhi kukunikeza... izizathu ezijulile zokunqoba izingxabano futhi sifune izixazululo ezakhayo.
Ezingeni lomuntu siqu, isisusa sibonakala esifisweni khula, funda futhi uhlole okuhlangenwe nakho okushaUkubhalisela izifundo, ukudlala ezemidlalo, ukuhamba, ukuqala amaphrojekthi okudala, noma ukuthuthukisa impilo yakho. Lezi zinhloso zivame ukuhlotshaniswa kakhulu nesisusa sangaphakathi ngoba zikuxhumanisa no izifiso zakho kanye nelukuluku lakho.
Singakhuluma futhi ngokuthi izisusa eziyinhloko nezesibiliIzidingo eziyinhloko zanelisa izidingo eziyisisekelo njengokudla, ukulala, nokuba nendawo yokuhlala ephephile; zibalulekile ukuze umuntu asinde. Izidingo zesibili zifundwa ngokuhlangenwe nakho futhi zifaka phakathi ubungane, inkululeko, ukuqashelwa, amandla, ingcebo, nothando. Nakuba zingabalulekile ukuze umuntu asinde, Zinikeza incazelo kanye nesiqondiso. endleleni yakho yokuphila.
Izinyathelo ze-4 zokuthola izisusa zakho
1) Yenza uhlu lwezinto ezikwenza uzizwe kahle
Kuyo faka kokubili izenzo noma izimo ezikujabulisayo esikhathini esifushane kanye nalezo ezikuvuzayo ngemva komzamo wesikhathi esiphakathi noma eside. Bhala phansi imisebenzi ehlobene umsebenzi wakho, ukuzijabulisa kwakho, ubudlelwano bakho, kanye nokukhula kwakho komuntu siquUngahlungi kakhulu ekuqaleni; khipha konke okukulethela inhlalakahle.
Ukuze uthole ukuthi yimiphi imisebenzi ekushukumisa kakhulu, ungazama ukulinganisa, ngandlela thile, ukwaneliseka ekulethela kona. Isibonelo, nika umsebenzi ngamunye amaphuzu kusukela ku-1 kuya ku-10 ngokusekelwe kulokho izinga lokujabulela, incazelo kanye namandla ukuthi ikunikeza ini. Lo msebenzi olula uzokusiza ukuthi ucacise ukuthi yiziphi izinto ezikukhuthazayo ngempela nokuthi yiziphi ozithandayo kakhulu.
2) Buyekeza konke okwenzile isonto lonke bese ubona ukuthi ungakanani isikhathi osinikeze kulowo nalowo msebenzi.
Qhathanisa uhlu lwakho lwemisebenzi ekhuthazayo nesimiso sakho sangempela. Bheka ukuthi uchitha isikhathi sakho esiningi kuphi bese uzibuza: ukuthi isikhathi singakanani esihambisanayo nalokho okukwenza uzizwe kahle. Lokhu kuqhathanisa kuzokunikeza izinkomba mayelana nezinguquko okudingeka uzenze ukuze ulethe inqubo yakho yansuku zonke eduze izisusa zakho zangempela.
3) Ubhekene nobunzima, cabanga ubungazizwa kanjani ukumgwema nokuthi uzobhekana kanjani naye. Zibuze ukuthi, kuwena, umzamo uwufanele yini.
Uma ubona ngeso lengqondo zombili lezi zimo, uxhumana ne- izindleko zokuyeka umgomo wakho kanye nokwaneliseka okungenzeka kokuwudlula. Uma, uma uzicabanga ufinyelela umgomo, umuzwa wokuziqhenya nokukhululeka unamandla, kuwuphawu lokuthi Leso sisusa sijulile. futhi ingakusekela ngisho nasezikhathini eziphansi.
4) Hlaziya isinqumo ngasinye osithatha ngosuku. Ngokuvamile, abantu bangakhetha phakathi kwezinketho zokuziphatha eziningi futhi bakhethe ngokuvumelana nezisusa zabo ezingaphezulu noma kancane.
Okwezinsuku ezimbalwa, qaphela izinqumo zakho zansuku zonke: ukuthi yini oyenzayo kuqala, yini oyihlehlisayo, yini oyigwemayo, yini oyenza ngamandla akho amaningi. Zibuze ukuthi yini ebangela ukukhetha ngakunye: ukwesaba, induduzo, isifiso sokuqashelwa, ukufuna inhlalakahle, ilukuluku lokwaziLokhu kuhlaziya kuzokuvumela ukuthi uthole amaphethini angaphakathi ezichaza ukuthi kungani usondela noma uqhelelana nemigomo ethile.
Izihluthulelo zengqondo zokugcina isisusa siphila
Ukuthola izizathu zakho kuyisinyathelo sokuqala nje; bese udinga khulisa isisusa sakho empilweni yakho yansuku zonkeI-psychology yesisusa ithole amasu awusizo kakhulu okugcina umfutho esikhathini eside.
Enye yezinto eziphumelela kakhulu chaza imigomo ecacile nengokoqoboImigomo yakho kufanele ibe yinselele ngokwanele ukukukhuthaza, kodwa futhi ifinyeleleke ukuze ugweme ukukhungatheka okuqhubekayo. Hlukanisa imigomo yakho emikhulu ibe izinyathelo ezincane neziphathekayo Ikuvumela ukuthi uqhubekele phambili ngaphandle kokuzizwa ukhungathekile.
Kuyasiza futhi ukuthwala ilogi yenqubekela phambili noma irekhodi lentuthuko yakho. Ukubhala phansi lokho okufezayo nsuku zonke, indlela ozizwa ngayo, ukuthi yiziphi izithiyo ozinqobile, kanye nalokho okufundile kuqinisa umuzwa wokunyakaza futhi kunikeza ubufakazi obuqinile bokuthi Usondela emigomweni yakhoyize umphumela wokugcina ungakabonakali.
Ezinye izinsiza ezinamandla kakhulu zinakekela impilo yakho inkhulumomphendvulwano yangaphakathi (faka imiyalezo yokusekela engokoqobo esikhundleni sokugxeka okuqhubekayo), cabanga ngemininingwane Impilo yakho izoba njani uma usufinyelele umgomo wakho? futhi uzizungeze nabantu abaqinisa isisusa sakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukuncintisana okunempilo, kusukela kokusekelwa noma iseluleko sochwepheshe.
Ayikho ifomula eyodwa esebenza kuwo wonke umuntu, kodwa kunento eyodwa efanayo: uma uzazi kangcono, kuba lula ukubona ukuthi yini ekushukumisayo, yini ekubambezelayo, nokuthi yiziphi izinhlobo zezindawo, imikhuba, kanye nobudlelwano obukhuthaza isisusa sakho sangempela. Ngakho-ke, ukuzinikela isikhathi ekutholeni izisusa zakho siqu kuba yitshalomali ebalulekile ekwakheni impilo evumelana kakhulu nokuthi ungubani nokuthi yini oyifisayo ngempela.
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