Lesi sihloko sichaza izici ezidingekayo ukuze ube yiqhawe.
Sikhuluma ngobuqhawe. Ubukhulu. Lokho okukhethekile okuzuzisa ukunconywa, ukudunyiswa, futhi mhlawumbe ngisho nobuso bakho esitembu seposi.
Amaqhawe angase abonakale esephelelwe yisikhathi enkathini yokungathembi lapho ngezinye izikhathi sijabulela ukususa izithonjana esihlalweni sobukhosi.
Isithombe seqhawe
Nakuba amaqhawe ethu engase ahluke, sinombono ofanayo. E-Temple University, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uFrank Farley saqoqa izici zobuntu ezichaza ingqikithi yobuqhawe . Akuwona wonke amaqhawe anazo zonke, kodwa uma unezinto eziningi, kuba ngcono. Uma ufuna ubukhulu, kuwe noma ezinganeni zakho, kuwukuhlakanipha ukuhlakulela lezi zici:
2) Ukwethembeka: ukukhohlisa kwephula umbono wethu ngobuqhawe futhi kuqeda ukwethenjwa komphakathi.
3) Unomusa, uyakhathalela, uyaphana: abantu abakhulu bangalwa kanzima ngalokho abakukholelwayo futhi babe nozwela ngemva kwempi , nabangani nezitha ngokufanayo. UJenene George S. Patton wayengumholi wezempi ohlakaniphile, kodwa isimo sakhe njengeqhawe sonakala lapho eshaya omunye wamasosha akhe ngempama esidlangalaleni. Umphakathi wavukela; wayengenamusa emadodeni akhe . Nakuba uPatton esabhekwa njengeqhawe ngabaningi, ukuthandwa kwakhe akuzange kufane.
6) Ukubonisa uthando: ukuncoma akwanele; amaqhawe anqoba izinhliziyo nezingqondo.
Sonke singamaqhawe
Iningi labantu liphuphe ngokuba yiqhawe. Ucwaningo lukaZeno Franco noPhilip Zimbardo lubonisa ukuthi cishe noma ubani angabonisa ukuziphatha kobuqhawe uma ebhekene nezimo ezifanele. Umuntu owenza isenzo sobuqhawe akahlukile kakhulu kumuntu ongenzi kanjalo; umehluko uvame ukuba sekuboneni isimo , ekuboneni ukuthi isenzo sakhe singenza umehluko, futhi ekholelwa ukuthi uyakwazi ukwenza okuthile.
Siyawazisa amaqhawe angempela noma angewona aweqiniso ngoba aqukethe izindinganiso esizifisayo . Iqhawe lansuku zonke, ngaphezu kwakho konke, lingumuntu ovamile osebenzela abanye ngaphandle kokulindela lutho ngokubuyisela.
Izimpawu eziyi-10 ezibonwa kumaqhawe ansuku zonke
- Uzwela lwangempela: Bayikhathalela inhlalakahle yabanye futhi babona isidingo.
- Ukubheka: bayazi zibeke endaweni yomunye ngaphambi kokuthatha isinyathelo.
- Amakhono kanye nokuzethemba: bayabona ukuthi bangakwazi lawula ubunzima.
- Isiqondiso sokuziphatha: benza kanye amakhodi namagugu cacile.
- Isibindi lapho ubhekene nengozi: Zivezwa uma imbangela ivuma.
- Amakhono nokuqeqeshwa: baye bahlakulela amakhono awusizo ukusiza.
- Ukuphikelela: basekela umzamo naphezu kokwesaba.
- Ithemba elingokoqobo: bona ngeso lengqondo imiphumela emihle ezimeni ezimbi.
- Ukungathakazeleli: babeka phambili okuhle okufanayo kunenzuzo yabo siqu.
- Ukungabikezeli: izikhathi eziningi baba ongaziwa futhi zivela uma zidingeka.
I-hero complex: lapho usiza uyeka ukusiza
I- hero complex ichaza umuntu ofuna ukuqashelwa ngokudala noma ukwamukela izinkinga abese ezama ukuzixazulula. Inhloso yokusiza ibalulekile, kodwa kunomugqa omncane phakathi kokusekela nokuthwala umthwalo omkhulu kwabanye. Le ndlela emsebenzini noma ebudlelwaneni ingaba nemiphumela emibi.
Izimpawu ezinjengokukhathazeka ngokuxazulula yonke into , umuzwa wecala uma ungangeneleli, ukukhathala okungapheli, ukucasuka, kanye nesidingo sokuba yinto ebaluleke kakhulu kungabonakala . Ukuze unciphise lo muzwa, kuyasiza ukuzibuza: Ingabe ngiyafuna ukukwenza? Ingabe kungumthwalo wami wemfanelo? Ngingakwenza ngendlela enempilo? Ingabe kungumsebenzi wami? Ingabe omunye umuntu uzohlupheka uma ngingakwenzi? Le mibuzo, evamile kwezokwelapha ngengqondo, isiza ekuchazeni umthwalo wemfanelo.
Phakathi kwemiphumela: ukuthatha okungaphezu koyedwa ongakusingatha, ukungezwani neqembu ngenxa yokulawula ngokweqile , ukunganaki imigomo yomuntu siqu, kanye nokuba sengozini yokunikezwa amandla okungafanele . Ngomzwelo, umsindisi uvame ukukhungatheka futhi athukuthele. Isixazululo sisekubekeni imingcele , ekukhuthazeni ukuzimela, nasekuzijwayezeni ukubuyisana.
Ubuqhawe ngokusho kwengqondo
Ubuqhawe buvame ukuzola futhi abunakwa . Abufuni ukudlula abanye nganoma iyiphi indlela, kodwa kunalokho ukukhonza abanye nganoma iyiphi indlela. Isihluthulelo ukukhathalela labo abaswele noma isizathu sokuziphatha, ngisho noma ngabe kusengozini yomuntu siqu futhi ngaphandle kokulindela umvuzo.
Izici ezivame ukuhlotshaniswa namaqhawe zihlanganisa ukuhlakanipha , amandla, ukuqina , ububele, ubumbano, ikhono lokuthonya , ukwethembeka, kanye nekhono lokuphefumulela . Isibindi, imizwa yokuzivikela, ukuzimisela , kanye nokuzidela nakho kubalulekile.
UFarley uhlukanisa phakathi kobuqhawe be-Big H (izingozi ezinkulu kakhulu, njengokubeka engozini ukuphepha noma inkululeko yakho) kanye nobuqhawe be-Little H (izenzo zansuku zonke ezishintsha izinsuku, futhi ngezinye izikhathi, izimpilo). Ukungenela ukusiza engozini, ukuvimba ukungabi nabulungisa, noma ukusekela imbangela engathandeki kodwa enokuziphatha okuhle kuyizibonelo ezingaxhomekile odumweni.
Izinhlobo zamaqhawe nohambo lweqhawe
Ezincwadini nasezinganekwaneni, kunezinhlobo ezahlukene zabantu: iqhawe lezinganekwane (unkulunkulu onjengoHercules), iqhawe elibuhlungu (iqhawe elihle eliwa ngenxa yeshwa, njengo-Oedipus), iqhawe elidumile (eliwenza izenzo ezinkulu, njengoNkosi u-Arthur), iqhawe lothando (umuntu okholelwa emibonweni emihle futhi ongaguquki, njengoDon Juan), kanye neqhawe elikhulu (elinamandla angavamile, njengoSuperman). Konke kubonisa izifiso zomuntu zesibindi nobulungiswa.
Uhambo lweqhawe luchaza izigaba ezivamile: umhlaba ojwayelekile, ukubizwa, ukwenqatshwa, ukuhlangana nomeluleki, ukweqa umkhawulo, izilingo nabalingani nezitha, indlela yokufinyelela esivivinyweni sokugcina, isivivinyo sokugcina, umvuzo, uhambo lokubuyela emuva, uvuko, kanye nokubuyela okuguquliwe. Lesi sakhiwo sikhuthaza ushintsho lomuntu siqu nolwezenhlalo .
I-Antihero: isibuko esingaphelele sobuqhawe
Iqhawe eliphikisayo linezici ezihlukile kwezeqhawe elivamile: lingase libe namahloni, lingabi nandaba, noma libe namahloni. Noma kunjalo, ngezinye izikhathi ligcina lenza izenzo ezibalulekile , noma ngabe ngezizathu zomuntu siqu noma lisebenzisa izindlela ezingabazekayo. Akufanele lididaniswe neqhawe elibi, elimelela ukungabi nabulungisa iqhawe elilwa nakho.
Ikhodi yeqhawe ngokusho kukaMcRaven
Umkhuzi uWilliam H. McRaven uhlanganisa ikhodi yezimfanelo ezingokoqobo ezingafinyelelwa yinoma ubani: isibindi sokubhekana nezinkinga, ukuthobeka ukuze kuqashelwe imingcele, ukuzidela ngesikhathi kanye nethalente, ubuqotho phambi komthetho kanye nokuziphatha, ububele ngaphandle kokulindela, ukuphikelela ukuze ungayeki, umsebenzi ogcwaliswe ngobuhle, ithemba eliphefumulelayo, amahlaya okuqeda ukucindezeleka, kanye nokuthethelela ukuze kuphulukiswe.
Ubuqhawe abuyona into ebalulekile; kuyisibopho sansuku zonke : ukuhlakulela ubuntu, ukulola amakhono awusizo, ukubeka imingcele enempilo ekufuneni ukusindisa konke, nokukhetha, lapho kuvela ithuba, isenzo esifanele noma ngabe akekho osincomayo. Yile ndlela ubukhulu obungasetshenzisiwe esingaba namandla okububona bukhiwa ngayo .
