Umphakathi ugcwele ukungazi okufihliwe njengokuhlakaniphaKodwa iqiniso liwukuthi, uma ifika endaweni, ngokuvamile ayikhohlisi kakhulu. Kuyaziwa ukuthi labo abangenakho okwakhayo abangakusho banethuba lokuthi Ukuhlala uthule kuyisenzo esihlakaniphe kakhulu lokho okungakwenza. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi lapho ukuthula kuba yindlela engcono kakhulu yokusabela ekugxekweni okubhubhisayo noma emoneni. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, lapho ubhekene nokucasuka okuqondile, uma kuvela impikiswano evuthayo, kuba sobala ukuthi ukungazi kuwukuzama ukuzenza ukuhlakanipha okungenakho.
Nakuba ngezinye izikhathi singase sizizwe silimele ngenxa yemibono noma ukugxekwa, kubalulekile ukusebenzisa ubuhlakani obuphakeme Futhi ukuqonda ukuthi kunezimo lapho ukuphikisana kungasizi ngalutho. Amazwi angenangqondo abantu abalinganiselwe awafanele ukunakwa kwethu; ngokungabaniki amandla phezu kwemizwa yethu, siyawavimbela ekuphazamiseni umphefumulo wethu. Lapho izingqondo ezincane zizama ukubonisa ubukhulu Ngokuzikhukhumeza, ubukhulu beqiniso butholakala ekubukeni ngaphandle kokuxhumana.
Indlela yokubona umuntu onobuthi futhi ongazi lutho
Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi akekho ophelele futhi sonke singaba nokuziphatha okubi ngezikhathi ezithile. Kodwa-ke, ubuthi buchazwa yi amaphethini angaguquki abathinta kabi abanye njalo. Ukuhlonza laba bantu kungaba nzima ngoba ngezinye izikhathi bacashile, kodwa kunezimpawu ezicacile ezisixwayisayo:
- Ukuziphatha okukhohlisayo: Basebenzisa umuzwa wecala, ukuhlukumeza, noma ukwesabisa ukulawula abanye nokuthola abakufunayo.
- Ukugxekwa njalo: Bayazehlisa izindinganiso zabanye abantu futhi bakhulume kabi ngamakhono noma izinqumo, ngisho nasemininingwaneni engabalulekile.
- Ukungabi nozwelo: Babonisa ukungakwazi njalo ukuqonda imizwa nezidingo zabanye.
- Isimo sengqondo sokuzicabangela ngokweqile: Isidingo esikhulu sokunakwa lapho belulaza abanye ukuze banelise ubugovu babo.
- Ukungazinzi ngokomzwelo: Ukushintshashintsha kwemizwa ngokuzumayo, kusuka ekubeni nomusa kuya ekubeni nolaka, okudala umuzwa wokungazethembi kulabo abaseduze nabo.
- Isizukulwane Sedrama: Bayakujabulela ukudala izingxabano eziphindaphindwayo ukuze zibe yisizinda sokunaka.
- Ukweqa isibopho: Basola abanye ngamaphutha abo futhi abavamile ukuxolisa ngobuqotho.
- Amandla amabi: Basakaza ukuphelelwa yithemba okuqhubekayo okuqeda amandla engqondo alabo ababazungezile.
Laba bantu bavame ukwenza sengathi ama-vampires angokomzweloBamunca amandla engqondo ezisulu zabo. Lezi zisulu zingaba abalingani, amalungu omndeni, abaphathi, noma abangane. Ikhono labo lokubona ubuthakathaka libenza babe ochwepheshe bokuphazamisa abanye, okungase kubangele ukucindezeleka okukhulu esisulu. izimpawu zokukhathazeka-ukucindezeleka kanye nokuwohloka okukhulu kokuzethemba.
Ukungazi kungunina wokungabekezelelani
Siphila enkathini lapho ukungabekezeleli kuyinto evamile, futhi okuningi kwakho kuvela ukuntuleka kolwazi namasikoUkungazi akukhona nje ukungazi, kodwa futhi kuyintando yokwahlulela ngaphandle kwesisekelo esidingekayo. Izinga elibucayi kakhulu lokungazi yileli ukwenqaba okuthile noma othile ngaphandle kokuqonda ngisho nokuthi yini eyenqatshwayo. Uma ungenalo ulwazi oludingekayo, ukwesaba kugcwalisa izikhala bese kuphenduka inzondo.
Le nhlanganisela yokungazi nokungabekezeleli ibhubhisa ubuntu kanye nokuzwana ekuhlalisane. Ngokuvamile, labo abahlulela bengazi benza kanjalo ngokubonisa ubandlululo lwabo. amaphutha akho kanye nokuzethemba okuphansiKulesi simo, ukugxekwa kuguqulwa kube amagama anobuthi ezikwazi ukulimaza kakhulu ukuzinza ngokomzwelo komuntu ozamukelayo.
Qonda ukungazi ukuze ungakunaki
Njengoba ingqondo ikhula futhi ikhula, kuba nzima ukuqonda ukuthi kungani umuntu engakhetha ukuphila ngokungazi. Kodwa-ke, kumelwe siqonde ukuthi izikhathi eziningi kuba yinto isinqumo esiqondile sokungashintshiUmuntu ukhetha ukuhlala endaweni yakhe yokududuzeka, noma ngabe igcwele inzondo, ngoba ukufunda kudinga ukubhekana namaqiniso angakhululekile. Ukufinyelela olwazini kukhonaKodwa ukuzimisela ukuvula ingqondo yomuntu yilokho okushodayo.
Uma unabantu abanjalo endaweni okuyo, isihluthulelo siwukuthi bamukele isinqumo sabo Ngaphandle kokucasuka. Ukulondoloza isithunzi sakho kusho ukungahlanganyeli emdlalweni wokuzama "ukubasindisa" uma bengafuni ukusindiswa. Ngezinye izikhathi, into ehlakaniphe kakhulu ongayenza ukunqekuzisa ikhanda, ukumamatheka, nokugcina izimpikiswano zakho kuwe. Ungachithi amandla akho ezingqondweni ezikhethe ukungakhuli. Sebenzisa isimiso se- "Emazwini obuwula, izindlebe ezingezwa" Kuyisenzo sokuzivikela nokuhlakanipha.
Amathuluzi awusizo okubhekana nobuthi
Ukuze kuvinjelwe impilo yemizwa ukuba ingonakali, kudingeka kuthathwe izinyathelo eziqondile. Akukhona nje ukuhlala isikhathi eside, kodwa futhi nokuphatha ubuhlobo no amasu okuziphatha:
- Misa imingcele ecacile: Chaza ukuthi yini ebekezelelekayo nokuthi yini engabekezeleleki. Khuluma ngakho ngokuqiniseka futhi ume ngokuqinile ku-"cha" yakho.
- Ukuxhumana ngokuzimela: Veza izidingo zakho ngaphandle kokuba nolaka noma ukuzivumela ukuba nolaka. Khuluma ngombono othi "Mina" (isib., "Ngizizwa ngesaba uma umemeza") esikhundleni sokuhlasela omunye umuntu.
- Nciphisa ukuxhumana: Uma ubudlelwano bubangela umonakalo omkhulu, nciphisa ukuvama kokuhlangana noma umise ibanga elivikelayo ngokomzwelo.
- Inethiwekhi yosekelo: Ungabhekani nalokhu wedwa. Ukukhuluma nabangani, umndeni, noma abelaphi kukusiza ukuthi uthole umbono wangaphandle kanye nokuqinisekiswa ngokomzwelo.
- Gwema ukucasulwa: Umuntu onobuthi ufuna ukusabela ngokomzwelo ukuze athole amandla. Zijwayeze ukuzola, uphefumule, futhi ugweme izingxabano ezingadingekile.
- Ukuvimbela amanzi ngokwengqondo: Funda ukubeka imibono yabo endaweni efanele. Zibuze, "Ingabe ngempela ngifuna lo muntu abe nokubaluleka okungaka empilweni yami?"
Lapho ukuhlakanipha kufanele kukhulume khona
Nakuba ukuthula kuyinto enhle ezimweni eziningi, kunezikhathi lapho Ubuhlakani kumele buvikelweAkukhona ukulwa, kodwa mayelana nokusabela ekulondolozeni ubuqotho nesithunzi. Kubalulekile ukuphakamisa izwi lakho ngokuqiniseka nangokuzethemba lapho ukungazi kuzama ukukucekela phansi. ukweqa imingcele ngendlela ehlelekile, ikakhulukazi lapho ubhekene nabantu abakhohlisayo abafuna ukuhlazisa noma ukwehlisa injabulo yabanye.
Umgomo akukhona ukunqoba impi yokuzikhukhumeza, kodwa ukusungula uhlaka lwenhloniphoUma umuntu ephikelela ekuziphatheni kwakhe okunobuthi, inkambo ehlakaniphile kakhulu yokwenza okuthile ukuhoxa unomphela. Ukuqonda ukuthi ukuqonda akufani nokuyekelela kubalulekile ekugcineni impilo yengqondo.
Inganekwane yokuthi ulungile
Labo abaphikisana ngokuphindaphindiwe ukuze baphoqelele ulwazi lwabo bavame ukuba yibo abangaqondi umhlaba ngokuphelele. Akekho oneqiniso eliphelele; iqiniso ligcwele izinto ezingaqondakali. Labo abaphikisana ngokuthi konke "kumnyama noma kumhlophe" babonisa ukungaguquguquki kwengqondo kanye nokungakwazi ukwamukela ukuthi ukuhlakanipha kunemibala eminingi.
Umuntu ohlakaniphe ngempela akafuni ukuwina izimpikiswano ezingenamsebenzi. Uyazi ukuthi ezinye izimpi azifaneleki ukulwa. ukuthula kwangaphakathi Kubaluleke kakhulu, futhi akumelwe sivumele ukungazi kwabanye kuphazamise ukuthula. Uma umuntu ememeza kakhulu, kulapho engabi qotho khona; ukumemeza kuwukubonakaliswa... ukukhungatheka nokungasebenzi kahle ngomuntu ongenazo izindlela ezinengqondo zokuveza imicabango yakhe.
Isibuko sobudlelwano kanye nokuba sengozini
Ngezinye izikhathi, ukucindezeleka esikuzwayo eduze komuntu onobuthi akubangelwa ngomunye umuntu, kodwa kubangwa... indlela esisabela ngayoLokhu kwaziwa ngokuthi umphumela wesibuko: okusishaqisayo ngabanye kuvame ukukhombisa into yangaphakathi okudingeka sisebenzele kuyo. Mhlawumbe ukuntuleka kokuqiniseka, ukwesaba ukungqubuzana, noma isidingo esicindezelwe sokuqashelwa.
Esikhundleni sokucindezeleka, singasebenzisa lokhu kuxhumana njenge othisha bokukhulaZibuze, "Lo muntu ungifundisani ngemingcele yami?" Ngokuqonda ukuthi ukuziphatha komunye umuntu akunalutho olukwenza nawe futhi kuwumphumela wokushiyeka kwakhe, uyeka ukuthatha izinto mathupha. Njengoba umqondo "wezivumelwano ezine" usikisela, Ungathathi lutho oluqondene nawe. Kuyinkululeko yokugcina.
Ngokufanayo, akufanele sesabe ukukhombisa ubuthakathaka bethu. Abantu abanobuthi bavame ukwenza izinto ngokuqinile ngoba besaba ukuba sengozini. Kodwa-ke, Ubuthakathaka buyisisekelo sokuxhumana kwabantuNgokwamukela ubuthakathaka bethu, asibe sengozini enkulu yokuhlaselwa yilabo abadinga ukuveza amandla angewona angempela.
Amandla abantu abasebenzisa amavithamini
Ukuze ulwe nobuthi, kubalulekile ukuzizungeza i-vitamin yabantuLaba ngabantu, ngokuba lapho nje, abaletha ukuzola, injabulo, kanye nokulinganisela. Bakhuthaza ukukhula komuntu siqu futhi banikeze ukwesekwa okudingekayo ukuze kuphulukiswe amanxeba abangelwa abagxeki kanye nabangazi. Ukushintsha ukugxila kwethu—kusukela ekuhlaziyeni umuntu onobuthi kuya ekukhuliseni ubuhlobo nomuntu ophilile—kuyisu eliphumelela kakhulu lokubuyisa amandla ethu.
Ekugcineni, inqubo ethuthukisiwe "ukufaka omunye umuntu esitimeleni sakho"Esikhundleni sokuvumela umuntu onobuthi ukuthi alawule ijubane lokuxhumana nombono wakhe omubi, thatha izintambo. Zibeke ngokuzethemba, veza ukuthula, bese uqondisa ingxoxo iye endaweni engathathi hlangothi noma enhle. Uma uzizwa uvikelekile ngokubaluleka kwakho futhi ungadingi ukufakazela noma yini kunoma ubani, amandla omuntu okhohlisayo ayanyamalala.
Ukuze uvimbele ukungazi ukuthi kulawule impilo yakho, khumbula lokho Ulwazi lungamandla Futhi ukuguquguquka kwengqondo kuyinkululeko. Ungavumeli umsindo wezingqondo ezincane uthulise ukuhlakanipha kwakho. Ngokugcina ingqondo evulekile nenhliziyo ivikelwe yimingcele enempilo, kungenzeka ukuguqula noma yikuphi ukungqubuzana kube yithuba lokufunda komuntu siqu, okuvumela izwi lesizathu linqobe isiphithiphithi sokungazi okukhethiwe.