Ukuzikhukhumeza kusekelwe ekuzincomeni umuntu angase azizwele kona, okungabonakala kalula ngokubona izici ezithile ezihlanganyelwe ngabantu abazithanda ngokweqile. Lesi simo sengqondo sisho ukuthi ukukhulekelwa ngokweqile kwesithombe sakhoisidingo esiqhubekayo sokuqinisekiswa kwangaphandle kanye nendlela yokuxhumana nabanye egxile kakhulu ekuzithandeni komuntu siqu.
Ngokusho kwe- I-Royal Spanish AcademyIncazelo yegama elithi egomaniac ichazwa ngokuthi: ukukhonza ngokweqile, ukuzithanda, noma ukuzithanda, okungathathwa ngisho nanjengento inkinga yengqondoLokhu kungenxa yokuthi abantu bavame ukuziqhayisa futhi babe nesimo sengqondo esicasulayo ngokuthi bacabanga ukuthi bakhulu kangakanani. Le ncazelo ikuhlukanisa ngokucacile nokuzethemba okunempilo, lapho umuntu ezibheka njengomuntu obalulekile ngaphandle kokubukela phansi abanye noma ukuxakeka ngokunconywa kwangaphandle.
Abantu abazithanda kakhulu bavame ukuba namahloni kakhulu ozikhukhumezayo, othanda izinto ezingekho emthethweni, ongafaki abanye nomoya omubiLokhu kuvame ukuholela ekubeni abantu abangamukeleki emikhakheni eminingi yezenhlalo. Ukuzikhukhumeza kungabonakala kubantu abadumile emlandweni njengoNapoleon Bonaparte, kanye nakubantu besimanje kwezokuzijabulisa, kwezepolitiki, noma kwezebhizinisi abasekela impumelelo yabo enkulu ekudonseleni ukunaka nasekuhlakuleleni isithombe sabo.
Ubugovu bungabonakala kalula ngoba abantu babonisa izici ezithile ezifanayo kubo bonke abantu abanobugovu. Nakuba umuntu ngamunye ehlukile, babelana nge- umbono omuhle kakhulu ngabo ngokwaboubunzima bokwamukela ukugxekwa, uzwela oluphansi, kanye nokuthambekela okunamandla kokubonisana nokuqhathanisa njalo nabanye.
Incazelo yokuzazisa
Incazelo yaleli gama ibhekisela ekubeni khona kwezimpawu ezithile kanye nezici umuntu angaba nazo, njengoba kunqunywa yisayensi yezengqondo. Kusukela kulesi sifundo, ubugovu bubhekwa njengobunye isimo sengqondo sokuzikhulekela lokho kudlula lokho okunempilo nokungokoqobo, futhi okuzibonakalisa ngephethini yokuziphatha nokucabanga okuzinzile.
Imvelaphi yaleli gama ivela olimini lwesiGreki, ikakhulukazi elithi "ego," elihunyushwa ngokuthi "Mina," kanye nelithi "latry," okusho ukukhulekela noma ukuncoma. Abantu abazithandayo bavame ukuba ne-"ego" isimo sokuphakama phambi kwanoma yimuphi omunye umuntu, ngoba bazizwa behlonishwa kakhulu kangangokuthi kwezengqondo kungathathwa njengesici esihlotshaniswa nokuphazamiseka kobuntu, njengokuzikhukhumeza, noma njengesifo lapho kuthinta kakhulu impilo yabo neyalabo abaseduze nabo.
Kubalulekile ukuhlukanisa umqondo we-egolatry kwamanye amagama ahlobene:
- ukuzazisaLokhu kubhekisela esithombeni esinaso ngathi kanye nendlela esixhumana ngayo nomhlaba. Kuyisakhiwo sengqondo esidingekayo ukuze sisebenze, uma nje silinganisela.
- UkuzethembaUkuzethemba kuwukuhlonishwa, ukwazisa, noma ukubaluleka umuntu anakho ngaye. Ukuzethemba okunempilo akudingi ukunconywa njalo noma ukwehlisa abanye.
- Egotistical: yilowo oguqula ubugovu bakhe bube uhlobo lwenkolo yomuntu siqu, elindele ukunconywa njalo nokuhumusha iqiniso kusuka ku- umuzwa wobukhulu kanye nelungelo lokuphathwa njengomuntu okhethekile.
Ngakho-ke, umuntu angaba nokuzethemba okuphezulu ngaphandle kokuzazisa, futhi angabonisa nokuzazisa okukhulu ngokuzethemba okubuthakathaka kakhulu. Ezimweni eziningi, ukuzazisa kusebenza njengomuntu imaski efihla ukungazethembi okujulileUmuntu udinga ukuqinisa njalo isithombe sakhe esifiswayo ukuze agweme ukuxhumana nemizwa yokuzenyeza noma ukwesaba ukwenqatshwa.
Izimbangela ezivame kakhulu zokuzazisa
Ukuzikhukhumeza kubhekwa kakhulu njengesici noma iphethini yobuntu enemiphumela ebalulekile yengqondo. Ngakho-ke, izimbangela zalolu hlobo lokuziphatha, olucasula kakhulu labo abaseduze nomuntu onobugovu, kumele zihlolwe ngokombono wobungcweti. Akuyona nje indaba "yomsindo omubi," kodwa kunalokho umphumela wenhlanganisela eyinkimbinkimbi yezici. izici zomuntu siqu, zomndeni kanye nezenhlalo.
Lolu hlobo lokuziphatha lunezimpande ezijulile ezingqondweni zabantu abanezici ezithile. Izizathu eziyinhloko zokuthi kungani umuntu engase enze ngale ndlela ukuthi wayenazo ukuntuleka kothando Ngesikhathi sesigaba esibalulekile empilweni yabo, bakhetha ukwakha inkolelo ngabo ehluke kulokho abayikho ngempela, into engavamile kumuntu onengqondo elinganiselayo. Lokhu kuziphakamisa kusebenza njengendlela yokuzivikela ukuze bagweme ukubhekana nobuhlungu bokuzizwa bengelutho.
Kunomunye umbono we izimbangela zokuziphatha kobugovuLezi zindlela zihlobene nokuthambekela kokuthenga, njengemfashini eye yaholela abantu ekukholelweni ukuthi ukugqoka izingubo ezithile, ukuba nezinto ezithile, noma ukufeza impumelelo ethile yomphakathi kubenza babe ngcono kunabanye abangakwazi ukuzikhokhela. Isiko lempumelelo esheshayo kanye nomfanekiso kungaqinisa lezi zindlela.
Ngokombono wengqondo, izici ezilandelayo, phakathi kwezinye, ziqokonyiswa njengezingaba negalelo ekuthuthukisweni kobugovu:
- Ukuvikela ngokweqile kanye nokuntuleka kwemingcele Ebuntwaneni, lapho konke kuvunyelwe khona ngengane, ibekwa esicongweni futhi ayifundiswa ukubekezelela ukukhungatheka.
- Izidingo eziningi kakhulu okuhambisana nokunconywa okunemibandela: ingane ihlonishwa kuphela uma iphumelela noma iphumelela, okuholela ekuhlanganiseni ukubaluleka kwayo nempumelelo yangaphandle.
- Amamodeli omndeni ozimelelapho abantu abadala bebazonda abanye, bekholelwa ukuthi bangcono kunabo bonke, noma besebenzisa abanye njengamathuluzi.
- Imiphakathi ethanda kakhulu ukuzimela futhi encintisanayo, okuvuza kakhulu ukubukeka, amandla kanye nempumelelo, futhi kwenze kube lula ukuziphatha kobugovu nokungazwelani.
Nakuba kuzo zombili izimo, kungaba ngenxa yokuswela ngokomzwelo noma ukuvikela ngokweqile, lezi zinkinga zivame ukuhlotshaniswa nohlobo lwendlela yokuzivikela eyenziwe ngokwakho, eyakhelwe ukwenza abantu bazizwe bengalimele ngokubaphatha njengabantu ababaluleke kakhulu emhlabeni. Le ndlela inomsebenzi wokuvikela, kodwa iba udonga oluthi Kuvimbela ubuqiniso kanye nokusondelana ngokomzwelo.
Ungambona kanjani umuntu ozikhukhumezayo?
Umthetho wokuqala wokuqaphela omunye walaba bantu ukuqonda ubuntu bakhe nokuziphatha kwakhe, njengoba benezici ezifanayo ezingabonakala kalula. Abantu abaningi bomlando nabanamuhla banobugovu, okwenza umsebenzi ube lula kakhulu. Endabeni yalabo abahilelekile embonini yezokuzijabulisa, ubugovu bungaba wusizo maqondana nokubonakala kanye nomsebenzi womphakathi, ngoba kuyingxenye yamasu abo obuchwepheshe okuzikhangisa.
Kubalulekile ukungadidanisi umuntu ozidlayo nomuntu ozethembayo nje. Umuntu ozethembayo angavikela imibono yakhe futhi aveze impumelelo yakhe, kodwa uyahlala uzwela, ukuzigxeka, kanye nenhlonipho kwabanye. Ukuzikhukhumeza, ngakolunye uhlangothi, kuqashelwa ngokuhlanganiswa kokuzikhukhumeza, isidingo sokunconywa, kanye nobunzima bokuzibeka endaweni yabanye.
Izici ezi-10 ezivamile
Ukuthola ngokunembile umuntu walolu hlobo, kuyadingeka ukwazi ezinye zezindlela zokuziphatha ezivame kakhulu nezimo zengqondo ezivame ukuziveza, ngakho-ke eziyishumi zazo zizokhonjiswa ngezansi:
- wakhe ukungabekezeleli ukugxekwa Futhi, uma bethola noma yimuphi umbono ngabo, bangase bawuthathe kabi.
- Imizwa yobukhulu ihlala ikhona futhi ine- umbono wempilo yabo ohlobene nempumelelo izindawo ezinhle kakhulu kakade.
- Bayazeqisa izimfanelo namakhono abo, bebabeka ngaphezu kwawabanye abantu, ngisho noma bengenalo ulwazi oluqondile olusekela lokho.
- Ungabona ifayili le- ukungabi naluzwelaokubenza babe nezimo zengqondo ezingenabuntu zokunikeza usizo noma ukuqonda kwabanye.
- Bangabantu abathanda kakhulu ukubonisa abanye, ngoba bazizwa benokuzethemba okukhulu lapho bebonisa wonke umuntu ukuthi bayazi ukuthi yini abayifezile empilweni yabo yonke, kungaba impumelelo yezinto ezibonakalayo noma yobungcweti.
- Laba ngabantu abangenasithakazelo ebudlelwaneni obujulile phakathi kwabantu, ngoba okuwukuphela kwento abacabanga ngayo yibo uqobo lwabo. inhlalakahle yezomnotho neyezinto ezibonakalayo noma ukuthi ubudlelwano bungafeza kanjani imigomo yabo.
- Imvamisa hlanekezela iqiniso maqondana nokuzibona kwabo, ngenhloso yokuhlala bengaphezu kwalokho okulindelwe yilabo ababazungezile, kanye nokudala imizwa yomona.
- Banezimfanelo ezinhle emphakathini futhi bangase babonakale bekhanga, yize ngokuvamile begcina bebodwa ngoba izimo zabo zengqondo zixosha abantu ababazungezile, njengoba becasula kakhulu futhi becasula.
- Bazizwa benamathele kakhulu kuzo zonke izici eziqinisa isithombe somuntu ophumelelayo, njengezimpawu zamandla, ukunethezeka noma ithonya, abalandela cishe njengenkolo.
- Intshisekelo yokuhlangana nabantu abakholelwa ukuthi ingabasiza ukuthi bathuthuke isimo senhlalo Kukhulu kakhulu, futhi bavame ukwakha izibopho eziwusizo kunokuba zibe yizibopho ezithinta inhliziyo.
Ukuzikhukhumeza kuye kwabonwa kubantu abaningi bomlando, noma ngabe babengaziwa ngempumelelo enkulu ngempela, kodwa basebenza njengezibonelo ezinhle. Lokhu kufaka phakathi u-Adolf Hitler, uJoseph Stalin, uGenghis Khan, noNapoleon Bonaparte, abamlando wabo wembula eziningi zalezi zici. Njengamanje, izici zobugovu nazo zihlotshaniswa nabantu abahlukahlukene bomphakathi abathi Balawula ukunaka kwabezindaba ngenkulumo yabo egxile kobugovu.
Umehluko phakathi kwe-ego, i-egotry, i-narcissism, kanye nokuzihlonipha
Akuwona wonke umuntu ozithandayo ozikhukhumezayo. Eqinisweni, ukuzethemba okunempilo kuyinkomba yokuthi... impilo yengqondoNakuba ubugovu buvame ukufihla ukungazethembi okujulile. Ukuze ugweme ukudideka kwale mibono, kuyasiza ukucacisa umehluko obalulekile:
- Ukuzethemba okunempiloKuhilela ukuzamukela ngezimfanelo ezinhle nezingalungile, ukwazi ukubeka imingcele nokuhlonipha imingcele yabanye, ngaphandle kokudinga ukuhlazisa noma ukuxhaphaza noma ubani.
- I-Egotism: igxila empilweni esithombeni nasedumeleni lomuntu, idinga ukunconywa njalo, futhi ihambisana ukuzigxeka okuncane kanye nozwela oluncane.
- Ukuzikhukhumeza okubangelwa yizifoUma izici zobugovu ziqinile kakhulu, ziqinile, futhi zibangela ukuphazamiseka okukhulu empilweni yomuntu siqu, emsebenzini, kanye nasemphakathini, kungabhekwa njengesifo sobuntu esizicabangela ngokweqile, ukuxilongwa kwezokwelapha okudinga ukuhlolwa kochwepheshe.
Nakuba ukuzethemba kwakhiwa ngaphakathi, ubugovu kanye nokuzikhukhumeza ngokuyinhloko kukhuthazwa... imvume yangaphandle, kusukela ekuqhathanisweni kanye nesifiso sokuhlala uphakeme kunabanye.
Ukukhonzwa kweqanda ngenxa yemfundo embi
Lokhu kuziphatha kungabuye kwenziwe ngu ukunganakwa kwezingane Ngesikhathi besebancane, kanye nangokuyekelela ngokweqile, izingane zivame ukungalaleli, zithuthukise imizwa yokuba phezulu ngisho nakubazali bazo. Uma zingafundiswa ukuhlonipha imithetho noma ukucabangela imizwa yabanye, zingase zifake umqondo wokuthi umhlaba kufanele uzungeze zona.
Indlela yokukhulisa izingane evumela kakhulu ingaholela ezinkingeni ezifana nalokho okubizwa ngokuthi "i-emperor syndrome," lapho ingane idelela lonke igunya, yenza ngokunganaki, futhi ingakwazi ukwamukela "cha" njengempendulo. Uma lolu hlobo lokuguquguquka luqhubeka, lusengozini yokuzinza. ubuntu obunobugovu okuthi, lapho umuntu esekhulile, kubonakale njengokuzikhukhumeza.
Lezi zinhlobo zokuziphatha zingaba zimbi kakhulu uma kuqhathaniswa nalokho okushiwo ukuhlala ndawonye emphakathini noma emphakathini; lokhu kungenxa yokuthi zonke lezi zimo zengqondo zivame ukubacasula kakhulu futhi zicasule abantu abasendaweni yabo yezenhlalo. Ubudlelwano bugcina buyinto embi kakhulu. okungasho lutho, okungqubuzanayo, futhi okunganelisi, kokubili kumuntu ozidlayo kanye nalabo abamzungezile.
Abantu abanobugovu bavame ukuba bodwa, yize lokhu kubonakala kungabakhathazi kakhulu ngoba imigomo nezinhloso zabo zigxile kakhulu ekuzithuthukiseni kwabo kanye nenhlalakahle yabo yezezimali. Kodwa-ke, ezimweni eziningi, lokhu kwaneliseka okubonakalayo kuyisimo esifihla ingxabano yangaphakathi ejulile. ukwesaba ukwaliwa Kakade babonisa ubuthakathaka, okwenza kube nzima ngabo ukucela usizo noma ukungabaza indlela abaxhumana ngayo.
Uma ukuzikhukhumeza kubangela ukuhlupheka okukhulu kuwe noma kwabanye, kungase kube ngcono ukubonisana nochwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo. Ngokwelashwa, kungenzeka ukuxazulula inkinga. ukuzigxeka okwakhayouzwela, ukulawula ngokomzwelo kanye nezindlela zokucabanga ezisontekile, okuvumela umuntu ukuthi akhulule kancane kancane leso sithombe sakhe esiqinile futhi akhe ubudlelwano obunempilo nobungokoqobo.
Ukuqonda ukuthi ubugovu buyini, ukuthi buqala kanjani, nokuthi bubonakala kanjani empilweni yansuku zonke kusisiza hhayi nje kuphela ukuba sikuqaphele kwabanye kodwa futhi nokubona izimo zengqondo ezincane zobugovu kithi ezingalungiswa. Lokhu kukhuthaza ubudlelwano obunenhlonipho nobulinganiselayo, lapho ukunakekela inhlalakahle yomuntu siqu kungahambisani nenhlonipho nokucabangela izidingo zabanye.