Wake wezwa igama elithi "proactive" futhi wazibuza ukuthi ungalisebenzisa kanjani ngempela empilweni yakho yansuku zonke? Uma ungakaze ulizwe ngaphambili, noma uma unolwazi oluncane ngalo, manje yisikhathi esihle sokulihlanganisa empilweni yakho. Ukuba matasa kuzokusiza ukufeza imigomo yakho, uthuthukise inhlalakahle yakho, futhi uqaphele kakhulu izinqumo zakho kuzo zonke izici: umsebenzi, ubudlelwano, impilo, kanye nokukhula komuntu siqu.
Uma kuvela isimo esingalindelekile, kunezindlela ezimbili zokwenza okuthile: ukusola izimo bese ulinda ngokulangazela ukuthi omunye umuntu enze okuthile, noma uhlaziye isimo ngokuthula bese ukhetha ukuthi uzosabela kanjani ngesikhathi nangendlela efanele. Lolu hlobo lwesibili lokucabanga yilokho esikubiza ngokuthi ukuqikelela.
Ukuba ngumuntu othatha isinyathelo kuqala kusho ukuthembela ezinqumweni zakho nokuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo esikhundleni sokushiya izinto ngengozi nasezimweni. Kumayelana nokuthatha isinyathelo kuqala nokugxila kulokho ongakuthonya , kunokubanjwa yilokho okungaphezu kwamandla akho. Ngamanye amazwi, kumayelana nokulawula indlela osabela ngayo empilweni, noma ngabe awukwazi ukulawula yonke imicimbi.
Umuntu othatha isinyathelo kuqala ungumxazululi wezinkinga omuhle, ngisho noma kungekho muntu omcelile. Abaphenduli nje kuphela; balindela, bavimbele, futhi baphakamise izixazululo . Le ndlela yokwenza akuyona nje isimo sengqondo; futhi iyikhono elingathuthukiswa futhi lisetshenziswe njalo.
Ukuhlakulela ukusebenza ngokuzikhandla kuhilela ukuzazi, ukuhlela, ukuthatha isinyathelo, ukufunda kokuhlangenwe nakho, nokugcina ingqondo evulekile nenesibopho . Thola amakhono akho okuzikhandla, noma ngabe okwamanje uzizwa sengathi afihliwe. Okudingayo nje izinyathelo ezimbalwa ezicacile, ukuzijwayeza nsuku zonke, kanye nokuzimisela ukuyeka ukuphila ngokuzenzakalelayo.
Kusho ukuthini ngempela ukuba ngumuntu othatha isinyathelo kuqala?
Ukuzilungiselela, ngokuyinhloko, kuwukuthambekela kokubikezela nokwenza okuthile ngokuphendula izenzakalo zesikhathi esizayo. Akukhona ukuba nazo zonke izimpendulo, kodwa kunalokho ukuzimisela ukuzifuna esikhundleni sokubhajwa noma ukukhononda. Kuhilela indlela esebenzayo yokuphila lapho wenza khona izinqumo eziqondile zokubumba ikusasa lakho esikhundleni sokumane usabela kulokho okwenzekayo.
Ukuba ngumuntu othatha isinyathelo kuqala kufana nomthwalo wemfanelo womuntu siqu : ukuqaphela ukuthi ungummeleli oyinhloko woshintsho empilweni yakho. Akusho ukuthi ulawula konke okwenzekayo, kodwa kunalokho ulawula indlela osabela ngayo, lokho okwenzayo ngalokho okwenzekayo kuwe, nendlela osebenzisa ngayo amandla akho . Kukhona isikhala phakathi kwalokho okwenzekayo nokusabela kwakho, futhi kuleso sikhala ukhetha impendulo yakho.
Le ndlela idinga umbono ocacile wemigomo yakho kanye nezindinganiso zakho , kanye nokuzimisela ukwenza ngokuvumelana nazo. Iphinde ihilele ukuguquguquka: akukhona mayelana nokuba nohlelo oluqinile lwazo zonke izimo, kodwa mayelana nokulungiselela ukuzivumelanisa nezimo ngendlela yokudala neyakhayo lapho izimo zishintsha.
Ukuzikhandla kuzibonakalisa ezimweni eziningi: ekuhleleni kusengaphambili, ekuvimbeleni izinkinga, ekufuneni ngenkuthalo amathuba okukhula komuntu siqu nangokomsebenzi, endleleni ophatha ngayo imizwa yakho, kanye nendlela okhulisa ngayo ubudlelwano bakho. Akuyona nje ikhono lomsebenzi ; kuyindlela yokuphila.
Wonke umuntu unamandla okuthatha isinyathelo , yize umuntu ngamunye ekuchaza ngendlela ehlukile. Ungase ube ngumuntu othatha isinyathelo emsebenzini, kodwa ube ngumuntu othatha isinyathelo ebudlelwaneni bakho noma uma kukhulunywa ngempilo yakho. Yingakho ukuzibuka kubalulekile ekuboneni izindawo lapho isimo sengqondo esisebenzayo nesinomthwalo wemfanelo singakuzuzisa khona.
Imiphumela yokungakhuthazi
Uma ukungabi nandaba kanye nokusabela ngendlela efanele kubusa impilo yakho, imiphumela iyanqwabelana kancane kancane. Esinye sezici ezivame kakhulu umuzwa wokuzulazula , njengokungathi konke kuncike enhlanhleni, kwabanye, noma ezimweni. Lokhu kuvame ukuhambisana nokukhungatheka, inzondo, kanye nomuzwa wokuthi uhlala wephuze kakhulu amathuba.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuntuleka kokukhuthala kunomthelela oqondile empilweni yakho yengqondo neyomzimba . Uma uzizwa sengathi awunawo amandla okulawula impilo yakho, ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka kuyakhula. Kuvamile ukwamukela isimo sengqondo sesisulu : ukubona izenzakalo njengento eyenzeka kuwe futhi ongenakuyithonya. Lo mbono unciphisa ukuqina kwakho, ikhono lakho lokuxazulula izinkinga, kanye nenhlalakahle yakho iyonke.
Ebudlelwaneni bakho, ukungenzi lutho nakho kuyalimaza. Ukwehluleka ukuthatha indima esebenzayo kungaholela ekunganaki ukuxhumana okubalulekile , ukungazivezi izidingo zakho, noma ukungaxazululi izingxabano ngesikhathi esifanele. Lokhu kunciphisa ikhwalithi yobudlelwano, futhi uphuthelwa amathuba okuxhumana okujulile nokukhula kokubili.
Emkhakheni wobungcweti, ukusabela ngendlela eqondile kunciphisa ithonya lakho kanye nokwethenjwa. Ukwehluleka ukulindela izinkinga, ukungaphakamisi imibono, nokwenza okuncane kakhulu ngokuvamile kuholela ekuqashelweni okuncane, ekukhuleni okuncane, kanye nomuzwa omkhulu wokungahlali ndawonye.
Ngakho-ke, uma ufisa impilo enenjongo, ezolile, nekhiqizayo kakhudlwana, ukuhlakulela ukusebenza ngokuzikhandla akuyona into yokunethezeka, kuyisidingo . Ukushintsha kwendlela yokucabanga okuguqula "Angikwazi ukwenza lutho" kube "lokho engingakwenza njengamanje."
Gxila kusixazululo hhayi enkingeni ukuze usebenze
Ukuxazulula noma iyiphi inkinga kungaba yinto engenakwenzeka uma ugxila kuphela kokungahambi kahle. Uma ugxila ekulimaleni, ekusolweni, noma ekwesabeni , amandla akho ayaphela futhi ikhono lakho lokwenza okuthile liyavinjelwa. Isinyathelo sokuqala sokuba ngumuntu othatha isinyathelo kuqala ukushintsha ukunaka kwakho ngamabomu: kusukela ekukhonondeni kuya ekutholeni izixazululo.
Ungazigxeki ngendlela ebhubhisayo noma uhlale usola abanye. Lawo mandla awalungisi lutho futhi akushiya uzizwa ungenamandla. Kuwusizo kakhulu ukuzibuza ukuthi yini ongayifunda kulesi simo nokuthi yisiphi isinyathelo sokuqala esiqondile ongasithatha ukuze usithuthukise, noma ngabe sincane kangakanani.
Akunangqondo futhi ukutshala umzamo wakho ezintweni ezingaphandle kwamandla akho. Lapho ugxila kakhulu kulokho ongenakukushintsha, kulapho ukhungatheka khona kakhulu . Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma ugxila "esiyingini sakho sethonya" (lokho ongakushintsha: imikhuba yakho, isimo sakho sengqondo, indlela yakho yokuxhumana, ukulungiselela kwakho), umuzwa wakho wokusebenza kahle uyakhula.
Yamukela ukuthi impilo igcwele izithiyo, izinselele, kanye nezinguquko ezingalindelekile. Okwenza umehluko isimo sakho sengqondo : lezi zinkinga zingaba izindonga noma izinselele ezingenakunqotshwa ezikushukumisela ukuba ukhule. Abantu abaphumelelayo nabazimisele ukubhekana nezinkinga babhekana nezinkinga ngempumelelo enkulu ngoba bathuthukise amakhono okuxazulula izinkinga kanye nesimo sengqondo esigxile esenzweni.
Ukuzibuza ngendlela ehlelekile ukuthi "yini engingayenza njengamanje" esikhundleni sokuthi "kungani lokhu kwenzeka kimi" kungenye yezisekelo zokuguqula indlela obhekana ngayo nezinselele.
Zethembe futhi uthathe umthwalo wemfanelo
Ukushiya izinqumo zakho ezibalulekile ezandleni zabanye noma ukulinda othile ukuba akusize kungenye yezindlela ezisheshayo zokuvimbela ukuqhubekela phambili kwakho. Uma uhlala ucabanga ukuthi ngomunye umuntu okufanele enze ushintsho noma axazulule izinkinga zakho , uzosala ungenandawo yangempela yokwenza izinto.
Kuyiqiniso ukuthi umndeni wakho, abangani, noma ozakwabo bangakusekela, kodwa umthwalo wemfanelo wokugcina wempilo yakho ungowakho . Ukuthatha isinyathelo kusho ukushiya induduzo yokukhononda bese uqala ukuthatha izinyathelo, noma ngabe zincane kangakanani, eziya kulokho okufunayo.
Khumbula ukuthi indlela esheshayo nephumelelayo kakhulu yokuqhubekela phambili ukusebenza ngenkuthalo kuwe . Ungacela usizo futhi uthembele kwabanye, kodwa udinga ukugcina indima eholayo entuthukweni yakho. Yeka ukuthembela enhlanhleni njengesikhuthazi sakho esiyinhloko bese uqala ukuthembela emandleni akho okuzimisela, ikhono lakho lokufunda, kanye nokuzithiba kwakho.
Ungalindi ukuthi "umzuzu ophelele" uqale. Noma yimuphi umzuzu ungaba ngofanele uma ukhetha ukuwusebenzisa . Impumelelo ivame ukufika kulabo abaqhubekela phambili naphezu kobunzima, hhayi kulabo abalinda ukuthi konke kube semseni wabo ngaphambi kokuthatha isinyathelo. Isifiso esinamandla asanele: udinga ukuguqula leso sifiso sibe isenzo esiqhubekayo.
Lokhu kuzethemba akusho ukukholelwa ukuthi awusoze wenza amaphutha, kodwa kunalokho ukwazi ukuthi ungafunda kuzo zonke izinyathelo futhi ulungise inkambo yakho kaningi ngangokunokwenzeka. Yilokho amandla angaphakathi angempela omuntu othatha isinyathelo.
Hlaziya izinyathelo okufanele uzithathe ngaphambi kokuthatha isinyathelo
Ukwenza izinto ngokuphamazela, ngaphandle kokucabangela imiphumela, kuholela emiphumeleni engahleliwe futhi evame ukudumaza. Ukushesha akukhona ukwenza okuningi ngaphandle kokucabanga, kodwa ukucabanga ngokucophelela ukuze wenze izinto ngendlela ephumelela kakhudlwana . Isici esibalulekile somuntu osheshayo yikhono lakhe lokuhlaziya isimo nokuklama uhlelo lwesenzo olungokoqobo.
Ngaphambi kokuthatha isinyathelo, zinike imizuzu embalwa ukuhlola isimo bese uzibuza ukuthi kuzokwenzekani uma ukhetha enye noma enye. Sebenzisa amakhono akho okuhlaziya, futhi uma uzizwa ungenawo, sebenzela ukuwathuthukisa : funda, cela imibono, bhala phansi imibono, qhathanisa ezinye izindlela. Uma inkinga inkulu kakhulu, kulapho ukuhlaziya kwakho kufanele kube ngokujulile khona.
Umuntu othatha isinyathelo uzama ukubikezela izimo ezingaba khona, ezinhle nezimbi. Ukucabanga ngokuziphatha kwabanye abantu, izikhathi zokugcina, izinsiza ezitholakalayo, kanye nezingozi ezingaba khona kukusiza ukuthi wenze izinqumo ezingcono ngezinyathelo zakho ezilandelayo.
Esikhundleni sokuzama ukuxazulula konke ngesikhathi esisodwa, kungcono ukuklama izinyathelo ezincane neziqondile . Ngale ndlela ungalawula kangcono okwenzekayo, ulungise indlela uma okuthile kungasebenzi, futhi ugweme ukuzizwa ukhungathekile. Uhlelo oluguquguqukayo olunezigaba ezicacile lunikeza isakhiwo ngaphandle kokudela indawo yokuzivumelanisa nezimo.
Kubalulekile futhi ukuqonda ukuthi ukwehluleka kuzokwenzeka nakanjani, noma ngabe uhlela konke ngokucophelela. Ukwenza amaphutha akusho ukuthi awuqali ; kusho ukuthi usohambweni lokufunda. Iphutha ngalinye likusiza ukuthi ubone ukuthi yini okudingeka uyishintshe esikhathini esizayo, futhi lolo lwazi lubaluleke kakhulu uma ulusebenzisa ngokuhlakanipha.
Zibekele imigomo enengqondo nenenjongo
Akukho lutho olungalungile ngokuphupha okukhulu; empeleni, kuyadingeka ukwandisa umbono wakho. Kodwa-ke, ukuphupha ngaphandle kokuhumusha lawo maphupho abe yimigomo efinyelelekayo kungaba umthombo wokukhungatheka. Amaphupho akho angase abe aphezulu, kodwa udinga ukuwaguqula abe yimigomo enethuba langempela lokufezeka.
Ukuphila kuyigugu kakhulu ukuthi ungakuchitha ucabanga nje ukuthi kungaba yini. Uma ufuna okuthile, udinga ukukuguqula kube uhlelo olunezinyathelo ezithile . Indlela enhle iwukuhlukanisa iphupho elikhulu libe imigomo emincane, njengezingcezu zephazili. Uma lezo zingcezu zincane, kulula ukuzithola nokuzibeka endaweni yazo.
Izazi zengqondo zikhomba ukuthi imigomo engenakwenzeka ivame ukuholela ekudumazekeni, okunciphisa ugqozi lokubeka imigomo emisha. Ngokuphambene nalokho, imigomo engokoqobo ikhulisa ukuzethemba kwakho namandla okuqhubeka uthuthuka. Yonke impumelelo, noma ngabe ibukeka incane kangakanani, iqinisa ubuwena bakho njengomuntu onekhono nophikelelayo.
Kungasiza ukusebenzisa izindlela ezinjengokuba nemigomo ecacile nelinganisekayo, ukwazi ukulandelela intuthuko yakho, nokuqinisekisa ukuthi ibalulekile kuwe. Into ebalulekile ukuthi ixhumane nezindinganiso zakho kanye nombono wakho ngempilo , hhayi nje ngokulindelwe kwangaphandle. Uma umgomo ubaluleke ngempela kuwe, kulula kakhulu ukuhlala ungaguquguquki.
Khumbula injabulo oyizwayo lapho ufeza into obuyihlose ukuyenza futhi ungasho ukuthi, "Ngikwenzile." Lokho kwaneliseka kungenye yezinto ezinamandla kakhulu ezikhuthaza ukucabanga okusebenzayo.
Hlala uvumelana nalokho okushoyo nalokho okwenzayo.
Ukungaguquguquki phakathi kwamazwi akho nezenzo zakho kungenye yezimpawu ezicacile zokushesha ukwenza izinto. Uma uthembisa okuningi futhi ufeza okuncane, abanye balahlekelwa ukukwethemba , futhi nawe uzizwe ungaguquguquki. Lokhu kungaguquguquki kudala ukuphazamiseka, umuzwa wecala, kanye nomuzwa wokuntula ukulawula.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma ufunda ukwenza lokho okushoyo, amakhono akho okuphatha isikhathi ayathuthuka, uthatha izithembiso zakho ngokungathi sína, futhi uqala ukuzibona njengothembekile . Lelo dumela, kokubili emehlweni abanye nasemehlweni akho, liqinisa ukuzethemba kwakho kanye nekhono lakho lokuthonya abanye.
Ukungaguquguquki akusho ukuqina ngokuphelele, kodwa kunalokho ukufeza izibopho zakho ngaphakathi kwemingcele engokoqobo . Ukuze ufeze lokhu, gwema ukuthi yebo kukho konke. Ngaphambi kokuthembisa into ethile, hlola ukuthi unayo yini isikhathi, amandla, kanye nezinsiza zokuyenza. Ukubeka izinsuku zokugcina ezifanele kubalulekile ekugwemeni ukunqwabelana ngokweqile nokukwazi ukumelana nezinqumo zakho.
Uma ufuna ukuba ngumuntu othatha isinyathelo, kokubili ezithembisweni ozenza kwabanye kanye nalabo ozenzela bona, kuwukuhlakanipha ukuguqula amazwi akho abe uhlobo lwesivumelwano sangaphakathi. Uma uthi uzokwenza okuthile, kwenze ngaphandle kokuthi kukhona amandla amakhulu ; futhi uma uqaphela ukuthi wenze iphutha esithembisweni sakho, khuluma ngoshintsho ngokwethembeka.
Uma uhlakulela ukuvumelana okwengeziwe, kuzoba lula ukuthi indawo okuyo ikuthathe ngokungathi sína, amaphrojekthi akho aqhubekele phambili, nokuthi izwi lakho langaphakathi libe umngane, hhayi umthombo wokuhlanjalazwa.
Bamba iqhaza ngenkuthalo futhi uyeke ukuba ngumqapheli ongenzi lutho
Umqondo wokuthatha isinyathelo ngokwemvelo uthuthukisa amakhono obuholi , ngisho noma ungenaso isikhundla esisemthethweni. Kuye ngokuthi uhlanganyela kanjani ezingxoxweni, kumaphrojekthi, noma ezinqumweni, ungaba nomthelela omuhle emiphumeleni noma uhlale eceleni, ubukele abanye bekwenzela izinqumo.
Esikhundleni sokumane uphendule ezixazululweni eziphakanyiswe abanye, qiniseka ukuthi unikeza okubonile, imibono, kanye neziphakamiso zakho . Umuntu othatha isinyathelo akahlali engenandaba nalokho okudingeka kuxazululwe eqenjini; udlala indima ebalulekile ekutholeni ezinye izindlela.
Ukuze ufeze lokhu, udinga ukunqoba amahloni noma ukwesaba ukwenza amaphutha. Ukwabelana ngalokho okubonayo, noma ngabe akuphelele, kuvula amathuba okuthuthuka abengeke abe khona ukube ubuthule. Umbono wakho ungase ube yilokho kanye okudingekayo ukuze iphrojekthi iqhubekele phambili noma ingxabano ixazululwe.
Ukuhlanganyela ngenkuthalo kusho nokuzimisela ukulalela. Ukuzikhandla akukhona ukuphoqelela imibono yakho, kodwa kumayelana nokufaka isandla nokwakha ndawonye . Ukubuza imibuzo, ukufuna ukucaciswa, nokunikeza usizo kuyizenzo ezilula ezibonisa isinyathelo sokuqala kanye nomthwalo wemfanelo owabiwe.
Njengoba uqeqesha ingqondo yakho ematasa, uzobona izinguquko ezindaweni eziningi: ukungaguquguquki okukhulu emikhubeni yakho (njengokuzivocavoca umzimba, ukutadisha, noma ukuphumula ngokwanele), ukulula kokugcina izithembiso zakho, ukuxhumana okungcono nabantu ababalulekile kuwe, kanye nokuzethemba okuqinile njengoba uzibona ukwazi ukuthonya indawo okuyo. Uma ungumzali, ukwamukela isimo sengqondo sokusebenza ngokushesha kuzokusiza futhi ube yisibonelo esingcono futhi ukhulise izingane zakho ngokungaguquguquki nangomthwalo wemfanelo owengeziwe.
Izigaba nemikhuba yokuvusa ukusebenza kwakho
Ukuthuthukisa isimo sengqondo sokuthatha isinyathelo ngokushesha akwenzeki ngobusuku obubodwa. Ngokuvamile kulandela izigaba ezithile eziziphindayo njengoba uqinisa imikhuba emisha. Ukuqonda lezi zigaba kukusiza ukuba ube nesineke futhi wazi ukuthi ukuphi kule nqubo.
Isigaba sokuqala sihlobene nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kwangaphambilini . Uma ubulindele izingozi, unikeza imibono, noma ufuna izixazululo esikhathini esidlule, futhi leso simo sengqondo saziswa, cishe uzofuna ukusiphinda. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma imizamo yakho ingaqashelwanga noma yaze yagxekwa, mhlawumbe usufundile "ukungazixazululi izinto" futhi uhlale uthule. Ukuqaphela lokhu kukuvumela ukuthi uchaze kabusha lokho okuhlangenwe nakho bese ukhetha ukwenza ngendlela ehlukile manje.
Isigaba sesibili sisekelwe ohlelweni lwakho lokusebenza . Ukuze ube ngumuntu othatha isinyathelo kakhudlwana, udinga injongo ecacile: qonda ukuthi kungani ushintsho luzuzisa, ukuthi yini ofuna ukuyithuthukisa, nokuthi yini oyitholayo kulo. Ngaphandle kokuxhumana okuqinile nemigomo yakho yokugcina, kunzima ukuqhubeka nomzamo. Zibuze ukuthi iyiphi indawo empilweni yakho edinga isinyathelo esengeziwe kuwe nokuthi imuphi umthelela omuhle okungaba nawo.
Isigaba sesithathu sihlobene nokuthi ukhetha kangaki ukuba ngumuntu othatha isinyathelo kuqala . Akwanele ukwenza ngendlela efanele kanye bese ubuyela ku-autopilot. Ukuze isenzo sokuqala sibe umkhuba, udinga ukusisebenzisa ngendlela ehlelekile, njengendlela evamile yokuphendula izithiyo namathuba.
Kusukela lapho, imikhuba yansuku zonke iyaqala ukusebenza: indlela okhuluma ngayo nawe, lokho okwenzayo lapho kuphakama inkinga, indlela ophatha ngayo isikhathi sakho, indlela osingatha ngayo imizwa yakho, nendlela onquma ngayo ukuthi uzogxilisa ukunaka kwakho kuphi. Yonke inketho encane iqinisa noma ibuthakathaka indlela yakho yokucabanga ethatha isinyathelo . Ngokuzijwayeza njalo, le ndlela yokuphila ayibe umzamo oqaphile futhi iba yingxenye yemvelo yalokho oyikho.
Ukuhlanganisa isimo sengqondo sokuthatha isinyathelo esisheshayo enkambisweni yakho kukuvumela ukuthi uyeke ukuphupha ngaphandle kwemiphumela bese uqala ukwenza ngenhloso yokusondela empilweni oyifunayo, isinyathelo ngesinyathelo kanye nomthwalo wemfanelo womuntu siqu.